“Abortion is fast and painless. A clean break. An easy way out. No one will ever have to know of my pregnancy.”
Some women facing an unplanned pregnancy believe the statement above to be true. But the reality is abortion isn’t easy, and it is far from painless.
Planned Parenthood’s most recent report states that from Oct. 1, 2011 to Sept. 30, 2012, the organization performed 327,166 abortions and only 2,197 adoption referrals. That equals just one adoption for every 149 abortions. Clearly more women choose abortion over adoption, but why?
It is common for women to believe abortion is a “quick fix” to a big problem. They often believe abortion is cheaper, more confidential, and better for their long-term wellbeing, when in reality it is quite the opposite, as they don’t understand the facts about adoption.
If you are considering abortion vs. adoption, here is a brief comparison of the two:
Cost – Abortions range from hundreds to thousands of dollars, depending on your stage of pregnancy. Conversely, not only is adoption free, but you may also receive living expenses from the adoptive family to help you cover pregnancy-related expenses such as rent, food, utilities, transportation and more.
Confidentiality – Some women choose abortion over adoption because it can be done confidentially. What they fail to realize is an adoption can also be completed confidentially, where her family, friends and community won’t know about it. Of course, hiding a pregnancy can be difficult, but adoption agencies like American Adoptions can help you by purchasing baggy clothing or providing a temporary out-of-town living situation. There is always a solution of keeping one’s pregnancy and adoption private.
Long-Term Wellbeing – Both abortion and adoption are emotionally difficult choices for a woman to make. With abortion, however, it is often harder to accept and live with the decision of terminating a pregnancy. While a woman who chooses adoption can see the smile on her child’s face through pictures or even in person, a woman who chooses abortion is unable to envision her child’s face at all.
Furthermore, women may have difficulty emotionally accepting their abortion decision and may later experience postpartum depression or post-abortion stress syndrome (PASS). PASS can last for several years, sometimes longer, and may manifest itself in symptoms such as anxiety, depression, flashbacks and even suicidal thoughts in extreme cases. Again, neither abortion nor adoption are easy choices to make, but abortion isn’t the emotional “quick fix” women sometimes believe they are signing up for.
While adoption and abortion are both difficult choices, some women think abortion will be the easiest and quickest solution to their unplanned pregnancy. One reason they don’t ever consider adoption is simply because they don’t understand the facts about adoption.
Today’s adoptions are much different from those in the past and sometimes portrayed in the media. If you choose adoption, you are in control of the adoption process and get to choose the adoptive family who will raise your child. You will receive yearly pictures and letters of your child and may even maintain a relationship with the family and your child.
And as mentioned before, your adoption services are completely free, and you may also be eligible to receive living expenses to help you with your pregnancy.
By choosing adoption, you give your baby the gift of a wonderful childhood, adoptive parents who may otherwise have no opportunity a chance at becoming parents, and yourself a better chance of moving on from this difficult time in your life.
While abortion is final, adoption is just the beginning.
We here at American Adoptions believe if more women knew the facts about adoption, the ratio of abortions vs. adoptions would be much lower than 149:1, and there would many more women happy with their decisions.
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