Suddenly facing an unplanned pregnancy can be jarring. Being pregnant is a huge life change that can be stressful even when planned; so it’s natural that many mixed emotions may come along with an unexpected pregnancy. An unintended pregnancy also brings with it a question we hear frequently: What are my options if I’m pregnant?
Whether it’s an unwanted pregnancy or not, every pregnant woman ultimately has three options. This article isn’t designed to push you toward any of those choices. Only you can decide what to do about your unplanned pregnancy. Never, under any circumstances, should anyone try to make up your mind for you. This article serves to simply provide you with some information about the three pregnancy options you now have:
The first question you ask yourself after learning about an unplanned pregnancy may have a simple answer: Am I ready to be a parent? For some women, the answer to that question is an immediate yes or no. If you’re on the fence, though, there are some things you may want to think about before making a decision one way or the other.
Are you financially stable enough to raise a child? In 2013, the average cost to raise a child until the age of 18 was $245,340, and that’s a number that’s only going to rise as time passes. Many women who ultimately decide not to parent do so because they’re not ready to financially provide for their child in the way that they wish.
Do you have a safe, stable home to raise your child in? For some women, this isn’t the case. Consider whether you have a good support system and a safe place to raise a child.
Do you want to be a parent? If the answer to this question is no, it’s okay. Not all women want to be parents, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Do you want to be a parent right now? It’s not uncommon for women to feel that it’s not the right time to become a mother when experiencing an unintended pregnancy. Even if you don’t feel that this child is an unwanted kid, you may not be ready to pause your education nor your career while you have a baby. Not becoming a parent now in no way means that you can’t do so later.
If any of these factors are making you question your readiness or your desire to become a parent, there’s no shame in that. Missouri women still have two additional unplanned pregnancy options.
You might assume that, as an adoption agency, we would try to talk you out of pursuing an abortion. That’s not the case. Again, no one can tell you what to do about your unplanned pregnancy. Only you know what’s best for you. If abortion is something you’re considering, we want you to be as educated about the process as possible:
There are three kinds of abortion. The first, which is known as the “abortion pill,” or “medication abortion,” costs around $800. The other two in-clinic options — aspiration or dilation and evacuation — can cost up to $1,500.
In the first 10 weeks of your pregnancy, you can take pills that end your pregnancy. You’ll take the first pill at a health center or doctor’s office and the second later at home. You’ll have the abortion at home.
Beyond 10 weeks, you will have to have an in-clinic abortion.
Missouri requires that women wait 72 hours after receiving state-directed counseling before having an abortion. This means you would talk with your doctor and then be required to wait three days before actually having the abortion.
If you are a minor, you must have parental consent for an abortion in Missouri.
For more information about abortion in Missouri, it’s important to remember there’s a lot of information on the Internet with ulterior motives. Using resources like Planned Parenthood to ensure accuracy will give you an unbiased portrayal of what abortion could mean for you.
The third of the is, of course, adoption. This option is frequently overlooked by women facing an in Missouri, and that may be because of misconceptions about what present-day adoption really is. To help combat that, we’ve compiled a few facts about choosing adoption for your baby:
You don’t pay to place your child for adoption. Adoption is completely free for birth mothers.
You aren’t “giving up” on your baby. This is a frequently used term in discussions involving adoption, but you aren’t “giving up” on anything. You’re putting your child first, and that takes a lot of strength.
You’re in charge of your adoption plan. With American Adoptions, you control every detail of the process.
With open adoption, you can have a lifelong relationship with your baby as well as his or her adoptive family.
Again, remember that you’re the only person who can make this decision. Your friends and family may have nothing but good intentions, but this choice is ultimately yours. If you are interested in adoption instead of keeping the baby or choosing abortion, we will of course be happy to help you make an adoption plan. However, our social workers are available to you 24/7 to help you talk about your Missouri unplanned pregnancy options no matter which one you ultimately choose. To speak with a social worker, call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time, or request free information here.
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