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You Are Not "Giving Up" by Choosing Adoption

You Are Choosing the Best Life Possible for Your Baby

Giving a baby up for adoption isn't giving up; it's giving life — one that’s full of excitement, joy, and opportunity.

Birth mothers are often thought of as women who choose to "give up" their unborn babies for adoption. From talk shows, to websites, and even to casual conversation among friends, the term "give up" has become synonymous with adoption.

But if we as a society stopped to think about what we were really saying, we’d realize that it couldn't be further from the truth.

The reality is that women do not "give up" anything when choosing adoption for their baby.

Instead, they are choosing a life for their child — a life complete with all of the hugs, laughter and lullabies they desire for their children. By choosing adoption over abortion, these women choose to do not what is easiest for themselves but instead head down the difficult yet rewarding path to adoption out of nothing but pure love for their child.

Adoption Is Better Than Ever

Today's adoptions are considerably different than those from the mid-1900s and even those from the 1980s.

Gone are the days when a woman simply handed her baby over to an adoptive family, never to see or hear from them again — and never knowing how her child was doing or how much her child was loved. Today's birth mothers see firsthand how their babies grow up though pictures, letters and sometimes even visits and phone calls.

And finally, women not only choose their adoption path, but they also choose the life they imagine for their baby. From family pets and holiday traditions to values and education, a woman chooses a family for her baby that fits all of the hopes and dreams she has for her child.

Rather than "giving up" their babies, these women do quite the opposite: they place their babies into the arms of eternally grateful, loving families that will spend their days appreciating the gift that a special woman gave them.

Please remember, no matter where you are in your pregnancy, whether your child is unborn or you just gave birth, we can help.

Speak with an Adoption Specialist now, confidentially and with no obligation, by calling 1-800-ADOPTION or click the following for free adoption information.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

Additional Resources

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