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How to Find Non-Religious Adoptive Families

Choosing adoption for your baby is a big step, and it’s likely one that you’re considering because you aren’t sure you can give them the life they deserve. But how to make sure they get that through adoption? This is where we come in. At American Adoptions, we can help to make sure we find the ideal adoptive family for your child.

The perfect adoptive family, of course, will look different for every woman. Many women have religious preferences when it comes to considering adoptive parents, and that’s absolutely something that can be accommodated. If you are atheist or agnostic and looking for religious-free adoption families, this article is designed to help you learn more about finding the perfect match.

Why would a pregnant woman choose to place her baby with an atheist or agnostic family?

For many women, religious beliefs play a large role in choosing adoption in the first place — but that doesn’t mean everyone shares those beliefs. If you are atheist, agnostic, or just not attached to any particular religious belief system, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It’s understandable that you might want the adoptive family you choose for your child to mirror that philosophy.

Some reasons that women ultimately choose to place their baby with religious-free adoption families include:

  • The woman herself is an atheist or uncomfortable with the idea of her child being raised practicing any certain organized religion.

  • The woman wants her child to have the freedom to choose if religion is right for him or her in the first place, and then to have the freedom to explore different options.

  • The woman wants her child’s adoptive family to place other values above religion, such as politics or science.

Whatever reasons you have for being interested specifically in religious-free adoption families, American Adoptions can make sure that desire is accommodated. Our website has a tool that allows you to search through families who are currently active with us, but please keep in mind that we are always working with families in various stages of the adoption process, so not all of our agnostic/atheist adoptive families are currently listed online.

Just because you may not find the perfect family listed on our website doesn’t mean we can’t help you find them. Please speak with an adoption specialist for help finding your perfect adoption match.

Questions to Ask Prospective Religious-Free Adoptive Families

While your adoption specialist will be there to help you through every step of the way, getting to know a prospective adoptive family can be intimidating. It may be difficult to bring up religious beliefs in early conversations with a new person, but if it’s important to you that your child be placed with religious-free adoptive families, it may be helpful to prepare a list of questions like the following:

  • What appeals to you about this belief system? Were you raised in a religious family?

  • Do you interact with others that share this belief? Of course, you aren’t attending church, but is there a community of like-minded individuals that you interact with?

  • Why is this belief system important to you?

  • What is your own religious background like?

  • Are you tolerant of those who practice various religions?

  • How do you plan to teach your children about religion as they grow up?

What other qualities should I look for in a prospective non-religious adoptive family?

Once you’ve decided to look only at religious-free adoption families, your adoption specialist will have you consider a few additional questions:

  • Does it matter to you where your child grows up? As a national adoption agency, American Adoptions works with families across the entire country. This means that whether you picture your child growing up in a warm climate, an urban area or a farm in the Midwest, that can all be accommodated.

  • Do you have strong feelings about your child having siblings? Some women prefer to place their babies with families who have struggled with infertility and who don’t yet have children of their own. Others have fond memories of growing up with siblings and want to make sure their babies have the same experience, so they place with families who already have one or more children.

  • What values are important to you in potential adoptive parents? Religious affiliations aside, do you want your child’s parents to have certain political views? What about work ethic or education or other things that might be important to you?

No matter what your ideal adoptive family looks like, American Adoptions is prepared to help you find it. For more information about finding religious-free adoption families, please call American Adoptions at 1-800-ADOPTION, or request free information here.


Having trouble finding the perfect adoptive family online? Don’t be discouraged. American Adoptions is currently working with many adoptive families at all stages of the process — and not all of them are currently listed on our website. In addition, we work with a nationwide network of other adoption professionals that can help us conduct a wider search for exactly the family you’re looking for.

To discuss your preferences for an adoptive family and get help finding them, reach out to an adoption specialist by calling 1-800-ADOPTION at any time.

Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. America Adoptions, Inc. provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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