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Choosing A Waiting Family

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Choosing a family can be a fun, exciting part of the adoption process. Before reaching this stage, many pregnant women struggle with determining the best choice for their baby. Once a woman decides on adoption, she may feel some peace, but she will likely still feel anxious.

Beginning to focus on the selection of the adoptive parents can be a reassuring. It is common for some of the anxieties and confusing emotions to lift once you find the right family for you and your baby, because it can help make your choice become a lot clearer as the adoptive parents become real and you can start picturing them as loving, caring parents.

If you choose, you can get to know them on a personal level, which often instills trust on both sides. Often, it can be very important to get to know one another on a personal level so you do not feel like the adoptive parents you have chosen are strangers.

This can make choosing adoption much easier because there are not a lot of unknowns. Choosing the right family is a step in the right direction because now you can really focus on your adoption plan.

Once you have selected the adoptive family, you can begin imagining what your child's life will be like with this family. You can imagine them playing in the park, going to soccer games, opening presents during the holidays and taking family vacations.

You may feel contradicting feelings as you picture these images. On one hand, they are exactly what you want for your child, on the other hand, it makes you sad you are not the one to be there doing these things with your child. These feelings are very normal and are a sign that you are truly envisioning them as your child's parents. Another common feeling is that of joy and happiness for giving this couple the chance to become a mom and dad.

Every woman handles this part of the process differently, so it is important to know that you are not alone in any thoughts you are feeling.

You should feel wonderful knowing you have given this man and woman the opportunity to be parents - something no one else could have given to them. You should feel pride knowing that you have thought hard and chosen wonderful parents for your child.

You can choose from all sorts of families:

  • Doctors
  • Business Executives
  • Farmers
  • Teachers
  • Middle-class to wealthy families
  • Families who live in the city, on a farm or near the ocean
  • Families who have other children so your child will have siblings
  • Stay-at-home mothers
  • Parents who work from home
  • Families who live close to their extended families
  • Families who have pets
  • Religious families

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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