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| anonymous | Posted: Mar 20, 2007 08:44:32 AM
For the sake of all of the babies and birthmothers out there, thank goodness there are not such stringent rules in place. I can see where one might have this point of view about the type of child that 90% of couples seem to be fighting over (there is a large pool of good parents waiting to choose from), but it certainly wouldn't do justice to all of the other babies and mothers out there that don't fit that mold. My heart goes out to everyone battling with infertility, but other adoptive parents are not stealing babies, nor are they the enemy. They too are just good people looking to expand their families through adoption.
With that said, isn't it great that we live in a country where it's okay to have this discussion and so many people are beginning to see adoption as a "normal" process, unlike the skeleton everyone tried to hide not so long ago?
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| Anonymous | Posted: Mar 07, 2007 01:07:07 PM
While everyone has a right to do as they wish, the cost of adoption and wait time is driven up by the number if couples. The supply is much smaller than the demand or it would be quicker and cheaper. As part of an infertile couple, I agree with the original post which does not sound like it intends to say bad things about fertile couples. Obviously their hearts are in the right place and they feel led to adopt,whihc is a beautiful process. I just think adoption of newborns should be limited to couples who cannot have children. If I could have children, I would not feel right taking a child away from a couple who could not have children. Everyone deserves that opportunity.
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| Mary | Posted: Feb 15, 2007 06:17:37 PM
I agree with the previous reply. Couples adopt for all sorts or reasons. Making any sweeping generalizations is unfair- to all adoptive parents, regardless of fertility issues. And, if you look at what the expenses of adoption really are, you'll see that adoptive couples are not "driving them up." I would hope that everyone involved in adoption could just see it as a difficult, but wonderful process and support each other.
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| Kristen | Posted: Feb 13, 2007 06:51:52 PM
I guess I think that everyone deserves a chance to build their family in any way that they can. The paths we choose are very personal, and they are hardly ever a straight line, but rather with twists and turns we could never have predicted back when we started. The things we have to go through are all different, and all stressful, and many of us have a lot of heartbreak to work through along the way. I don't think other adoptive families are the enemy here, nor do they deserve any anger or resentment. We each make the choices we can with the hand life has dealt to us. Let us be happy for ANYone who gets the gift of becoming a parent. But even more, let us be overjoyed for each CHILD who is placed into a loving and forever family.
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| Anonymous | Posted: Feb 07, 2007 01:54:04 PM
I was wondering how you all felt about this. My husband and I cannot have children, so part of me thinks it is selfish of couples who can have children to want to adopt infants, which increases cost and wait time for the rest of us. I think it is great they want to adopt, but why don't they go for older children or overseas even. I know their heart is in the right place, but why should they get a baby over an infertile couple.
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