If You Give Your Child Up for Adoption, Can You Still Have Contact with Them?
How Open Adoption Creates a Lifelong Bond
As you consider adoption for your child, you might be wondering, “Can you see your baby after placing them for adoption?” The answer is yes. Through open adoption, not only can you see your baby after placing them for adoption, but you can build a lifelong bond with your child and the adoptive family. Call 1-800-ADOPTION now to learn more about open adoption.
- “Will I see my baby after giving them up for adoption?”
- “If I give my baby up for adoption, can I see her as she grows up?”
- “If you give your child up for adoption, can you still have contact with them?”
- “If you give your baby up for adoption, can you see it again?”
You may be surprised to learn that the answer to all of these questions is yes.
Many women inexperienced with the process of adoption wonder about what happens after they place their child with an adoptive family, so questions about post-adoption contact are common. After all, many people still think of an outdated version of secretive, closed adoptions — in which a mother and her child share no contact or information after the adoption is complete.
Fortunately, adoptions are very different today. In the majority of modern adoptions, expectant mothers can set expectations for contact with their child after they are placed with an adoptive family.
This means if you “give your baby up” for adoption, you can see him or her again — and you can have a meaningful, positive relationship with your child as they grow up with their adoptive parents.
This process is known as open adoption. Call one of our adoption specialists at 1-800-ADOPTION to get more information on open adoption. If you’re ready to start your adoption journey, we can begin creating your open adoption birth plan followed by providing you with available family profiles. Information is also available online.
The following will further explain open adoption and how it can allow you to maintain an open connection with your child and the adoptive family for years to come.
What is Open Adoption? [How You Can Put Up a Child for Adoption When You Can Still Visit]
Often, prospective birth mothers ask, “When you give your babies up for adoption, are you allowed to see them?”
Not only are you allowed to see the child you place for adoption, but this post-adoption contact is encouraged by adoption professionals. Having a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents can help your child develop a strong, positive identity as an adoptee and will answer any questions they have grown up.
But, how do you “give a baby up” for adoption and still keep in contact? What does this relationship look like?
At its most general, open adoption is any adoption in which a birth mother and her child’s adoptive parents share contact. Open adoption contact can occur before, during and after the adoption process, and the type of contact shared is always determined by the preferences of the mother placing her child for adoption. What kind of open adoption you want will be determined in your adoption plan, which your adoption specialist will always help you create.
As you create your open adoption plan, you will determine what kind of contact you want. This can include:
- Pictures and letters mediated by your adoption specialist
- Emails and text messages
- Phone calls and video calls
- In-person visits
Choosing an open adoption led Randi to Matthew and Katheryn. The three of them made an immediate connection.
“When we got matched with them, it was like an instant connection. If I wanted to talk one week, they would talk to me. If I didn’t, if my emotions were just too strong, they were like, ‘Ok, let’s talk next week.’ I think that if I would have waited to meet them until it was actually time to have her and give her up, I don’t think I would have been as comfortable with it.”
“Every picture brightens my day. There are two things I check every day, the blog and my Facebook,” Randi said. “When I see a random picture that she [Katheryn] puts on there, it just makes me feel like she’s not forgetting about me, and keeping up with what she said she was going to do.”
No two open adoption relationships are the same. You always get to choose the contact preferences you are most comfortable with. Just know one thing: After “giving your child up” for adoption, you can have contact with them in the way that best suits your needs.
So, if you’re wondering, “Can you give a child up for adoption and remain in their life?” The answer is an absolute yes.
What is a Semi-Open Adoption?
When putting a baby up for adoption, the arrangements for the parents to see their child afterward can vary greatly. Your adoption specialist can help you come up with the post-adoption contact plan that’s best for you.
Not all adoption relationships between a birth mother and adoptive parents are fully open. If you wish to maintain your privacy, but still want to see your child grow up with their adoptive family, you may consider a semi-open adoption instead.
In a semi-open adoption, your identifying information (like your last name and contact information) is kept private from the adoptive family. You will still have the right to choose parents for your child, but you do not have to meet them if you do not want to.
When your adoption is complete, your specialist will work with the adoptive family to make sure you receive updates, pictures and letters, according to your preferences. You may even consider using a non-identifying email address (specifically for the adoption) to communicate with the adoptive family and receive updates from them directly.
You can get more information on semi-open adoption and how mediation through our adoption specialists works by calling us at 1-800-ADOPTION.
Can You Give Your Baby Up for Adoption but Still Have Visitation Rights?
With an open adoption relationship, you can put your child up for adoption with visitation expectations. Your adoption specialist will help you find a family that shares your contact preferences, and they will be responsible for upholding their end of the agreement.
If you are interested in putting a child up for adoption when you can still visit, that is absolutely a possibility — you will just need to communicate those wishes to your adoption specialist and the adoptive family as you create your adoption plan.
However, if you’re wondering, “When you give a baby up for adoption, do the mother and the father have the right to see them or have the same right to see them as the adoptive family?” the answer is a bit more complicated. If you “give up” a child, visitation rights are usually not legally enforceable.
Placing your child for adoption means that you are permanently terminating your legal parental rights. But, finding the perfect family with an agency like American Adoptions helps ensure that your open adoption communication continues for years to come.
Because of our national size and scope, we can provide you with many profiles of adoptive families fully prepared for an open relationship both during the adoption and post-placement.
Let’s Create Your Adoption Plan Today
If you are considering adoption for your baby but wondering, “If I give my baby up for adoption, do I still get to see her or him?” knowing about the possibility of a post-adoption relationship may help you confirm this decision for your unplanned pregnancy. Many women choose adoption only after finding out about the opportunity for this post-adoption relationship — a way for a mother to receive reassurance as her child grows up that she has done the right thing for them.
If you are interested in an open adoption relationship with a child after you place them with an adoptive family, American Adoptions can help. To start creating your adoption plan and finding an adoptive family who shares your contact preferences, please call our adoption specialists at 1-800-ADOPTION.
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