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Can You Put Your Child Up for Adoption While in the Military?

Women and men in the U.S. military have found themselves unexpectedly pregnant and unprepared to raise their baby, leading them to ask, “How do I put my baby up for adoption if I’m active duty military?”

If you’re in the U.S. military and considering adoption for your baby, we can help. Whether that’s helping you explore your options or helping you to create an adoption plan that you’re comfortable with for your child, we’re here to provide you with the information, support and resources you need.

Here’s what you need to know about giving your baby up for adoption in the Army, Navy, Marine Corps, Coast Guard or Air Force:

There are Always Options for U.S. Military Members

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy in the military, you have three options, just as everyone does:

Not sure that adoption is the right path for you? You can always contact us to receive free information about all of your unplanned pregnancy options, with no obligation to continue with the adoption process. Also consider asking for information at your local military hospital or clinic.

Remember that you always have options. That also extends to parents who are currently raising a child, but no longer feel that they’re able to care for their child. However, if you’re currently raising a child and feel that you’re no longer able to care for him or her, the age of your child may affect which options are available to you. For example, our agency is only able to work with infants and children younger than a few years old, so you may not always be able to place an older child for adoption through our agency. But you may be able to place your child with a trusted friend or family member in a relative adoption, or arrange a temporary guardianship until you can get to a more stable point in your life and you feel more able to parent your child.

Contact us now to learn more about the options that may be available to you in your individual situation.

Choosing Adoption in the Military

You can always choose adoption for your baby if you’re in the U.S. military. You have the right to do what you feel is best for your child, and if you feel that placing him or her with adoptive parents who love them is what’s best, then we’ll help you to find the perfect family.

A few prospective birth parents have asked, “Can you put your child up for adoption while in the military and deployed overseas?” During the planning stages, yes. But if you’re a pregnant woman stationed overseas and are making an adoption plan for your baby with us, you’ll need to return to the U.S. for the birth and placement, so you’ll likely want to make those travel arrangements.

The Adoption Process for U.S. Military Members

The adoption process for active duty military members is the same as it is for any other prospective birth parent. Here’s how giving your baby up for adoption in the Army, Navy or any other branch of the military works:

  • Step 1: You’ll contact an adoption agency like American Adoptions to make an adoption plan. You’re 100 percent in control of your adoption plan.

  • Step 2: You’ll choose your baby’s future family. We’ve helped many military families to become parents through adoption, so you can even choose fellow U.S. military men and women to raise your baby, if you prefer. Whatever you’re looking for, we’ll help you find it. You can see some of our waiting families here.

  • Step 3: You can get to know the adoptive family before, during and after the adoption to whatever extent you feel comfortable with. This can involve phone calls, emails, letters and meeting in person. Nine out of ten birth parents choose to have an open adoption, so that they can continue to have a relationship with their child and their child’s family after the adoption. Again, that’s another option that’s available to you!

  • Step 4: When your baby is born, you’ll typically need to wait a minimum amount of time before you can legally give your consent to the adoption. That waiting period varies depending on which U.S. state you give birth in. It’s important to understand that adoption is final. When you sign your consent, you’re legally terminating your parental rights and placing your baby with their adoptive parents. A legal representative will be with you at this time to make sure you fully understand everything.

  • Step 5: After the adoption, remember that you can always seek counseling and emotional support through the military or through American Adoptions if you need help addressing the complicated emotions that birth parents often experience after placement. You can continue to have a relationship with your child and their family if you choose to have an open adoption, and communicate however you’re all comfortable with, even during periods of deployment.

Active duty military members who are considering placing a baby for adoption can always contact us for more information online.

If you’ve wonder what the options were for military members giving kids up for adoption, we can help. How do you get adoption hotline phone number in military? Right here: 1-800-ADOPTION.

Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. America Adoptions, Inc. provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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