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Real Birth Mothers on Why They Don't Regret Giving a Baby up for Adoption

Stories From Birth Parents Who Have Been in Your Shoes

Adoption is one of the most beautiful decisions you could ever make. It’s a selfless choice to put your baby's well-being first. Although many emotions come with adoption, such as regret or guilt, we want you to know that many birth parents have been in your shoes.

It’s normal to feel these emotions, but remember that choosing adoption can be one of the best things you could ever do for your baby. So, if you’re thinking, “Will I regret giving my baby up for adoption,” we’ve compiled three stories from real birth parents on how adoption was the best decision they could have made for themselves and their baby.

You can always contact us at 1-800-ADOPTION or fill out our contact form to get more adoption information now. We’re always here to help!

3 Stories from Birth Parents on Why They Don’t Regret Giving Their Baby up for Adoption

1. Angelica’s Adoption Story on Making the Right Decision

Like many birth parents, Angelica was scared. But, she decided to call American Adoptions. Adoption had been on her mind since she first found out she was pregnant. She knew her living situation wasn't ideal for raising a baby and felt that adoption was the right path for her.

After contacting our agency, Angelica had trouble choosing the perfect family for her baby. But her adoption specialist, Rachel, told her she would know when she found the right family. Angelica appreciated the honesty her adoption specialist and social workers gave her.

“You could tell they weren’t just putting on a front to make you want to do it or push you into it,” Angelica said. “They want whatever you want, and that’s what they told me during the whole process. It wasn’t up to them; they were just going to be there for me no matter what decision I made.”

Through her adoption specialist's guidance and unwavering support, Angelica found herself on a conference call with hopeful adoptive parents Keith and Jenn. Their concern for her wishes and her daughter's well-being is what made the decision final.

When it was time for Angelica to be induced, she met Keith and Jenn for the first time and instantly knew she had made the right choice. They supported her during labor and gave her the space she needed during her hospital stay. Saying goodbye was one of the hardest parts of the process, but Angelica will never regret giving her baby up for adoption.

“My eyes just watered as they placed her into Jenn’s arms,” Angelica said. “She was no longer mine, but I knew in my heart that everything would be OK. Seeing how happy she made them and their family and seeing how happy their family was just reassured me that I had made the right decision.”

2. Lindsey’s Adoption Story on Doing What’s Best for Her Babies

When Lindsey discovered her pregnancy, she immediately thought parenting was her only option. But she was raising a child on her own, and that required her full attention. A few months into her pregnancy, her stepfather mentioned adoption, and at first she didn’t think she could do it.

As she started weighing her options and thought about her financial situation, Lindsey decided that adoption was best for both her babies. Without much of a support system, Lindsey found one in her adoption specialists at American Adoptions. When she first contacted our agency, Lindsey connected with her adoption specialist, Shannon, an hour after calling.

“She was there for me when I didn’t have anybody, and she always knew just what to say,” Lindsey remembers. “I did have a lot of concerns and fears, and she knew how to talk me through them. She was just amazing, and I’m so glad that she’s in my life.”

Lindsey also had support from the parents she chose to adopt her daughter – Amber and Eric. After watching their adoption profile video, she knew they were the ones. They went above and beyond to ensure she felt completely supported throughout her pregnancy. As she began getting closer to Amber and Eric, Lindsey was grateful for the option to choose an open adoption.

“They told me when I had Charlotte that I’m family,” Lindsey said. “That means a lot to me because I know that they weren’t going to be given the baby and never talk to me again.”

Three months after giving birth, Lindsey is happier than she could have ever thought and doesn’t regret giving her baby up for adoption. Although she struggled with feelings of emptiness, jealousy and anger, she knows that this decision was the best thing she could have done for her babies.

3. Caitlin’s Adoption Story on Building a Lifelong Bond

Caitlin knew adoption was the best choice when she found out she was pregnant. Unfamiliar with the process, Caitlin contacted American Adoptions, and she was connected with her adoption specialist, Rachel. From there, Rachel began sending adoptive family profiles, which helped alleviate Caitlin's fears about the process.

Wanting a tight-knit family for her unborn son, Caitlin was excited to find Matt and Amanda. With their extended family heavily involved in their lives, she knew they’d be the perfect fit. Open adoption allowed Caitlin to bond with Matt and Amanda before her son was born. When Caitlin was induced, Matt and Amanda supported her throughout the hospital stay.

“Amanda never left my side — like, she barely went to the bathroom,” Caitlin remembers. “She held my hand the whole time and then, when he was born, I told her, ‘Cut the cord. You can do that; it’s OK.’"

Matt and Amber constantly provide updates through video chat. By choosing an open adoption relationship, Caitlin knows she will always be in touch with her son as he grows up. She will never regret giving a baby up for adoption because she knows it’s the best thing she could have done for her son.

“Knowing that I can be around and be there — I don’t even know how to put it into words… I’m like a cheerleader on the sideline, and that’s more than I could have asked for,” Caitlin said about her open adoption relationship. “He gets this family who can take care of him and do everything I couldn’t, but he can also know that I didn’t just give him away. I had a purpose for him, and it was meant to be.”

To connect with one of our trusted adoption specialists, fill out our contact form or call 1-800-ADOPTION now. We’d be happy to help you throughout your adoption journey. 

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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