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Understanding Labor

As you’re preparing for how you’ll feel throughout the adoption process, it’s important to start thinking about your labor experience, to understand what labor is, what to expect when labor occurs and what to do when labor begins. Preparing yourself for both the emotional and physical experiences of birth and adoption will help you feel more ready.

Labor is defined as the dilatation (stretching and expanding) of the cervix. This occurs because the uterus tightens to squeeze out the baby. As the baby exits the uterus, the cervix stretches. It may be possible to feel tightening, contractions or cramps prior to going into labor, but it technically is not labor until there is a change in the cervix.

Braxton-Hicks Contractions, False Labor and the Real Deal

Braxton-Hicks contractions are typically painless, non-rhythmical contractions you may be able to feel when you place your hand on your abdomen. These contractions often begin early in pregnancy and are felt at irregular intervals. They may increase in number and strength when the uterus is massaged. Like false labor, they are not positive signs of true labor.

False labor often occurs before true labor begins. False labor contractions can be painful and may appear to be real labor to you.

In most cases, false labor contractions are irregular. They are usually short in duration (less than 45 seconds). The discomfort of the contraction may occur in various parts of your body, such as the groin, lower abdomen or back. With true labor, uterine contractions produce pain that starts at the top of the uterus and radiates over the entire uterus, through the lower back into the pelvis.

False labor is usually seen in late pregnancy and often occurs in women that have been pregnant before. False labor usually stops as soon as it begins and does not harm you or the baby in any way.

There are several ways to tell the difference between true labor and false labor. Be sure that you talk to your doctor or midwife about knowing the difference between the two. Here are some indicators of false and true labor.

False Labor True Labor
Contractions do not get close together. Contractions get closer together.
Contractions do not get stronger. Contractions get stronger.
Contractions tend to only be felt in the front. Contractions tend to only be felt all over.
Contractions do not last longer. Contractions last longer.
Walking has no effect on contractions. Walking makes the contractions stronger.
Cervix does not change with contractions. Cervix opens and thins with contractions.

How Long Will Labor Last?

The length of the first and second stages of labor, from beginning of cervical dilatation to delivery of the baby, can last 14-15 hours or more in a first pregnancy. For every story of a woman barely making it to the hospital in time or having a one-hour labor, there are many more women whose labor lasted 18-24 hours or longer.

The bottom line is that it is almost impossible to predict the amount of time that will be required for labor.

Timing Contractions

To time how long contractions last, begin timing when the contraction starts and end timing when the contraction lets up and goes away.

It is important to know how often contractions occur. There are two basic methods for timing contractions:

  • Note the time period from when a contraction starts to the time when the next contraction starts. This is the most commonly used method and typically the most reliable.

  • Note the time when the contraction ends and when the next one starts.

Ask your doctor which method they prefer. It is important to time your contractions before you call your doctor so they can decide when you should go to the hospital.

Stages of Labor

First Stage

This begins when you start to have regular contractions that increase in frequency and intensity. Make sure you know how to time contractions. Usually labor will start off slowly, and you may not be sure that it is true labor. When the contractions are more intense and come more frequently, then you will be in the active phase of the first stage of labor.

Your doctor will give you guidelines as to when you should call. Some want you to go to the hospital as soon as your water breaks, and some want you to call when you have steady contractions that are a certain number of minutes apart.

The next phase of the first stage of labor is transition. Transition is the short, but hardest, part of labor. Your contractions will come very close together, but are not usually any stronger than the contractions of the active phase. By the end of transition, your cervix will be completely dilated to 10 centimeters, big enough for the baby's head to pass through.

Second Stage

This stage begins when you are completely dilated. You will begin pushing,  and your contractions will get further apart and feel differently. Most women feel the urge to push if they have not had too much medication. If you have been medicated, you might or might not feel the urge to push. Your labor nurses will help you get ready to push at the right time (during a contraction). The end of the second stage will be marked by the birth of the baby.

Third Stage

Soon after the baby is delivered, the placenta will detach from the wall of the uterus. This can happen five minutes to an hour after delivery. You will be asked to give a few small pushes to help get the placenta out.

Labor and Adoption

If you’re placing your baby for adoption after giving birth, you may be unsure of how this process will happen at the hospital. Your first action should be to contact an adoption specialist, if you haven’t already. They’ll help you make a hospital plan that you’re comfortable with, so that your time in the hospital is as low-stress as possible. They’ll also walk you through what happens at the hospital when you’re planning to place your baby with an adoptive family.

Labor is a physically, mentally and emotionally difficult time for women. Adoption is, too. That’s why each state has a required waiting period after your baby’s birth before you may sign adoption consent forms. This gives you some time in between the birth of the baby and finalizing your adoption decision so that you can recover, reflect and allow any medications from labor to leave your system so you’ll have a clear head to be confident about your choice.

Remember that just like every part of your adoption plan, the details of your hospital plan are always in your control when you’re choosing adoption for your baby.

To learn more about what labor and giving birth is like when you’re placing your baby for adoption, contact us now online or by calling 1-800-ADOPTION for free information.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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