Birth mothers are often thought of as women who choose to "give up" their babies for adoption. From talk shows to websites and even to casual conversation among friends, the term "give up" has become synonymous with adoption.
But if we as a society stopped to think about what we were really saying, we’d realize that couldn't be further from the truth.
The reality is that women do not "give up" anything when choosing adoption for their baby.
Instead, they are choosing a life for their child - a life complete with all of the hugs, laughter and lullabies they desire for their children. By choosing adoption over abortion, birth mothers choose to do not what is easiest for themselves, but instead head down the difficult yet rewarding path to adoption out of nothing but pure love for their child.
Today's adoptions are very different than those even one generation ago, let alone those in the 1950s or 1960s. Gone are the days when a woman simply handed her baby over to an adoptive family, never to see or hear from them again – and never knowing how her child grew up or knowing how much her child was loved.
Today's birth mothers see firsthand how their baby grows up though pictures, letters and sometimes even visits and phone calls.
And finally, women not only choose adoption, but they also choose the life they imagine for their baby. From family pets and holiday traditions to values and education, a birth mother chooses a family for her baby that fits all of the hopes and dreams she has for her child.
Out of nothing more than pure love for her baby, a birth mother chooses adoption. And just as adoptive parents will cherish their new baby, they will also cherish the birth mother for not choosing to "give up" on her baby.
Rather than "giving up" their babies, birth mothers do quite the opposite: they place their babies into the arms of eternally grateful, loving families that will spend their days appreciating the gift that a special woman gave them.
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