Can I Place My 8-Month-Old Up for Adoption?
Why Adoption Will Always Be an Option
There’s a variety of reasons why a woman might start thinking about adoption after she’s left the hospital, and all of them are valid.
She could be in a situation where parenting isn’t financially feasible anymore. Maybe she started her pregnancy with a strong support network, but now she’s providing for her family as a single mother. She might just be in a situation where, after spending countless hours contemplating, she’s trying to figure out if parenting is the right fit for her. All of these situations and more can cause a woman to ask, “Can I start giving up a baby for adoption at 8 months with American Adoptions?”
If you are currently asking this question, the answer is yes. It’s never too late to choose adoption for your baby. We understand that this isn’t a decision that you can come to overnight. This likely isn’t your first time considering adoption, either.
If adoption is an idea that you keep coming back to, the best place to start is by contacting one of our trained adoption specialists. We have years of experience helping women in your situation. Whether it’s within a few weeks of your baby’s birth, or even eight months later, our agency can help connect you with invaluable resources for your adoption.
How Can I Think About Giving up My Baby for Adoption at 8 Months?
We know that adoption isn’t every woman’s first thought, as many people consider the idea of placing their child for adoption as “giving up” or “giving them away.” Many prospective birth mothers worry that their child will resent them as they grow up and end up labeling them as “bad parents.”
You should always remember that those thoughts couldn’t be further from the truth. When you place a child for adoption, you’re making the choice to give them life. Women make the courageous choice every day to choose adoption for their children out of pure love, and to give them their best shot at a better future.
Challenges of “Giving Up” a Baby for Adoption at 8 Months
Because you love your baby, it’s more than understandable that you’ll be concerned about what happens during and after the adoption. Because you’re placing an 8-month-old for adoption instead of a newborn, there are some unique challenges you’ll have to consider:
- You’re starting to see that your baby is getting clingier as they’re starting to realize that objects are, in fact, permanent.
- The birth father almost always has rights in an adoption. If he’s been involved in your or your child’s life, you’ll need to become familiar with what those rights are. The best way to bring up adoption with the birth father is by phone or in person. But if you need help, you can always ask your adoption specialist for assistance.
- You’ll have to talk about your adoption plan with family and friends, who might try to persuade you from your choice.
- Like the placement of any older child, if you’re considering placing an 8‐month‐old for adoption, your adoption specialist will need some specific background information on your child’s history which may be time-consuming to obtain depending on your situation.
These challenges aren’t meant to change your mind about adoption or make you feel guilty. These are just some aspects of adoption you’ll want to consider if you’re thinking about “giving up” a baby for adoption at 8 months. You’ll be able to talk about any additional concerns with your adoption specialist.
Will “Giving Up My Baby” for Adoption at 8 Months Be Difficult?
Although a little different, the process of placing an 8-month-old up for adoption will be similar to a newborn adoption. While emotionally difficult, both are actually relatively simple processes.
- Step 1: Contact an adoption agency. The first thing you’ll do is call 1-800-ADOPTION to speak with an adoption specialist. After listening to your situation and answering any questions you have, you’ll be asked to create an adoption plan and fill out social and medical history forms for yourself and your baby, as well as a form explaining the preferences you’d like to see in an adoptive family. Like we mentioned earlier, you’ll also need to help your adoption specialist:
- Obtain a copy of your child’s birth certificate
- See who is listed as the father on your child’s birth certificate
- Obtain medical records for your child
- Obtain documentation of where the child has lived from birth to present
- Assess who has had custody or care of the child from birth to present
- Determine who has provided financial and emotional support for this child from birth to present
- Obtain proof of child support provided by any father
- Step 2: Choose an adoptive family. Your adoption specialist will send you adoptive family profiles so you can begin searching for the perfect adoptive parents for your baby. Once you’ve picked the right family and gotten to know them, you’ll start talking about the amount of contact you’d like to have after the adoption. It’s highly recommended that both parties share as much information as possible. But if you don’t feel comfortable with that idea and would like to have less contact, you’ll still be able to find a family that meets your goals for an adoption.
- Step 3: Help your baby transition and consent to the adoption. Once everything is settled and you feel ready, you’ll need to need to sign your consent to the adoption. Depending on your circumstances and the adoptive family you choose, you may spend some time with the adoptive family prior to placement to help your baby transition. Your adoption specialist and adoption attorney will make sure you understand everything before signing away your parental rights.
There is plenty to know before “giving up a baby” for adoption at 8 months old. If you have any questions about the process, call 1-800-ADOPTION today to speak with one of our adoption specialists, or request more free information online.
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