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Why Self-Matching Still Requires Professional Support

Knowing someone who wants to place is a meaningful start. But even with that connection, adoption is a legal and emotional process that must be handled with care.

National data shows that only 1 out of every 100 women who consider adoption will ultimately choose to place a child. It's important that you connect with a pregnant mom who is more committed to the process and is more likely to have a successful placement. The image below shows where most agencies match their families and where American Adoptions connects families with expectant moms. 

How to people will eventually drop off once conversations start to happen causing a funneling down of people

Without an agency involved to offer licensed counseling, ethical education, and legal safeguards, families in self-matches often face greater risk, both emotionally and legally. Additionally, using the right agency matters, too.

Connect with an adoption professional about your situation to make sure it is not at risk.

How American Adoptions Supports Independent Matches

If you’ve already connected with a birth mother, we can step in and ensure the process is legal, ethical, and supported on both sides.

With over 13,000 adoptions completed and more than 30 years of experience, we’ve built one of the most trusted full-service adoption programs in the country. That experience matters—especially when the path starts with a personal connection.

Here’s how we support your independent match:

  • Counseling:

    We assign her one of our 100+ licensed social workers for unbiased education and emotional support.

  • Legal:

    We coordinate consent and finalization processes in compliance with both states’ laws as we are licensed in more states than any other adoption professional.

  • Coordination:

    From expenses to hospital planning, we manage every detail to avoid disruption.

Take this link to see our complete level of support for your adoption.

How Do Different Professionals Support a Self-Match?

Here is a breakdown of different adoption paths and professionals and the of support offered.

Professional Type

Legal Oversight

Counseling Support

Coordination Support

American Adoptions (Full-Service)

✅ Yes

✅ Yes

✅ Yes

Family Acting Alone

❌ No

❌ No

❌ No

Attorney Only

✅ Limited*

❌ No

❌ No

Facilitator or Online Platform

❌ No

❌ No

❌ No

       

One Connection. Full Support

We understand that finding someone is rare and meaningful. That’s why we offer full-service support even when you don’t need help with outreach. Let us walk with you—and her—from this point forward. A personal connection is a great first step. Licensed professionals make it a secure adoption.

Next Step: Need legal and emotional guidance for your self-match? We’re ready to support you both, so contact us today.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Do we need to retain our own attorney?

No, American Adoptions has established relationships with some of the best adoption attorneys in the nation. Because adoption laws vary from state to state and between counties, it is important to utilize the services of an adoption attorney who specializes in the state where the adoption will finalize, which is unknown until you match with an expectant mother. You have the right to retain your own attorney, but doing so may be an additional, unnecessary expense.

Can we choose the gender of our baby?

American Adoptions does not allow gender specificity in adoption. Any family who wishes to be gender-specific in their adoption should contact us at 1-800-ADOPTION and ask about the possibility of an exception waiver before taking any other steps toward adoption with our agency. Any families who do receive an exception to be gender-specific may also incur an additional fee, which helps cover the additional advertising costs of such a request.

Please note that gender specificity will likely increase your wait time significantly.

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