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| Whitney | Posted: Jun 17, 2007 02:49:42 PM
Hello all and Happy Father's Day to all the new daddies! I think they switched this post to where the new ones are on page 1 instead of the end. Anyway, no news yet but we had a great weekend. Terry was a little sick, but still a good Father's day! Please check out our updated pics on the profile and let me know what you think. Adrienne, I hope your son has arrived and all is going well. I do hope someone gets a call this week!
| | michelle | Posted: Jun 15, 2007 05:41:03 PM
hi angel!
welcome we adopted 2 years ago through aa and are waiting now.
michelle
| | Adrienne | Posted: Jun 14, 2007 06:49:33 PM
Hi everyone. The waiting proceeds. We were supposed to talk to our birth mother a couple different times this week, but first she was really sick and then she had an appointment that overlapped. We've now scheduled a call for Friday afternoon. We're hoping she has more news as to how the baby is doing and if the doctors think it will be soon. Tomorrow is her new due date soooo we figure it has to be any day now and are just hoping she doesn't go way overdue. We're all set and sooo anxious to go get him that everytime the phone rings I hope it's news she's in labor. The last 2 weeks have both flown by and drug on. It's still hard to believe we'll be parents at any moment, but we honestly couldn't be any happier! Hopefully the next news I post is about becoming a mommy! Tell all those dad's out there Happy Father's Day!
| | Whitney | Posted: Jun 13, 2007 09:19:24 AM
I think there must have been some trouble posting because I was wondering why there have been no posts lately. I so enjoy this forum! Anyway, Lisa I sure do hope we get the call soon! I am so ready for it to happen. I still cannot beleive it has been almost 15 months! Kayaking sounds fun! I have been rafting but not in a while. We want to go to the beach or somewhere, but saving our vacation time and money for the adoption. We did find out we get $2500 from my husband's company for the adoption. Kaitlin got a great present from her BM yesterday with clothes and princess stuff. The best part was a book called "The Perfect Present". It is a children's book but one I had not seen before and it made us both cry. Hope you all have a great rest of the week and all of us waiting get calls soon!
| | Lisa | Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:00:16 AM
Good Morning Ladies,
I posted on Monday but it never made it to post. Adrienne, GOOD LUCK!! I wish you the best and I hope that everything goes smoothly. I love the names that you have chosen. Please keep us posted and let us know how everything goes. You will be in our thoughts and prayers. Whitney, How are you? I hope that we are the next ones to get "the call". I am going crazy. I am dying for my phone to ring.
Jenn, Thanks for checking in. I am sure that Hailey is growing by leaps and bounds. I hope that Daymond has a great 1st Father's Day!! Please send some more pictures when you get a chance. Have a great day!
| | michelle | Posted: Jun 11, 2007 06:09:06 PM
is any one having any problems getting posted? any who! congrats to everyone. heres to hoping the phone rings!! our little guy is growing up so fast!! he is swimming in the pool with his neice as i type. we are doing the potty training thing. it just seems like yesterday we were at the hospital!!!! I love being a mommy!!
Michelle
| | Lisa | Posted: Jun 11, 2007 12:36:42 PM
Good Afternoon Ladies,
Adrienne, How are you? Any update? When are you and Clint leaving? It's wonderful that she is having a boy! I love the name Remington. It is very strong. Good Luck and keep us posted. How are you Whitney? I am hanging in there. We went hiking on Saturday which was a good stress reliever. It was good to get outdoors and away from everything. I am now in the process of planning a kayaking trip with some family and friends down the Delaware Water Gap. It will be fun. It will keep me busy. Thanks for checking in Jenn. I hope that Hailey is doing well. I am sure that time is flying by for you. I hope that everyone has a great week and maybe someone will get some good news!!!!
| | Whitney | Posted: Jun 11, 2007 11:47:11 AM
Hello All! Hope you had a great weekend! Ours was wonderful and Kaitlin had the best birthday! Time does fly by, so enjoy every minute of it! It seems like yesterday we held her for the first time and now she is potty trained and sleeping in a twin bed! I am ready for a little baby one more time and that is it, unless God has something else in store for us! No news yet, but we hope to have our profile changes this week and we changed some things on our APQ. Adrienne, I know you all must be so excited and anxious about the birth! You all will be in my prayers this week as well as all those still waiting. I hope all goes smooth with travel and everything.
| | Jenn | Posted: Jun 07, 2007 11:22:46 PM
Wow, so much has happened since I last checked in! Congrats, Trish!!! Send some pics! Congrats Adrienne too! I love the name Remington, btw. Becca, our wait was approx. 11 months until the match call in the T2 program. It was a little over 12 mths b/w activation and Hailey's birth. We fully intend to go with AA again for baby #2. We had an AWESOME experience!
| | Kerri | Posted: Jun 07, 2007 12:31:58 PM
Hey Whitney~
I remember when we had our call with Megan S. we told her that if a situation was to come up in FL. even if it was out of our budget to please let us know. I think that was one of the main reasons that they called us. Maybe worth thinking about. :) I just have a feeling that it is going to happen for you really soon!!!!
Kerri
| | Whitney | Posted: Jun 07, 2007 12:17:40 PM
Adrienne - glad it went well and your are getting a little boy! Our first one was pretty short and kinda hard. My husband and I are somewhat shy and our specialist told us we need to talk more next time. We did not do anymore conferences, but the BM asked us to meet with her and we flew and met for lunch, and it was better than I could have imagined. She gave me flowers and gave us clothes for the baby. I like your names you have picked out and that is awesome to use the name she picked out for the middle. The next week will feel so long, but it will be here before you know it and gives you all more time to prepare.
| | Lisa | Posted: Jun 07, 2007 08:31:53 AM
Good Morning Ladies,
I posted a reply to Trish's beautiful story the other day but it never made it onto the forum so let's try this again. Thank you Trish for sharing your wonderful story. I was beginning to get worried about you because we hadn't heard from you. I am so happy that everything worked out perfectly. I can't believe that the airlines gave you a hard time, but thankfully it worked out. Thanks for the tips!! Hopefully I will need them soon. The waiting is really getting hard. We are at the 9 1/4 month mark. I am beginning to wonder if we will ever get chosen. I know deep down that it is just a matter of time and the right situation. One day at a time. Whitney, Hang in there. I know that you are probably feeling frustrated as well. Adrienne, How did your conference call go with your BM? I am sure that she loved you and Clint. We can't wait to hear all of the details. When do you leave?
Wendy, Thank you for your words of wisdom. I need them right now. I hope that everyone has a great day!!!
| | Whitney | Posted: Jun 06, 2007 05:27:43 PM
Thanks for the encouragement Kerri. That is great you got to stay in your state. There were a couple of situations listed in SC and we were hoping to get one of those. The interstate thing kept us in Iowa 2 weeks. We may increase our budget and see if that helps.
| | Adrienne | Posted: Jun 06, 2007 04:39:10 PM
Well we had our conference call last night. Our birth mother is very sweet and seemed much more at ease than we did. By the time we had the call Clint and I were a nervous wreck. We were so afraid of saying something stupid or that we wouldn't click well, but it really did go good. Whitney, I do think we'll be better with the face to face too. It's so hard with so many people on the phone, but at least we were able to talk and get to know her a little. We found out her due date is pushed back until the 15th, so it looks like we'll probably be waiting at least another week. We would love to drive, but with it being such a distance, we don't think that will happen unless they wind up inducing.
Lisa, we found out she's having a boy. We've narrowed names down to either Remington or Tanden and our birthmother chose Barret, so we want to use that as a middle name. Luckily our birthmother likes unique names like we do.
| | Kerri | Posted: Jun 06, 2007 02:48:03 PM
Trish~ What a BIG boy!!! I bet that he is so healthy and happy!! Little boys are just so sweet!!
Whitney~ try not to get discouraged. I know that the waiting must be hard. I remember that we were activated at the same time first go around. You will totally forget the "waiting". I think that we got matched so quickly the second time because we went way over our budget. Nick was born in FL........ actually at the same hospital where Madison was born. It was so neat to see and have the same nurses. They had to move our BM to FL and we decided to go for it because if we got matched out of state then it probably would have added up to the same amount. We just wanted to come home after 2 days......... having no ICPC was soooooooo nice!
It makes me sad to think that we are done....... I keep asking David if we can do it just one more time. He always says we can talk about it in a year~ which I think means no. :( I just loved the whole process!!
Have a happy day!
Kerri
| | Whitney | Posted: Jun 06, 2007 11:49:07 AM
Thanks all for the information and advice! We plan to talk with Megan, our specialist, before we make any decisions and most importantly pray about it. I am feeling that we should be more open, but we both want to make sure it is right for us and God's plan. We are updating several pictures on our profile and hope it is done this week. Adrienne, how did the conference call go? When are you leaving to go to CA? It is going to be a hot wekeend here - mid 90s. Kaitlin turn 3 Saturday and we are looking forward to it!
| | Carol | Posted: Jun 05, 2007 08:23:21 PM
Hey Whitney...I was also going to let you know that we were open to caucasian mixed with other races for example hispanic, asian, native american, etc. We were matched in 10 months and our daughter is caucasian/hispanic mix. I really believe that being open to some of the other races can help more quickly with a match. All in all, the more open you are on your APQ, the more potential bm's they are able to show you to. Of course, this is a decision that you and your husband needs to feel comfortable with. Best wishes on making any changes to your APQ. Regardless of what you decide, it will definately be in God's planning and timing!
| | Carol | Posted: Jun 05, 2007 08:13:55 PM
Hello everyone...I've still been keeping up with all your post. Adrienne...I'm so excited for you!!! You got such a quick match. Congratulations!! Whitney...I know you are going to be soon!!! Keep your spirit up and use this time to spend all the one on one time with your little girl!! I wish good wishes to all of you too for quick and successful mathches!! God Bless!
| | michelle | Posted: Jun 05, 2007 07:16:49 PM
adrienne.
that is so awesome!!! hopefully everything will so super smoothly and quickly!!!
Michelle
| | Lisa | Posted: Jun 05, 2007 08:54:33 AM
Adrienne,
Thanks for the update. Do you know if your birthmother is having a bor or a girl? Do you have names picked out? Good Luck with your conference call today. She is going to love you!!! Please let us know how it goes. CONGRATULATIONS!!!
| | Whitney | Posted: Jun 05, 2007 08:51:18 AM
Adrienne - thanks for answering. We may be more open, we are just going to think and pray about it. Megan (our specialist) said that most babies are caucasian and that is what most want, so it would definately help to be more open. Good luck with the conference call. Ours was not too bad, but we were better face to face. Good luck with travel too! We drove 17 hours to get Kaitlin, but flew for the finalization. Trish - so good to hear your story! He was a big baby! Enjoy every minute of it. Lisa, Michelle - it has to be us next doesn't it?
| | Adrienne | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 04:51:31 PM
Hi everyone, thank you for all your wonderful thoughts. We are still floating on clouds -quickly floating :0) We have our first conference call set up for tomorrow (possibley our only one since she's due so soon), so we're a bit nervous on how that will go, but we love every aspect of our birth mother, so I think it will go good. Whitney, we were very open to diffferent races on our APQ. I don't mind you asking; the birth mother is caucasian/native american and the birth father is caucasian/hispanic. Obviously being open to other races helped us, but I'd say that you have to go with what you feel comfortable with. For some reason, I sort of hoped we'd get a baby mixed with another race. That just appealed to us, but I know that not every family feels that way and the majority of babies are 100% caucasian so the chances are pretty likely that's what you'll wind up with.
Lisa, we do have to travel pretty far, from MI to CA. We were hoping to drive, but it looks like we'll be flying. Oh well. Trish, I'm glad you shared your story since we'll have to fly with our little one.
I will definitely keep you all posted on our progress.
Best Wishes
Adrienne
| | Trish | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 02:43:17 PM
Hi Ladies, I hope you are all doing well. I tried to post this before the holiday, but it didn't seem to make it through. Our son Alex (Alexander James) was born on May 12 at 4:25am, weighing in at a healthy 9 lbs, 9 oz and 20.5 inches long. Jim and I flew to Indiana on May 6, just in case our birth mom went into labor before her May 8 induction date. We had been invited into the delivery room with her, and Jim was asked to cut the cord, so we didn't want to chance missing this wonderful event. Alex was not to be rushed however, as the induction didn't work and they sent her home. They broke her water and tried to induce labor again on May 11, but the baby 's shoulders were just too big to fit into the birth canal. So, Alex was born by C-section early the following morning. Since it was a C-section delivery we were not permitted to see the birth, but we did get to see Alex shortly after while he and his birth mom were in recovery. It was a moment in time that we will never forget. While I fully expected to cry myself, it was only the second time ever in 15 years that I've ever seen Jim cry. That seemed to go a long way in reassuring our birth mom that she was making the right choice for her son. Because of the C-section birth, the signing was delayed until 4 days later. We spent a lot of that time in the room with Alex and his birth mom as many of his birth family and friends visited. She did arrange some alone time for us with Alex as well, which was wonderful. Even after Alex was released we continued to meet with his birth mom and family until we went home on May 24. They even drove us to the airport. Pictures were taken and shared between us, which we look forward to sharing with Alex as he grows up to show him just how much they all love him. We hit a snag at the airport however, so any of you ladies who plan to fly home with your new baby please be careful. Although I had made the flight reservations by phone to be sure we followed all of the policies as required, the customer service agent failed to inform me that a doctors note would be required for an infant under the age of 14 days to fly. This seemed to come as a surprise to American Adoptions and the lawyers as well. Fortunately there was a very friendly airport worker who helped us get the required letter faxed so we could make our flight. If you plan to fly with your baby, check and double check all policy requirements, as not all agents seem to be aware of their own policies. Policies vary from airline to airline as well. We were in Indiana for almost 3 weeks in all, so it felt wonderful to get home. Alex is 3 weeks old now, and over 10 lbs. He is lifting his head frequently, and can turn over from his tummy to his back. He is also starting to sleep a little better at night, so I can now sleep for longer than 15 minutes at a time (yeah!). He is so precious, I just can't believe sometimes how lucky Jim and I are. I wish all of you still waiting a speedy match. I know some have been waiting a long time now. Take care and have a great summer!
| | Wendy | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 12:07:29 PM
Adrienne!!! I am so excited for you! Lucky you! - the baby will be here soon (we had a three month match). Doesn't that call just take your breath away? I felt like I could hardly breath for a whole week after we got the call. Have so much fun preparing!! Whitney - Megan did tell me that there seems to be an ebb and flow to the wait time just like anything else. For awhile a lot of people will have placements quickly and then it will seem like eveyone is waiting awhile. I thought to maybe it seemed like things slowed down a little, but it always seems to pick up again. I do think your call will come soon!! I quite expecting the call too and then one day it came! It felt like we were living in a dream because we had anticipated it for so long. Lisa hang in there, enjoy your summer as much as possible and just know that it will happen.
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