How to Place a Baby for Adoption in Missouri
And What it Really Means to ‘Give Baby Up’ for Adoption in MO
In many conversations about adoption, the phrase “giving a baby up for adoption” will almost inevitably come up. First, let’s make this clear: this terminology isn’t exactly accurate, nor is it particularly sensitive to the extremely emotional decision adoption can be for a pregnant woman. Giving your baby up for adoption in Missouri — or anywhere else — is not “giving up” in any sense of the phrase.
If you’re considering putting a baby up for adoption in Missouri, it’s because you want your child to have the best life imaginable, and you aren’t sure you can provide that at this point. This is an extremely difficult thought to have even if you don’t pursue adoption, and while you may technically be “giving a baby” for adoption, in no sense are you “giving up” on your child or “giving them away.”
An important process to understand in this scenario, then, is the one you will undergo if you do choose to place a baby for adoption in Missouri. Baby adoptions in Missouri can all look a little different depending on your circumstances, but the process is generally comprised of six main steps:
Step 1: Make the Adoption Decision.
This is one of (if not the) most difficult steps of placing a baby for adoption in MO. It’s a decision that will change your own life forever, as well as those of your child and possibly an adoptive family. It’s important that you are the only one to make this decision. No one can choose adoption for you. Your friends don’t get to decide what you do about this pregnancy, nor do your parents. And while the birth father does have rights in Missouri, even he shouldn’t make up your mind for you. Only you know what’s right for you and your baby.
Step 2: Create an Adoption Plan.
If you do choose to “give a baby up” for adoption in Missouri, you will be completely in charge of the way it happens. With American Adoptions, all prospective birth mothers craft their own adoption plans. You will work with your own adoption specialist, who will help you make sure your wants and needs for your baby’s adoption are met. She will guide you along each remaining step of the adoption process.
Step 3: Find an Adoptive Family in Missouri (or Another State).
This may be another difficult step in the process of “giving your baby up” for adoption in Missouri. Finding the perfect adoptive parents for your baby can be overwhelming, but your adoption specialist will help you to decide what you’re looking for and then narrow down the search with you. You can choose to find adoptive parents in Missouri or another nearby state, but American Adoptions also works with adoptive families all across the country, so you won’t be limited by geography. You’ll also be able to see their adoptive family profiles to give you an idea of what they’re like before committing to meeting them.
Step 4: Get to Know the Adoptive Family.
Again, your specialist will help you with this. At American Adoptions, we encourage at least some degree of openness in an adoption. This can mean having a complete open adoption relationship, in which you exchange contact information with the adoptive parents and communicate as much as you like using whatever method you’re comfortable with. It could also mean maintaining a semi-open relationship, in which you can communicate with the adoptive family and get updates on your baby through your adoption specialist. Your adoption specialist can help you get to know the adoptive family through an initial phone call, and you can continue getting to know them throughout your pregnancy in whatever ways you feel most comfortable.
The type of relationship you have with your baby’s adoptive family is completely up to you, and you can start building that relationship even before your baby is born. Getting to know the adoptive family before putting your newborn up for adoption in Missouri can help you feel more comfortable and confident in your adoption decision.
Step 5: Make a Hospital Plan.
This includes all of the things a woman typically prepares for her hospital stay, but a woman choosing adoption for her baby in Missouri has a few additional decisions to consider. Do you want the adoptive parents there for the baby’s birth? Who will be the first to hold your child? How much time do you want to spend with the baby? In Missouri, a pregnant woman cannot give consent to her child’s adoption until the baby is at least 48 hours old, so you’ll need to decide how you want those 48 hours (or more) to go. It’s a lot to consider, but your adoption specialist will go over every detail of your stay to make it as comfortable as possible for you.
Your adoption specialist will also help you prepare for the feelings of grief and loss you will likely have at this point in the process. The hospital stay is one of the most emotional parts of putting an infant up for adoption in Missouri. Don’t be afraid to lean on your adoption specialist for the support you need during this time.
Step 6: Stay in Contact After Placement.
Adoption doesn’t end as soon as placement occurs. You will always be a vital part of your baby’s story, and we do recommend that you maintain contact. Most women will choose to at least receive picture and letter updates until the child turns 18, and many opt to email, text, call or even visit with their child and his or her adoptive family. As long as you choose an adoptive family that has a similar vision of how your relationship should go, you can witness or take part in your child’s life as much as you wish to.
“Giving your baby up” for adoption in Missouri is an emotional process, and it’s important that you have someone you trust in your corner to help you complete these steps. To learn more about working with American Adoptions, call 1-800-ADOPTION, or request more free information here.
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