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How to Find Adoptive Parents that are Perfect For Your Child

The Steps of Screening and Selecting an Adoptive Family

If you are considering adoption for your baby, it’s because you want to make sure they have access to all of the love and opportunities life has to offer. So, naturally, you may be anxious about finding adoptive parents that are perfectly suited to give your child the life you imagine. You may be wondering: "How will I ever find a family that’s the perfect fit for my baby?"

Looking for adoptive parents for your baby can seem intimidating. How does one find people who want to adopt a baby, let alone families wanting to adopt that happen to meet all of your expectations? And even if you find people who want to adopt and who seem like a good fit, how will you know they’re truly safe to work with and ready to raise your child?

That’s where we come in. By pre-screening each family looking to adopt a baby and working with you to understand the type of life you want for your baby, American Adoptions promises that you will find an adoptive family that matches your adoption plan.

How to Find Adoptive Parents for Your Baby

When looking for adoptive parents, American Adoptions will have you complete the following simple steps:

  • Step 1: Identify ideal couples looking to adopt.
    You may already have an image of an ideal adoptive family in mind when you decide to pursue adoption, or you may have no clue what kind of home you want your baby to grow up in. Your adoption specialist will help you to answer questions like whether or not you want your child to have siblings, whether your child should look like their adoptive family, where you picture your baby growing up, and more.

  • Step 2: Look through profiles of families that want to adopt.
    Once you have an idea of what you’re looking for in adoptive parents, your adoption specialist will show you profiles of people who want to adopt a baby that might match your preferences. These will come in the form of both print profiles and video profiles. When you find adoptive parents whose profile you like, your adoption specialist will introduce you to them. If all goes well, you’ve found your child’s adoptive parents!

  • Step 3: Form a relationship with your child’s prospective adoptive family.
    Once you find a couple to adopt your baby, you can begin to develop a relationship with them as soon as you’re ready. Your adoption specialist can schedule a phone call for you to get to know each other better and, if you want to move forward with them and your adoption plan, you can continue your relationship through phone calls, emails, text messages and whatever forms of contact you’re most comfortable with.

How Does American Adoptions Screen Parents Looking to Adopt a Newborn?

In addition to working with you to understand the type of life you want for your baby, American Adoptions pre-screens all families looking to adopt with our agency — all to ensure you find the family that best matches your adoption plan.

Pre-screening is the full screening of families who want to adopt before their profiles appear on our website and are presented to you as possible candidates to adopt your child. This means every family you are shown has already proven to be capable of providing your child with a safe and loving home.

Before we allow families who want to adopt to be considered by prospective birth mothers, they must meet the following criteria:

  • Complete the Home Study – A home study is a process in which we make sure the people who want to adopt a baby are ready to provide a safe and loving home to a child. A social worker will visit their home to get to know them better, understand why they are adopting and decide whether they are ready to add a child to their lives. During the visit, the social worker will also check their home to make sure it is childproofed. Finally, criminal, medical and financial background checks are conducted as a final level of protection.

  • Be Fully Committed to Adoption – Our adoption specialists talk to families that want to adopt in depth about their excitement to become parents through adoption. They make sure the family has dealt with their infertility and have fully transitioned toward adopting a child. It’s important that every couple who wants to adopt a baby is ecstatic about adoption, which is why we only list families on our website once we feel they are 100 percent committed to adoption.

  • Be Accepting of Contact with You – At American Adoptions, we always advocate some degree of openness, or communication, in an adoption whenever possible, as this benefits the birth parents and the adoptive parents as well as the adopted child. All of our families are excited to get to know you through a phone call and/or email exchange, to interact with you at the hospital, to send you pictures and letters of your child for up to 18 years after the adoption, and to have at least one in-person visit after placement if you wish. If you desire additional contact, you may work with the family you’ve chosen on further communication, or you may find an adoptive family who is seeking a more open adoption.

Will I Really Find Adoptive Parents for my Baby?

Yes. Finding adoptive parents may seem like a daunting task, but there are so many people looking to adopt a baby, and the right family for your child is out there. No matter what your circumstances and preferences are, there will always be couples looking to adopt a baby who will be a good fit for you and your child.

And you don’t have to find a family on your own. Your adoption specialist will work closely with you to understand exactly what you are looking for in someone to adopt your baby, based on race, age, religion, location, family size, contact preferences and much more.

Each of our hundreds of families looking to adopt a baby will then be searched. Based on your interests, you will be provided with several adoptive family print profiles and adoptive family video profiles — both of which will help you learn more about each family looking to adopt a baby:

  • Adoptive Family Profile – Once your adoption specialist understands the type of family you are interested in, you will be sent a selection of print profiles (either online or in the mail) with families that best match your adoption plan. The family profile provides a great deal of information about the adoptive family, such as their desire to become parents, their interests and hobbies, their house and neighborhood, and much more.

  • Adoptive Family Video Profile – Video profiles allow you to see an adoptive family in their own environment, with their family and friends, doing the things they love to do, so you know exactly what life would be like as a part of their family. Best of all, you will get to see their personalities and what makes them truly unique.


American Adoptions has hundreds of families who want to adopt a baby for to choose from, so you will find the perfect family to adopt your baby. And remember, all of our families have been pre-screened, so you know that each one is ready for adoption.

If you are looking for adoptive parents who are perfect for your baby, you can start by browsing our Find a Family page to view our current adoptive families. To learn more about any of our couples looking to adopt, or for help finding adoptive parents that are the perfect fit for your adoption plan, call 1-800-ADOPTION, or request free adoption information here.

Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. America Adoptions, Inc. provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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