Can I Place My Baby for Adoption at 9 Months Old?
Why Adoption is Always Available to You
There are many reasons for why you might start thinking about adoption for your 9-month-old baby.
You might be in a situation where the birth father is not as involved as you originally hoped, and you have little support from your family and friends. If you’re the primary breadwinner, it might be difficult to work and raise your baby at the same time. Or maybe you’ve just realized that parenting is not the right fit for you and would like to learn more about your other options.
Regardless of the situation, if you’re considering adoption for your 9-month-old, your first thought is likely, “Is adoption possible for me after so long?” and, “Will I still be able to place my child for adoption at 9 months old?”
Some women already know they want to pursue adoption before their baby is even born. But we know that adoption isn’t an overnight decision. Many women feel unsure about what to expect, so they might think about pursing adoption at a later date. This is completely normal in the world of adoption. So, even if it’s been weeks or months since your hospital stay, adoption will always be a choice for you.
Whatever the case may be, our agency has plenty of experience helping women in your situation. The first step to making an adoption plan is to request more information or call 1-800-ADOPTION. There, you’ll be connected with a trusted adoption specialist, who can help explain the process in more detail with no obligation to choose adoption. They’ll also be able to give you their unique insight into placing a 9-month-old for adoption.
Will My Child Hate Me for “Giving Them Away?”
This is one of the first questions that we hear from women who are considering placing their child for adoption. The uncertainty of what your child will think of you can be a constant fear for prospective birth mothers.
But if there’s one thing you should know about adoption, it’s that you’re not “giving your child up” for adoption or “giving them away.” You’re giving them the best gift of all — life.
Prospective birth mothers make the brave and selfless choice for adoption every day out of pure love for their children. If you’re thinking about placing your 9-month-old up for adoption, they’ll know that you made this hard decision in order to put their needs first.
Do I Just Need to Become a Better Parent?
Parenting is challenging for a number of reasons, and none of it should reflect badly on you as a person. For one thing, it’s known to be quite expensive, and you might be pushed to your limits financially. This is especially true if you’re the primary breadwinner in your family. And if you have little to no help from the people in your life, things can get challenging very quickly.
Nothing could make you a bad parent for thinking about adoption. It also doesn’t mean that you’re “throwing in the towel” or “giving up” on your child. You want to do what’s best for your child, even at the expense of your own happiness. If you’re in a difficult situation, adoption might be the best choice for yourself and for your baby.
How to Place a Child for Adoption at 9 Months Old
There are only a few differences when it comes to placing an older infant for adoption as opposed to a newborn. Overall, the process is very similar. Here is a brief rundown of what you can expect to happen during the adoption process with American Adoptions:
- Step 1: Submit information and create an adoption plan. The first thing to do is call 1-800-ADOPTION. There, you’ll speak with one of our adoption specialists. After explaining your situation, you’ll be asked to fill out a social and medical history form for yourself and your child, as well as a form explaining your preferences in an adoptive family. You’ll also be asked to:
- Provide a copy of your child’s birth certificate
- Determine who is listed as the father on your child’s birth certificate
- Obtain medical records for your child
- Provide documentation of where the child has lived from birth to present
- Assess who has had custody or care of the child from birth to present
- Disclose who has provided financial and emotional support for this child from birth to present
- Provide information about any father who has provided child support
- Step 2: Choose an adoptive family. Once your adoption specialist has everything they need, they’ll send you different adoptive families’ profiles to look through. After you’ve found the right couple for your baby, you’ll start getting to know them through phone calls, emails, and even visits to help your baby begin to transition.
- Step 3: Determine what kind of open adoption you want. You’ll then discuss how much contact you’d like to have after placement. It’s strongly suggested that both parties choose to have an open adoption, but we understand if that’s not feasible. Your adoption specialist will be able to help you through this process.
- Step 4: Legally place your baby for adoption. After everything is ready, you’ll need to consent to the adoption in order for it to be official. Up until this point, you’ll be able to change your mind about adoption. But once you’ve signed away your parental rights, and your revocation period has passed (if applicable), you won’t be able to change your mind. Your adoption specialist and adoption attorney will help explain this process in more detail.
Choosing adoption may be the most emotionally challenging thing you’ll ever do, especially when you’re “giving up” a 9-month-old for adoption. There is a lot to think about as you make this decision, and you likely have some questions still. To get the answers you need or to make your adoption plan today, call 1-800-ADOPTION to get started.
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