Putting Children Up for Adoption Together
The Importance of Sibling Groups
If you’ve found yourself confronted with the thought, “I don’t want my children,” because of financial anxiety, lack of support or behavioral issues, we’re here to help. You’re not alone in feeling helpless as a parent. Things seem so difficult; the only way for everyone to have a better life seems to be putting children up for adoption.
You probably have a lot of questions now.
How do you put children up for adoption?
What is the process for placing children for adoption together?
If there are siblings, will they get separated?
Is there anything else I can do in this situation?
You can place children for adoption together, and adoption agencies like American Adoptions will place siblings with the same family whenever possible. In this guide, we’re going to answer these questions in more detail and provide you with practical, helpful information. The situation you are in is challenging, but not impossible. You can find a solution for yourself and your children that brings everyone to a better place in life.
Placing your children for adoption can be the best choice you ever make for yourself and your family. To get more information now, contact us online or call 1-800-ADOPTION for free information and support.
How to Know if Adoption is Right for Your Children
When you are having thoughts like, “I don’t want my children,” you need to make sure these are not fleeting thoughts or temporary difficulties. Depression, anxiety and many other things can lead you to feel like parenting is impossible. It is a more common thought for mothers than you may think, and, in many cases, it is only a tough season of life.
Putting children up for adoption is a life-changing decision. That’s why it’s important to be 100 percent sure that adoption is the best choice for you and for your children. Adoption is a brave and selfless way to give your baby the best life possible.
“I just came to the point where I didn’t want their life to consist of their mom working really hard at two jobs just to get by, and then I’m barely home,” said Casey. “Some people are a product of their environment… I didn’t want the streets to raise them because I’m so busy trying to provide for them, and I wanted them to have a father figure.”
Adoption could be one of the best decisions you ever make because of the opportunities it can give you and your children. You will be able to move forward with the goals and dreams you have envisioned for yourself. You’ll be able to find peace in the fact that your children will be raised by a loving family who can open up a world of possibilities for them.
“It was super tough at first, but I knew it was what needed to happen, that we weren’t in the right place and it wasn’t the right environment to bring two babies into,” said Janelle. “[There was] no hesitation going into the adoption process... I already loved the babies, even though they weren’t born, and I knew that’s what they needed.There are many more questions you can ask, as well as other factors that will impact this decision. There may be more resources available to you than you realize, too. Sometimes it helps to talk this over with a professional. If you are considering placing your baby and his or her siblings for adoption, you can call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time to speak with an adoption specialist about not wanting to parent and how to put children up for adoption.
The Importance of Sibling Groups Staying Together
Putting your children up for adoption is an incredibly selfless and heroic act. This decision undoubtedly comes from a place of love, because you are trying to do what is best for you and for your kids. There are a few things you should know.
First, you are not “giving up” by choosing adoption. It is common to hear phrases like “give up children” or “giving your kids up for adoption.” But when you choose adoption, you are making a brave decision. There’s no “giving up” here — only giving a chance at a better life.
Second, if you are placing more than one child for adoption at the same time, you should know that it is incredibly important for your children to stay together, if at all possible. It is likely you are wondering whether siblings will get separated when putting children up for adoption. A bulk of research has shown how important it is to maintain a sibling connection through adoption.
There are some myths about siblings in adoption, like that it is good for an older child to have space from a younger sibling, or that separating brothers and sisters will prevent sibling rivalry. These are not true. Maintaining sibling groups in adoption will help children cope with this transition. A sibling is someone who you can trust and relate to, which is a vital relationship for any child in the adoption process.
How American Adoptions Can Help
If you are considering putting children up for adoption together, American Adoptions may be able to help. Typically, it is more difficult to place older children for adoption. This may still be true in your situation, and you may have a difficult time trying to place an older sibling group for adoption with a private adoption agency, depending on their ages. American Adoptions primarily specializes in placing newborns and infants and can assist with some toddler and older child placements on a case-by-case basis.
If you want to place your newborn for adoption along with his or her sibling(s), our agency will not split the children up. American Adoptions recognizes the importance of sibling groups. There are many loving adoptive parents who would be willing to respond to the need of a sibling group adoption.
On the other hand, American Adoptions may not be the best adoption agency for you if any of the children you wish to place are more than a few years old. In this case, you may decide to place your newborn or infant for adoption with our agency through an open adoption, which would allow your baby to maintain a relationship with his or her other siblings, or you may consider other parenting resources or adoption professionals who are better equipped to place older child sibling groups.
It is very common for birth parents to place a baby for adoption when they are raising other children. In fact, choosing adoption for your baby, can be the best decision for your baby as well as your other children. That’s why birth mother Lindsey chose adoption for her daughter, Charlotte, while parenting her older daughter, Trinity.
“Even when Trinity was in my belly, I promised her, ‘I’m going to give you the absolute best life that you deserve,’” Lindsey said. “When I got pregnant with Charlotte, I promised her the exact same thing. Giving both of them the best life meant placing Charlotte for adoption and continuing to take care of Trinity and the health issues that she has.”
If you work with American Adoptions when you are putting your children up for adoption, you will have control over the adoption process and be respected by everyone involved. This means things like:
Creating your adoption plan with the help of an adoption specialist.
Deciding what level of openness you would like in your adoption because we encourage and happily facilitate open adoptions.
Having peace of mind knowing who will be raising your child because you will be able to choose the adoptive family who is right for your children
24/7 counseling and support because our adoption specialists are here to provide support and an outlet as you navigate the emotions of adoption.
Just like in a domestic infant adoption of a single infant, you are in the driver’s seat of the adoption process as the mother. This process won’t be easy. There will be significant emotional challenges, and the transition will be hard for both you and your children. But our dedicated staff is here to do everything possible to help, and knowing you are in charge can bring some sense of relief.
What Do I Do Next?
Parenting may still be possible with the right help, or putting your children up for adoption may be the right decision for you. This is a difficult decision, and either choice will involve challenges. However, adoption is a brave, selfless, heroic choice that can create a better future for you, your baby and your other children.
If adoption is the best choice for your family, you can be sure that your children will stay together and that you will be treated with respect at American Adoptions.
If you’re considering placing a sibling group for adoption, you can always get free information and schedule a time to speak with an adoption specialist to go over all of your options. We want what is best for you and your kids — whatever that may be.
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