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"The Love Was Breathtaking" - How Carly Made the Best of a Hard Situation

Carly is a brave birth mother who chose adoption to give her baby a life full of love and opportunities. If you feel inspired by her story, contact us today or call 1-800-ADOPTION to get free information about the adoption process. 

*Please note: This story contains information regarding a sexual assault.*

My story started in April of 2008. On April 18, 2008, I was date raped at a party. I was not drinking or doing anything illegal, but I was still a victim.

I went home and didn’t know what to do. I decided to go on with my life. Well, two weeks later I realized that my period was late. I decided it was stress and let it go.

I moved back to my parents’ house from Phoenix, where I was playing college softball. I finally told my mom what happened. I went and bought a test and found out I was pregnant.

The next few months were a blur. I found a doctor that my mom recommended, and I went to an adoption lawyer who connected me with American Adoptions. The lawyer gave me some profiles of adoptive families. I was reading through them when all of the sudden I couldn’t get one of the couples out of my head. They seemed like the perfect parents for my son.

I was set up to work with Lizzie as my adoption specialist from American Adoptions. She was all I could ever have asked for and more. She cried with me and laughed with me. Talking with the adoptive couple, Jason and Teresa, was all I ever hoped it would be. When I was seven months pregnant, they decided to fly my mom and I out to meet them and their family. Meeting their family and feeling the love they had for me and my son was breathtaking. I got to see where my little man was going to grow up. That reaffirmed in my mind that they were the best parents for my son. We returned home after a long weekend with promises of talks at least once a week.

About three weeks after I met Jason and Teresa, I went in for a routine doctor’s appointment. My blood pressure was high and they sent me to the hospital. I was admitted, and a few days later I was told I had preeclampsia, a life-threatening condition if not treated properly. I was put on best rest in the hospital for the rest of my pregnancy. Three weeks later, my blood pressure was still too high, so the doctors decided to have me deliver via cesarean section that afternoon. I called Jason and Teresa and told them that their son was on the way.

I had my son, who weighed 6lbs 3 ounces, at 2:05 that afternoon. Jason and Teresa arrived at 8 p.m. I had the great pleasure of being the first person to hand Teresa her son and say, “Here is your baby”. Watching Jason and Teresa fall in love while holding him was such a great sight. We were in the hospital for four days. I signed the legal papers for adoption after two days.

It was the most heart-wrenching thing I have ever had to do. My son is now almost 6 months old, and I have received pictures and letters often. Thank you all for reading my story.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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