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Is it Hard to Put a Newborn Baby Up for Adoption?

American Adoptions Will Make This Process as Easy on You as Possible

If you are considering adoption for your baby, you have likely read detailed accounts of the adoption process. But you may be wondering, what is it really like to go through this process as a prospective birth mother? Is it hard to put a baby up for adoption?

The truth is it can be very emotionally difficult, not only to make an adoption decision and complete the adoption process, but also to adjust to life after placement. In fact, for many women facing an unplanned pregnancy, this can be one of the most challenging decisions and experiences of a lifetime.

While American Adoptions cannot erase the pain and difficulty of placement, we do offer a wealth of services and resources to help make this process easier. Here, learn more about the support you can expect from American Adoptions when making an adoption plan for your baby.  

How easy is the process of putting a baby up for adoption?

You probably already know that adoption can be an emotionally complicated process, but when it comes to the logistics, how easy is it to “give up” a child for adoption?

At American Adoptions, we do everything we can to make this process as simple as possible for you. You will have your own adoption specialist to guide you through each step of the way. This licensed professional will help you explore all of your options, provide the emotional counseling and support you need, and do everything he or she can to make the adoption process as smooth as possible for you, so you don’t have to worry about finding an adoptive family or completing legal paperwork on your own.

Is it difficult to “give up” a baby for adoption emotionally?

For birth parents who have placed a child for adoption and those in the middle of the process, the statement that placing a child for adoption can be difficult may seem obvious. But our adoption specialists often receive questions like these from women facing an unplanned pregnancy: “Is giving a baby up for adoption hard?”

In terms of the process itself, we’ll make that as easy as possible, so not really. But in terms of the emotions you experience, yes — for most women, it is very hard to “give your baby up” for adoption.

Every woman’s experience is different, and different birth parents have different ways of coping with the emotions of the adoption process. However, most birth parents go through a grief process while making an adoption plan and after placing their child for adoption. It is common to experience feelings of anger, shock, sadness, fear, guilt and more.

If you want to ask a birth mother who has been in your shoes, you can always reach out to Michelle, who is a birth mother herself, and ask her questions about the emotions that you might experience in your own adoption process. Reading stories from birth mothers who have placed a baby for adoption and experienced all the emotions that come with it can also help you to understand what adoption is like for some women.

We’re here for you 24/7, and our counseling services are free. Your adoption specialist will be there to support you through whatever you’re feeling at every stage of the adoption process and beyond to make this time as easy for you as possible.

How easy is it to find an adoptive parent while pregnant?

Finding the perfect adoptive parents for your baby can seem overwhelming at first, and many women are concerned about finding someone to adopt their child. Many expectant mothers ask us, “How hard is it to find adoptive parents for a newborn?”

With American Adoptions, you are in complete control of this process — but your adoption specialist will do much of the work for you. You can tell your adoption specialist exactly what you’re looking for in an adoptive family (and if you’re not sure, she can help you think through those decisions). Your adoption specialist will then send you as many profiles as you need until you find a family that stands out to you. When you are ready, you can get to know the adoptive family through phone calls, email, text messages and more. And if you’re not sure that the adoptive family is the right fit for your baby, you can repeat the process as many times as necessary until you find exactly what you’re looking for.

We work with hundreds of hopeful parents throughout the country, all waiting for a woman like you to make their dreams of parenthood come true. Because we work with so many adoptive families and offer thorough screening and matching services, you will find the perfect adoptive parents for your baby, no matter what your situation is.

Finding the right adoptive family can make you feel more confident and certain of your adoption decision. While adoption is still a difficult process, knowing that you are making the best possible choice for your child, and knowing that he or she will grow up in a loving home, can make all the difference in how you feel about your adoption experience.

Other Common Questions About Challenges of the Adoption Process

“Is it easy to ‘give up’ for adoption? Is adoption really giving up?”

No. “Giving up” means quitting or resigning oneself to failure, and it can make choosing adoption seem like an easy, selfish or flippant decision. You are not giving up by choosing adoption. Even though it’s common to hear people refer to adoption as “giving up” a child, this language does not accurately reflect the difficult and loving decision that adoption is.

“Is giving your child up for adoption hard financially?” 

No. It’s free to place a child for adoption. You are making an incredibly important decision, and financial concerns should not be adding to your stress. All of American Adoptions’ services are offered at no cost to you, and you may also get help paying certain living expenses during your pregnancy.

“How easy is it to get adoption counseling and support?” 

Very easy. Your adoption specialist will be available to you any time, day or night, to provide the emotional support and counseling you need — when you need it. This service is also available to you for free.

“How hard is it to find adoptive parents who meet my criteria?” 

Not hard at all. Through careful adoption planning, you can choose the adoption situation that is right for you and your baby. With this adoption plan in place, you can rest assured knowing that the details of the adoption will be handled and all of your wishes will be followed. You can search for the type of adoptive family you envision for your baby online, or you can ask an adoption specialist for help if you don’t see the right family online.

“Is giving up a baby up for adoption hard on the mom after placement?”

Yes. For many women (and men), the emotions felt after placement can be very difficult. But American Adoptions’ services and support do not end with placement. Your adoption specialist will continue to be available to offer the ongoing counseling and support you may need after the adoption.

“Is it hard to put a child up for adoption and still keep in touch with him/her?” 

Choosing open adoption makes staying in touch an easy and straightforward process. All of our adoptive families are committed to openness, so you can always know your child and remain an important part of his or her life. While making an adoption decision is rarely easy, sometimes knowing that you can keep in touch with your child can make it easier to process your feelings of grief and loss.

“How hard is it to put a newborn baby up for adoption legally?”

We’ll walk you through the legal processes of adoption, step by step, so that it’s as easy as possible for you. The legal steps of adoption can sometimes be complicated, depending on the situation, but we’ll connect you with an adoption attorney who will be there to make sure you’re always fully informed of your legal rights and choices.

Your adoption specialist is committed to helping you feel as comfortable as possible during the adoption process. These are just some of the services American Adoptions provides to make your adoption experience easier and decrease the difficulty of “giving a child up” for adoption.

“How hard is it to make an adoption plan later in my pregnancy?”

It is never too late to choose adoption for your baby, regardless of how far along you are in your pregnancy or even if your baby has already been born. No matter when you decide to start the adoption process, you will be in control of all the important decisions, and your adoption specialist will be there to guide you through every step. In most ways, it is no more difficult to place a baby for adoption at the end of your pregnancy than at the beginning.

“What if I’m having difficulty deciding to give up a baby for adoption?”

Making the decision to place a child for adoption is never easy. It is very common and normal to struggle with this decision when you are facing an unplanned pregnancy. If you need help exploring all of your unplanned pregnancy options — not just adoption — you can call our hotline for free, unbiased advice. Adoption specialists are available 24/7, any information you share is confidential, and calling never commits you to the adoption process.

To learn more about our waiting families and the emotional and financial support we offer during the adoption process, call 1-800-ADOPTION or contact us online at any time to speak with an adoption specialist. Your call is free and does not obligate you to proceed with an adoption plan. 

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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