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BOARD: Discussions for Women who are Pregnant » What About the Adoptive Family?
TOPIC: i'm scared what if i want it back
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| Rhonda | Posted: Aug 19, 2006 01:26:01 AM I agree with Mbeth. Alos, If you are not sure what you want to do then try and find a way to talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. If you feel that you can't do that, find someone you trust that you can talk with and really weigh your options. A child is the most precious gift. It's yours right now and up to you as this childs mother to decide if you will raise the child or if you, as it's mother choose to put the child up for adoption. Just know, that what ever you choose to do, that you sound like your doing it out of love and concern for your child. I think you will make the right choice in the end. God bless and good luck to you. :) | ||
| Heather | Posted: Jul 21, 2006 10:54:19 AM Do what you feel is right for you and your baby. Get some counseling from a non-pressuring counselor that has a neutral opnion. If you decide to place, perhaps you can look at families that already have children or have fostered in the past and are more aware of risks then perhaps a couple with fertility issues that have been waiting 10 years for their child then ripping it away from them potentially. Not like it wouldnt hurt everyone just a suggestion. Talk honestly with couples if you decide to place and find someone who is strong to handle a risky placement. We are waiting for a match, however we have two young children and we will not risk a risky placement it is not fair to our kids they would not understand a brother or sister being taken away, although we could handle a mother changing her mind it is her choice, our kids cannot. Just our perspective from loosing a foster baby to relatives then having our son ask when our bio baby was born if someone was going to take her away and having to explain all that. Best Wishes! | ||
| Baila | Posted: Oct 22, 2005 03:04:17 PM I think that you need to look at the option of if you do indeed give up your baby for adoption will you intervene later and try to get the baby back after the adoption has gone through? If so, keep the baby, do not traumatize them by giving them up and then taking them back. | ||
| Sara | Posted: Mar 20, 2005 03:25:21 PM tottally in agreeance w/ angie, do what you want, but most importantly whats right for that baby, every state has different laws on adoption and your at the right place(americanadoptions) they can help u figure out what laws there are in ur state. if you want to talk with someone that has been there, email Pntrgrl024@hotmail.com I am trying to form a support group in my area of central Fl. feel free to seek advice, but listen to your heart | ||
| Angie | Posted: Jan 27, 2005 04:35:45 AM i kept my baby for a few months before placing, everyone was pushing for me to give the baby up. do NOT listen to what other people think you should do. i gave her up because i decided it was best for her, not because it was what was best according to the wants of the people around me. placing your baby in foster care wont help you either. you need to know waht its like to be a mom to make that desision, i would highly reccomend AGAINST foster care. i did love motherhood, but it was best for her, and its hard to be confident with that desision if you dont even know your child | ||
| MBeth | Posted: Jan 15, 2005 01:19:39 PM I am a mother of two adopted children. We work with an agency called LDS Family Services. Two Christmases ago we fostered a baby girl for three weeks while her birth mother took time to decide whether or not to place her for adoption. If you are not sure, find someone who will keep the baby for a couple of weeks after it is born and find out if you can go on without him/her in your daily life. You need to do what is best for your child. LDS Family services goes over all your options, not just adoption. You need to also remember that the choice you do make is not only going to affect you, but also your child. Best wishes! | ||
| KARYNE | Posted: Jan 14, 2005 01:59:18 AM Follow YOUR guts, you are the mom and no matter what THEY say, you know if you want that child the minute you have it in your arms. Of course, considering a good life for the baby is one important fact and as the mother, you should look at your situation now and see if it can get any better to give him a good environement. good luck. | ||
| Brandi Mastain | Posted: Dec 06, 2004 11:27:41 PM What is your situation? How old are you? | ||
| sam | Posted: Nov 11, 2004 11:08:37 AM i'm scared my mom and my boyfriend are making me put it up for adoption and i want to keep it. i wafnt to know if i do put it up for adoption will i be able to change my mind and get my baby back? | ||
