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4 Good Reasons Why You Should Adopt

“Without my son, I wouldn’t be where I am. I probably wouldn’t even be here today if it wasn’t for adoption.”  - Ted, adoptive father

It’s undeniably true that a countless number of people feel exactly like Ted: that life is not the same without the gift of becoming a parent. For that reason, thousands of people every year choose the life-changing path of adoption.

This will be one of the biggest decisions you can make in your life. And, whether infertility has held you back from starting your family or you have wanted to adopt for a while, this guide should help you determine when and why you should adopt a child.

If you feel that you are ready to begin your adoption journey, or if you’re wondering why you should adopt with American Adoptions, you can get more free information from our trusted adoption specialists when you call 1-800-ADOPTION today.

Should We Adopt a Child After Failed Infertility Treatments?

Before considering adopting a child, many couples attempt infertility treatments, such as in vitro fertilization (IVF).

Some find success, but many do not. In fact, according to the American Pregnancy Association, only 30 to 35 percent of women under 35 years old will become pregnant through IVF. As women get older, their chances of success decrease dramatically.

Many couples whose first attempts are unsuccessful try again and again. With each failed attempt, more money is lost, and sometimes the couple suffers mental and physical effects from the treatments. They may reach a point where they just can’t do it anymore, whether that’s:

  • Financially

  • Physically

  • Emotionally

But eventually, many couples decide that their real dream is to become parents, not to become pregnant. They realize that raising a child together is what’s important. Whether that’s through pregnancy or adoption doesn’t matter.

Why You Should Adopt a Child [4 Signs You’re Ready]

So, why should people adopt? And how do you know if this is the right solution for you at this time? Why you should adopt won’t have to feel like a second choice or last resort. You want to adopt because you have the love to give a child as if they were your own.

If you fully believe in the four statements below, then you are on the right path toward starting or growing your family.

1. You are Ready to Love a Child Unconditionally, Whether or Not You Share any Genetics

If you’ve gone through IVF procedures or other fertility treatments, then you’ve likely decided what’s really important to you is becoming a parent, not becoming pregnant.

When you choose to adopt, you must understand that the child will not necessarily look like you. They may not have your hair color or your partner’s nose, but they will have all of the love you can possibly give them.

And we promise: You will love your adopted child just as much as you would have if you had conceived them yourselves.

You should adopt only when you feel confident that you can provide the same unconditional love and support to your child, regardless of biological ties.

2. You Can Provide a Child with a Safe, Stable and Loving Home

You do not have to be wealthy to provide a child with a stable home.

But, you should be financially prepared to meet all of the monetary demands of the adoption process, such as:

  • Administrative expenses

  • Agency fees

  • Living and medical expenses for the birth parent

  • Legal expenses

  • And more

You will also need to maintain safety and cleanliness in your home and provide your child with all of the opportunities they deserve for the next 18 or more years.

There is a lot that goes into the adoption process and into parenting a child, and your finances should reflect that you are prepared for this undertaking.

3. You Understand There Will Be Emotional Highs and Lows of the Adoption Process

As the adoption process continues, there will be difficult moments for both you and your partner.

As every situation is different, no one can predict for sure when or what those moments will be. But, if you are ready to trust the process and believe that you will have the child you are meant to have when the adoption is finalized, then you can tackle the hardest challenges of this journey.

4. You and Your Partner are on the Same Page about Adoption

If you’re wondering why you should adopt while knowing your spouse is not quite ready, this is a discussion best tabled for another time.

Constant and meaningful communication with your partner is so crucial. Everyone comes to the adoption decision in their own time, but it’s important to discuss this life-changing path to welcoming in a child and becoming whole.

Why Should You Work with American Adoptions?

Because life offers so many memorable moments, sometimes it is hard to realize how special they are without a child there to remind us.

  • The joy a father sees in his son’s eyes when he attends his first baseball game

  • The excitement a mother sees on her daughter’s face the first time she looks out of an airplane window 30,000 above the ground

These are moments made special because of the presence of a child. And, to begin the process of starting or growing your family, you need a trusted adoption professional by your side every step of the way.

American Adoptions is ready to guide you with our many services and programs, such as:

  • Counseling and educational preparation for adopting a child

  • Our Risk-Sharing Program (we have saved adoptive families over $4.6 million since 2009)

  • Contact with a home study professional

  • Post-adoption support gatherings and events

  • Orientation conferences, meetings and adoption seminars

  • Hospital documentation, retrieval of medical records

  • And more


Adoption has given and continues to give people the opportunity to lead fulfilling, meaningful lives alongside their children and, in turn, provides children with opportunities in life once thought unachievable.

Are you fully ready to begin your adoption journey? If you’re wondering why you should adopt a child with American Adoptions, you can get more free information from our trusted adoption specialists when you call 1-800-ADOPTION today.

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Do we need to retain our own attorney?

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Can we choose the gender of our baby?

American Adoptions does not allow gender specificity in adoption. Any family who wishes to be gender-specific in their adoption should contact us at 1-800-ADOPTION and ask about the possibility of an exception waiver before taking any other steps toward adoption with our agency. Any families who do receive an exception to be gender-specific may also incur an additional fee, which helps cover the additional advertising costs of such a request.

Please note that gender specificity will likely increase your wait time significantly.

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