Adoption vs. Abortion vs. Parenting

Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be very difficult and scary, and deciding what to do will be even harder.

While you may feel totally alone at this time, know that you aren't! According to the March of Dimes, nearly 60 percent of pregnancies in the United States are unplanned.

That is to say, millions of women have been in your shoes.

Keeping perspective at this time is critical. The most important thing to remember is that you have a choice. Every woman does.

There are three main paths: parenting, abortion or adoption. American Adoptions has gathered some information for you to review that may guide you in making your decision. The more informed you are, the better you will feel about your ultimate decision!

Cost Differences

Adoption There is no cost to you if you choose adoption. In fact, pregnancy-related expenses are paid for by the adoptive family, which often include medical care and living expenses. Examples may include: rent, utilities, maternity clothing, food, prenatal vitamins and any other medical expenses not covered by your insurance or Medicaid. You will be able to speak with your adoption specialist about your specific needs.
Abortion Depending on how far along you are in the pregnancy, the cost will range from $500-$2,000 for an abortion. There may also be additional charges for ultrasound, the "morning-after" pill, birth control and further medical treatment, should an infection should occur.
Parenting Parenting is the most expensive option. Total cost to parent a child ranges from $1,000-$2,000 monthly. This estimate may include but is not limited to: diapers, baby bottles, formula, clothing, car seat, day care, first aid supplies, blankets, crib or basinet, and hygiene products. A parent must also budget for shelter, food, transportation, and utilities to raise their child.

When all of these expenses are added up, it will cost approximately $12,000 - $24,000 per year to raise a child. This estimate does not include education and other items that children will require.

Similarities and Differences

Adoption vs. Abortion

Adoption Abortion
You can pursue earlier goals You can pursue earlier goals
You can live independently You can live independently
You will not have to parent prematurely You will not have to parent prematurely
You will avoid being forced into a hasty marriage or relationship You will avoid being forced into a hasty marriage or relationship
If you are a teenager, you can resume your youthful lifestyle If you are a teenager you can resume your youthful lifestyle
NoteThere are no similarities between parenting and abortion. One important similarity between adoption and parenting is that you can give life to your child and watch your child grow up.
Adoption Abortion
Your pregnancy ends with giving life Your pregnancy ends with death
You can feel good and positive about your choice You may feel guilt and shame about your choice
You will remember giving birth You will remember taking a life
You will have plenty of time to plan you and your baby's future Abortion is final; you can't go back on your decision
You can hold, name, and love your baby You will never know or treasure your baby
You can have continued contact with your baby You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop
(Bethany Christian Services)


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