Whether you're placing a child for adoption, growing your family, or exploring your rights as an adoptee, Missouri law outlines specific protections, requirements, and procedures for everyone involved.

When you understand your legal rights and options, you can move forward with clarity and peace of mind. This guide walks you through the most important aspects of Missouri adoption law — and how our agency can support you every step of the way.

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For Birth Mothers: Your Legal Rights

Can I choose adoption for my baby?

Yes. Missouri law recognizes your right to voluntarily place your child for adoption. The adoption must be approved by a court, which will review whether it’s in the child’s best interest and whether all consents were given legally and freely. A licensed adoption agency can help guide you through every legal step.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030

When can I give my baby up for adoption?

You can begin making an adoption plan at any time, including before birth. However, Missouri law requires that you wait until at least 48 hours after your baby is born before signing any legal consent to adoption.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030.8

Can I get my baby back after adoption?

Once your consent is signed, notarized, and accepted by the court, it becomes final and irrevocable, unless you can prove that it was obtained under fraud or duress. Adoption in Missouri is designed to ensure permanency and security for the child and adoptive family.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030.7

Can you do adoption without the father's consent?

Possibly. If the father has not legally established paternity, failed to support the child, or has not filed with the Missouri Putative Father Registry, his consent may not be required. However, he must be given proper notice and an opportunity to object.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030.3

Do both birth parents have to sign adoption papers in Missouri?

Generally, yes — both legal parents must consent unless one parent’s rights have already been terminated or the court finds their consent is not necessary due to abandonment or unfitness.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.040

Can I get paid for adoption?

You cannot be paid to place your baby for adoption, but Missouri allows adoptive parents to cover reasonable living, medical, legal, and counseling expenses during pregnancy. All payments must be disclosed and approved by the court.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.075

Can you choose who adopts your baby?

Yes. As the birth mother, you can choose the adoptive family and decide what type of relationship — if any — you want to maintain after placement. Your adoption specialist will provide profiles and help you find the right match.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.080

Can people from a different state adopt my baby?

Yes. Interstate adoptions are legal under the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children (ICPC), which requires both Missouri and the other state to approve the placement before the baby can be moved across state lines.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 210.620

Can I give my baby up for adoption without any agency?

Yes, but even in an independent adoption, you’ll need an attorney to ensure compliance with Missouri law. Home studies, background checks, and court filings are still required.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.014

Can my spouse adopt my child?

Yes. Stepparent adoptions are a common legal process in Missouri and are often simpler than other types of adoption. The non-custodial parent may need to consent unless their rights have been legally terminated.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.040(1)

Can my family adopt my baby?

Yes. Missouri allows for relative adoptions, and courts may expedite the process if it’s in the best interest of the child. Parental rights must still be legally terminated.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.015(3)

Can you anonymously put a baby up for adoption?

Yes. Under Missouri’s Safe Place for Newborns Act, you can leave an infant up to 45 days old with a hospital staff member, firefighter, or law enforcement officer — no questions asked.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 210.950

Can I have contact with my child after the adoption?

Yes. You can agree to a post-adoption contact arrangement (PACA) with the adoptive family. These are legally enforceable in Missouri if included in the final decree.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.080.3

How does tribal adoption work for Native American children?

If your child is eligible for membership in a federally recognized tribe, the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) applies. Tribes must be notified, and preference is given to placement within the child’s tribe or extended family.

25 U.S.C. §§ 1901–1963

Can I drop my baby off at a fire station?

Yes. Fire stations are among the designated Safe Havens under Missouri law, provided the baby is 45 days old or younger.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 210.950

What rights do biological parents have after adoption?

Once the adoption is finalized, your legal rights as a parent are permanently terminated. Any ongoing contact would only be allowed through a pre-approved PACA.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.080.4

For Adoptive Families: Starting Your Family with Confidence

Do you have to be married to adopt in Missouri?

No. Single adults and married couples may adopt in Missouri. There is no requirement to be married unless adopting as a couple.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.010

How old do you have to be to adopt a baby?

You must be at least 21 years old to adopt in Missouri, and you must pass background checks and meet home study requirements.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.067

Do you need a home study for a private adoption in Missouri?

Yes. A licensed social worker must complete a home study before any adoption is approved, unless the court waives this for certain relative placements.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.070

Do you need a home study for an independent adoption?

Yes. Even when adopting independently, a court-approved home study is required.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.070

Can you adopt without an agency?

Yes, but legal representation is still required. All background checks, consents, and filings must comply with Missouri law.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.014

What are the steps to adopt?

• Complete a home study
• Pass background and financial checks
• Match with a birth mother or child
• Sign and file all legal consents
• Attend finalization hearing in court

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030

Can you adopt a child from another state?

Yes. The adoption must follow ICPC rules, which require approval from both Missouri and the child’s home state before placement.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 210.620

Can we advertise for a birth mother?

No. Only licensed adoption agencies and attorneys may advertise for birth parents or children. Unlicensed advertising is prohibited.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.014.5

Can a birth father stop an adoption?

Potentially. If the father has established legal rights and is actively parenting or supporting the child, he may contest the adoption. Otherwise, the court may proceed without his consent.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030.3

What if the birth parents don't sign adoption papers?

The court may terminate parental rights if a parent has abandoned, neglected, or abused the child, or is unfit to parent.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 211.447

When is an adoption finalized in Missouri?

Finalization typically occurs after the child has lived with the adoptive family for at least six months and all post-placement requirements are met.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.080

Can birth mothers change their mind?

Yes — but only until their consent is filed with and accepted by the court. After that, it is binding unless shown to be given under fraud or duress.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030.7

Are adoptive parents on the birth certificate in Missouri?

Yes. Once the adoption is finalized, a new birth certificate is issued with the adoptive parents’ names, and the original is sealed.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 193.125

What rights do adoptive parents have after adoption?

Adoptive parents have full parental rights, the same as if they were the child’s biological parents — including custody, inheritance, and decision-making.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.080.4

Are open adoptions legally binding in Missouri?

Yes — if the open adoption agreement is approved by the court and included in the final decree, it is enforceable.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.080.3

Does ICWA apply to private adoptions in Missouri?

Yes. ICWA applies to all adoptions involving Native American children, including private and independent adoptions.

Mo. Rev. Stat. § 453.030.11

What support is available after adoption?

Support options may include:

• Post-placement counseling
• Medical and background information access
• Financial subsidies for special needs children in state care

(Missouri law does not specify; agency/DSS provided)

For Adoptees

If your adoption was completed through our agency, we can help you:

• Request medical or family history
• Explore reunification with your birth family
• Access post-adoption counseling and support

If your adoption was completed elsewhere, check out this page to learn how to request records and begin your search.

What’s Next?

Understanding Missouri adoption law can help you confidently take the next step — whether that’s making an adoption plan or growing your family through adoption.

Talk to a Missouri adoption specialist today. We're here to support you every step of the way.

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