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Rebecca's Adoption Story

This is going to sound cliché but adoption chose me. I remember finding out I was pregnant at six weeks. The pregnancy came with a set of complications from gestational diabetes. The father of my son wasn’t going to be in the picture. My life had changed in one appointment and I was paralyzed with fear. Do I want my son to grow up without a father? Will I be enough of a mother for him? Will I be able to provide for him?

I started having weekly appointments with my OBGYN. She started to notice a sort of disconnect I had with this pregnancy. She was seeing a disconnect, and I was feeling fear of the unknown. In the politest way my OBGYN mentioned adoption. I cried a sigh of relief but didn’t know how my family would view my decision. From October 2019 to February 2020, I kept my sweet boy a secret. There were two or three people that knew of my pregnancy. During these months I reached out to American Adoptions for more information on adoption. I was new to the adoption world and didn’t know what I was getting myself into. Rachel Marcy guided me every step of the way. The process was a whirlwind and before I knew it, I was looking at families.

This is the part of my story where adoption truly chose me. Spirituality is a major part of my life. I told God, “If you don’t put a family in front of me, I cannot do this”. Rachel sent me a list of 20 families and there they were.... Katie and Andy. I couldn’t read through their autobiography without crying. I couldn’t look at other families without going back to their story and re-reading it to see if it was real. They are dedicated parents to a sweet 4-year-old son, but what made me gravitate to them is their love for one another. This was important to me because I grew up in a broken home, without a father, and swore to myself my child would have two loving parents.

I will add that having my son in the middle of a pandemic ruined all plans I had in mind for him and his adoptive parents. I had to stay in the hospital for five days alone, without support with me. I had to have my son with my cousin because my mother disagrees with my decision. I got to spend time with Ben because he came two months early and spent some time in the NICU. Katie and Andy knew I’d fall in love with him; this came to a shock to me though. I love my son fiercely. Finalizing the adoption was the most difficult decision I’ve ever made. I see happiness in my son’s life with every picture and video. His smile is contagious and he makes me proud to be his mother every day. Making him proud is what I strive for in everything I do.

American Adoptions was the only choice I made when picking an adoption agency. Rachel Marcy became the only support, along with Katie & Andy, I had through my pregnancy. I don’t know what I would have done if it weren’t for Rachel’s constant support; on and off the clock. The agency is pro-birth mother when it comes to making decisions and walked through every single step with me. I recommend this agency every chance I get. They gave my son the opportunity to live the life I dreamed for him.

Adoption has changed my life for the better. I’m able to be a part of my son’s life, while also gaining new family in Katie and Andy. We hit it off instantly and they became a huge support in any choice I made. I chose to place my son to a family through adoption, but adoption truly chose me.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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