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Brittnee's Adoption Story

It’s been 10 years since I watched my daughter being carried out of the hospital by her new family. While I knew right from the very beginning that adoption was the best choice, it was difficult and challenging, to put it mildly. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life, but it was 100% the best choice for all involved. I had a 2-year-old son I was raising on my own, and her biological father was not a good guy. For the first time in my life, I understood women who got abortions. I was absolutely petrified and alone, with the weight of the world on my shoulders. But when it came right down to it, I just couldn’t go through with it.

I was lucky enough to find American Adoptions, who immediately took some of that weight away by walking me through the steps and supporting whatever decision I made. They sent me several wonderful profiles of hopeful parents, and I just knew right off when I found the right one. They were the perfect family, the type of family I had pictured for myself as I looked forward to my own future. I’ve always been interested in the medical field, and the mom was a Nurse Practitioner in the same field that called to me. The father had a wonderfully sweet face, and you could see the deep love he held for his family. My daughter would have an older sister who was also adopted. It made me feel better knowing she would have someone who would sympathize with her as she grew.

As time went on, I got to know her soon-to-be family through email and letters. With every one, I felt more at ease; however, it also got harder as I got to know the little life growing inside of me. We had a planned C-section, and her mom was holding my hand the entire time. I was lucky enough to spend three blissful days with my daughter in the hospital, with her new family just down the hall from me. I spent as much time as I could with her, and soaked up every single moment. I remember watching them from my third-floor hospital window as they put her in the car and drove away. I remember sobbing all over the poor nurse assigned to me after they’d gone. Even then, in that moment, I knew it was the right choice.

I knew that she would have everything I knew she deserved. She would have amazing opportunities for education, she would have a loving and devoted family and be able to travel and see this amazing world we live in. I would be able to be a part of her life in a small and distant way, which made it bearable.

Ten years later, and I am now going to school to begin my career as a Medical Practice Manager, and I honestly don’t think I would be in this place if it wasn’t for the support I received from American Adoptions. Finding them has changed my life, and the life of that 5 lb. 6 oz. little girl I delivered that day.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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