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Supportive Birth Fathers, Married Couples Choosing Adoption

Having a Partner Throughout the Adoption Process

When facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption for your baby, the best-case scenario is the birth father is supportive of your adoption plan, whether you are married to him, friends with him, or he’s out of the picture but has approved of your decision.

If any of these scenarios describe your situation, embrace this opportunity. Having the birth father’s support throughout the adoption process is invaluable, and you can lean on one another while you experience the emotions of this process together.

Married Couple Placing a Child for Adoption

It is common for married couples to face unplanned pregnancies. And sometimes a married couple is not ready or prepared to add a child (or another child) to their family. There is no shame in that. 

In these scenarios, a married couple may decide to place their baby for adoption.

If this describes your situation, American Adoptions can work with both of you to develop an adoption plan you are both comfortable with. An Adoption Specialist will help you find the perfect adoptive family - an adoptive family willing to share the kind of relationship between birth family and adoptive familyi that you desire, whether that is an open adoptino, semi-open adoption or closed adoption.

Married couples placing a child for adoption receive all of the same services and benefits as single birth mothers, in addition to having each other for strength and support throughout this process.

Birth Father is Supportive but Not Involved

Even if you are not in a relationship with the birth father, he may still be supportive of your adoption decision.

If your baby’s father is playing a supportive role throughout this adoption process, realize how unique and special that is. Let him know how much you appreciate his support during this tough time in both of your lives – it will mean a lot to him, too.

It is OK if you and the birth father have different ideas regarding future interaction with the adoptive family. For example, you might desire exchanging emails and occasional phone calls with the adoptive family, while the birth father just wants annual picture updates.

Our Adoption Specialists can work with you and the birth father to create your own adoption plans, which may include picture and letter updates during the first 18 years of the child’s life.

For more information about a supportive birth father’s role in an adoption, call 1-800-ADOPTION or click the following for free adoption information.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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