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BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Adopted Person's Legal Issues

TOPIC: Bless all the little children

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elizabeth	Posted: Apr 11, 2006 04:51:07 PM My family adopted several children me being one at an older age and it was rather nice because all you hear of is the new borns.Dont get me wrong but I feel the older children get left out in adoptions and in hearing about us.I had a very hard life and I found myself spiritually but because the system wasnt the greatest I personally felt like a helpless young child on my own.Im not by know means bitter but I view life and people diffrent I dont take people for granted.As far as the people who gave me up I really have know feelings toward them dont care to know them.I feel god just blessed them to create some children so someone else could be blessed.I realized in my young adolesent life I couldnt change people and I also realized there was an amazing person who would never forsake you and leave you alone and this was CHRIST the ALMIGHTY and EVERLASTING! See I at one time I wanted to take my life and he came to me and I found myself and I became a born again christian and that pute peace and some closesure in my heart on all the hate I did have stored in it at one time.So anyone who reads this message of alittle about me if I could tell you anything that Ive learned in the way I was brought up and the things Ive seen know human should see or have to expierence.The chosen ones you bring into your family your blessed with them love them and enjoy them.I sure love my knew family and I know there some bad seeds out there as well I feel everyone will eventually will be accountable for his or her own actions.May god bless those who are adopted and or giving your child a knew life for someone else to be fully blessed.

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What About My Responsibilities as the Father?

“This was by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.”

Shawn, Birth Father

When it comes to dealing with an unexpected pregnancy, much of the compassion, sympathy and focus is placed on the woman. But what about the father?

As the father of the baby, you too are more than likely dealing with a rollercoaster of emotions. Much like the emotions being experienced by the mother, you are also likely to experience shock, denial, anger, sadness and other feelings. Many fathers express there is often a state of confusion on how to put into words what they are truly feeling. Much of the time feelings of embarrassment and a loss of control are expressed by the birth father.

However, many men also feel that by agreeing to place the baby for adoption that they are somehow not living up to their responsibilities, or are not being “man enough.” Many men also have a strong sense of pride and struggle accepting the fact that they cannot give their baby the life that an adoptive family can. Many find it difficult to understand the reasons the birth mother is choosing an adoption plan. Others incorrectly believe the birth mother is choosing adoption to get back at them if the relationship is not a friendly one. Many fear others are looking at them as somehow failing their child, family and friends, or that they are taking the “easy way out.”

No matter what your reasons are for struggling with an adoption decision for your child, the truth is that adoption is anything but the “easy way out,” nor is it a choice made by a man who is not living up to his responsibilities. Rather, it is very much the opposite. Supporting the adoption of your child is one of the most responsible, unselfish things a father can do. It is a choice that means you care so much for your child that you are willing to give them a better life than you and the birth mother can give them right now.

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BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Adopted Person's Legal IssuesTOPIC: Bless all the little children

What About My Responsibilities as the Father?

BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Adopted Person's Legal Issues

TOPIC: Bless all the little children