In today’s adoptions, pregnant women have a great deal of control over the events of the adoption, which is known as their “adoption plan” or “adoption birth plan.”
When considering each step of your own adoption plan, it is important to ask yourself two questions:
What is best for your baby?
What is best for you?
By answering these questions, you will ensure that the adoption goes exactly how you want it, and that your child will have the life you have always hoped for him or her.
The following are the various steps of the adoption that you have control over:
Choosing a professional to assist you with your adoption plan is one of the most important decisions for both you and your child. It is important that your adoption professional…
is working in your best interest.
will build an adoption birth plan around your needs.
personally screens the families and only works with parents who are committed to adoption.
is available to you 24 hours a day.
is licensed and has qualified Adoption Specialists and counselors on staff to support you before, during and after the adoption.
Your adoption professional will help you find an adoptive family that best matches your adoption plan. To help you choose an adoptive family, ask yourself the following questions:
Do you want to choose the adoptive family, or do you want your adoption professional to choose one?
Do you want a large family with children already, or do you want a small family waiting on their first child?
Do you want a family that lives in the city, suburbs or in the country?
What kind of contact do you want with the adoptive family before and after the adoption?
The hospital stay is one of the most important parts of your adoption birth plan. Thinking about the hospital stay in advance will help you focus on the healthy birth of your baby. Here are some of the questions to consider while planning your hospital stay:
Do you want the adoptive family in the delivery room?
Which family members or friends do you want with you in the hospital?
Do you want to spend time alone with your baby?
Do you want to take pictures with your baby? With the adoptive family?
Do you want to leave the hospital with your baby and the adoptive family?
Adoption is becoming more and more open, and you are able to determine how much contact you’d like with the adoptive family during your pregnancy and after the adoption. Here are some questions to ask yourself about contact with the adoptive family and your child:
Do you want to get to know the adoptive family before committing to them?
Do you want to talk to them over the phone? Email? Skype? Or even in person?
Would you like to have an ongoing relationship with the adoptive family and your child?
Do you want picture and letter updates of your child?
What kind of post-adoption contact would you like to have with the adoptive family? How often?
At American Adoptions, an Adoption Specialist will work with you on your adoption plan to make sure the adoption process matches your exact wishes.
To ensure your adoption plan is documented and followed, your Adoption Specialist will help you complete some important forms that provide information about you, your baby, and the types of adoptive parents you want for him or her. Below, find a sample template for the adoption birth plan used by American Adoptions:
Personal Background Information
Your current address
Your date and place of birth
Your contact information
Your preferred method of contact
Emergency contact information
Pregnancy and Support Information
Your due date
The baby’s gender (if known)
Family members who know about your pregnancy and adoption plans
Any family support you have
Your feelings and reasons for considering adoption
Native American Heritage Information
Because of something called the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA), you will be asked to disclose any Native American heritage. It is important to provide accurate information, as this information may affect your adoption plan.
Birth Father Information
His identity, if known
The nature of your relationship with him
His role and support during the pregnancy
Whether or not he knows about the pregnancy or your adoption plan
Whether you think he will sign the adoption consent forms
Your marital status
If married, whether your husband is aware of the pregnancy
If married, whether your husband will consent/be involved in the adoption
Your race and heritage
Your height, weight and build
Your eye, hair and skin color
Your living arrangements
The names of your immediate family members
Your history of previous children, including their birth dates, genders, birth weights, and whether they are full or half siblings to your baby
Pregnancy History and Prenatal Care
Your previous pregnancies and births
Any accidents or complications during your current pregnancy
Any prenatal care you have received
Contact information for the doctor or clinic providing your prenatal care
Your Medicaid or insurance information
Employment and Education Information
Your current job
Your educational background and goals
Your hobbies and interests
Your history with adoption; whether you have been adopted or placed previous children for adoption
Your history of arrests or convictions
Contact with the Adoptive Family and Your Child
Your preferences for emails, phone calls, meetings and written communication with the adoptive family before and after the birth of your baby
Adoptive Family Characteristics
Family type (opposite-sex couple, same-sex couple, etc.)
Number of previous children
Neighborhood type (rural, suburban, urban)
Home type (apartment, single dwelling, etc.)
Hobbies and interests
Health History Information
Your history of any medical conditions
Your family’s history of any medical conditions
Any medications or drugs used during your pregnancy
Authorization form for the release of medical information
The Services You Would Like from American Adoptions
Searching for and selecting an adoptive family
Learning more about financial assistance with living expenses during pregnancy
Obtaining medical coverage and prenatal care
Adoption counseling and emotional support
Speaking with someone who has placed a child for adoption
Any other questions you may have
This adoption birth plan template may seem overwhelming at first, but it is an important piece of the process to help American Adoptions find the best possible adoptive parents for your baby.
To learn more about your adoption plan, or to obtain a sample adoption birth plan, please call 1-800-ADOPTION or complete the following to request free adoption information.
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