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How to Find an Older Couple Looking to Adopt

When women choose to pursue adoption for their babies, it’s not uncommon for them to have a picture of an ideal adoptive family in mind. For some women, this image involves an older, well-established couple looking to adopt. If that’s the case for you, American Adoptions can help you find the ideal adoptive parents you’re looking for. This article outlines both the requirements that must be met when an older couple wants to adopt, as well as some of the reasons why a woman might be interested specifically in an older couple looking to adopt.

When an older couple wants to adopt, what requirements do they have to meet with American Adoptions?

For any family to work with American Adoptions, they must first meet three requirements:

  1. A completed home study. Regardless of where the family lives or the type of adoption they choose to pursue, no one can become an adoptive parent without first passing an adoption home study. A home study evaluates a family based on three main criteria: a documentation phase that includes background checks, financial records and medical records; a home inspection; and interviews with each family member living in the home. 

  2. A full commitment to adoption. It’s not uncommon for families who eventually pursue adoption to have first had a painful struggle with infertility. If this is the case, it’s extremely important that the family has confronted and grieved this loss and moved on to be fully committed to and excited about adoption. They should be just as excited to grow through adoption as they would have been to biologically reproduce.

  3. An agreement to contact with the birth parents. For a family to work with American Adoptions, they must agree to at least send photo and letter updates of a child for 18 years after placement. You won’t have to wonder how your child is doing, because you’ll be receiving regular updates. Of course, if you’d like to have more or less contact with your child’s adoptive family, that can absolutely be arranged. Your adoption specialist will help you to match with a family whose views about contact between adoptive parents and birth parents align with your own.

American Adoptions works with adoptive parents between the ages of 22 and 50, although it’s possible that, if a family’s looking to adopt over 50, they may be considered if they meet the above adoption requirements. Every family who works with American Adoptions has been determined by a home study professional to be healthy and fit to care for a new child, both medically and financially, regardless of their age.

Why might a woman be interested specifically in an older couple looking to adopt?

Just as every woman is different, every woman is going to have a different picture of the ideal adoptive family. If you’re interested in finding an older couple that wants to adopt, it may be for any of the following reasons:

  • You want to ensure that your child’s adoptive parents have established, stable careers and will be able to take time away from work to be present in your child’s life without jeopardizing their jobs.

  • You want to ensure that your child’s adoptive parents’ relationship is strong, stable and built to last.

  • You want your child to be raised with adoptive parents that have had more life experience before choosing to parent.

If you are interested in finding older adoptive parents for your baby, don’t hesitate to speak with your adoption specialist if you have a particular desirable age range for adoptive parents so that she can accommodate this preference.

What other factors should a woman consider when thinking about adoption for her baby?

When thinking about an ideal family for your child, age is just one factor to consider. You can also choose an adoptive family based on preferences like the following:

  • Does it matter to you if your child looks like his or her adoptive family? Of course, since there will be no shared DNA, there’s a limit to any possible physical resemblance. However, some women prefer to place their babies with families who share their own cultures.

  • Where do you envision your child growing up? American Adoptions works with families across the country, so whether you picture your child in a rural setting or a large city, your hopes can be accommodated.

  • Is it important to you that your child grow up with siblings? Some women want to place their babies with couples who haven’t been able to have their own yet, while others have fond memories of growing up with their own siblings and want to ensure the same for their children.

  • What other values are important to you? Do you want your child’s family to share your religious values? Your cultural beliefs?

No matter what you picture for your child, American Adoptions can help you to make that dream a reality. To learn more about older couples looking to adopt, please contact American Adoptions at 1-800-ADOPTION.

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Having trouble finding the perfect adoptive family online? Don’t be discouraged. American Adoptions is currently working with many adoptive families at all stages of the process — and not all of them are currently listed on our website. In addition, we work with a nationwide network of other adoption professionals that can help us conduct a wider search for exactly the family you’re looking for.

To discuss your preferences for an adoptive family and get help finding them, reach out to an adoption specialist by calling 1-800-ADOPTION at any time.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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