Abortion is fast and painless. A clean break. An easy way out. No one will ever have to know of my pregnancy.
Some women facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering abortion believe the statement above to be true.
The reality is abortion isn’t easy and it is far from painless.
Nearly all women who choose abortion or adoption for their babies will experience the grief and loss process. However, there is one major difference between the two processes.
With adoption, a woman must work through the grief of not being able to raise her baby at that point in her life. But as time passes, and with the help of adoption counseling, it is likely that the woman will reach the acceptance stage of the grief and loss process. She will accept the fact that even though she was unable to parent her child and may still experience times of sadness, her child is alive, happy and is being raised by a great family.
With abortion, the acceptance stage can be more difficult to reach. While the woman who chooses adoption can envision the smile on her child’s face that she sees through pictures or reads about in letters, the woman who chooses abortion is unable to envision her child’s face at all.
Women who have difficulty finding this acceptance can experience postpartum depression or post-abortion stress syndrome (PASS). PASS can last for several years, sometimes longer, and may manifest itself in symptoms such as anxiety, depression, flashbacks and even suicidal thoughts in extreme cases.
While choosing abortion or adoption are both difficult choices, some women think abortion will be the easiest and quickest solution to their unplanned pregnancy. One reason they don’t ever consider adoption is simply because they don’t understand how today’s adoptions work.
Today’s adoptions are much different from those in the past and those portrayed in the media. Now, the birth mother is in control of her adoption plan and chooses the adoptive family who will raise her child. She will receive pictures and letters and may even maintain a relationship with the family and child, if she chooses.
There is always an adoptive family seeking a similar relationship as the pregnant woman.
By choosing adoption, the woman gives life to her baby, gives an infertile couple a chance at becoming parents and gives herself a better chance of emotionally overcoming her unplanned pregnancy.
Whether you are considering abortion or adoption, contact American Adoptions for help with you decision.
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