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"I Need Someone to Adopt My Baby, But How Do I Find the Perfect Fit?"

How You Can Find a Family for Your Child with American Adoptions

When you’re considering adoption, there’s one big question you might be thinking:

“Is there anyone who wants to adopt my baby?”

The answer is yes. And even better, there are many different kinds of families to choose from. With American Adoptions, you can be sure you’ll find the perfect one. We’ve helped thousands of women, like birth mother Frances, find the perfect adoptive parents for their babies. We can help you, too. Start by getting free information.

“Rachel [my adoption specialist] said, ‘Frances, you’ll know when you have picked the perfect family,’” Frances said. “When we talked to Chris and Courtney, in the middle of the conversation, I knew Chris and Courtney were the ones.”

If you are thinking, “I need someone to adopt my baby,” make American Adoptions your first call. With our personal adoption experience, our specialists have helped many women place their babies for adoption, and we can help you, too. You will always be in charge every step of the way, and our specialists will be there to support you every moment in the process.

But, how exactly do you go from searching, “How to get someone to adopt my baby?” to actually finding a couple to adopt your baby? And, most importantly, how do you make sure they are the right choice?

We know how important finding the perfect family is to having a successful adoption journey. You can learn more about this process below, or you can always contact us at 1-800-ADOPTION to start your adoption journey today And if you’re a family who wants to learn more about adopting a baby, you can always fill out our online form to get free info, as well.

Can Anyone Adopt My Child?

If you are considering placing your child for adoption and asking yourself, “If I want someone to adopt my baby, where do I look?” you may have reservations about choosing complete strangers to be parents to your baby. This is completely normal; every mother wants to make sure she is only doing the absolute best for her child.

So, you’re probably asking, “Can anyone adopt a child?”

The answer is no. Many women think to themselves, “I’m considering adoption for my child, but how I know the adoptive family will provide a safe home?”  The good news is that only people who have been properly screened and approved are able to adopt a child. All adoptive families must go through certain steps before they are ready to adopt, steps that prepare them for the unique challenges of raising an adopted child. The training and screening they receive is a crucial part of making sure a child is placed with only the best family possible — alleviating your fears as a prospective birth mother.

Every adoptive family you see knows how important this process is, and each one takes it seriously:

“The adoption home study had my husband and I sweating bullets. It didn’t matter how ready we were to become adoptive parents, how prepared we felt, or even how much we had prayed for this opportunity”

When you find a family with American Adoptions, you can rest assured that all of our families have passed this necessary screening and training. We also set additional requirements to ensure the best for a prospective birth mother and her child.

One of the biggest questions we hear is, “I’m considering adoption for my unborn baby, but will they be open to a relationship with me?” Thankfully, all of our families are prepared for a future relationship with you as your child grows up. Because of our personal adoption experience, we tend to be pickier with adoptive families. We know firsthand what to look for, which ensures that we’re only working with the best families in the U.S. As a prospective birth mother, you will always have the ability to choose the kind of post-placement relationship you want. The families with our agency are ready to meet whatever communication preferences you have.

Birth mother Julia has benefitted from this openness in her own adoption relationship with the daughter she placed.

“I want to be as open as she wants to be,” Julia said. “I’m always going to be open for her and listen to her, and if she has any questions, I hope I’ll be there to answer them. But I want to fall back on her parents. I don’t think they would ever, ever not include me in her life, because they already made that known from day one.”

So, no, not anyone can adopt a child — only the people who are best prepared to bring your baby (and you) into their lives forever.

Who Wants to Adopt My Baby?

While all adoptive parents do have to meet the same requirements, there is great diversity in the kinds of parents who wish to adopt a child. Whatever your personal preferences happen to be, your adoption specialist will be able to present you with families you may consider.

If you’re asking, “Who are the couples looking to adopt my baby?” know that American Adoptions currently has waiting families who are of all kinds of:

·      Races

·       Genders

·      Sexual orientations,

·      Marital status,

·      Ethnicities,

·      And ages.

 As a national adoption agency, we work with waiting families who live all across the United States and have different cultural backgrounds, lifestyles, values, and hopes for a child they wish to adopt. Some are hopeful new parents who have never had children; others have biological or adopted children waiting for siblings. Some have struggled with infertility, while others have always harbored an intrinsic desire to adopt.

There truly is a wealth of possible families to choose from with our agency, and we are confident that you will find the right family for you, no matter how long it takes.

To get a better idea of what you want your child's life to look like, you can start by taking a look at our waiting family profiles!

How Do I Find a Couple to Adopt My Baby?

“Okay, now that I know who the couples are that are waiting to adopt, how do I find a family to adopt my baby with American Adoptions?”

Great question! Like you are with every step of your adoption process, you will be 100 percent in charge of finding a family to adopt your baby. As always, your adoption specialists will be there to support you every step of the way.

When you first contact American Adoptions, your specialist will help you create an adoption plan. This will outline every preference of your adoption journey, including the characteristics of the parents you wish to adopt your child. If you’re someone who’s been wondering, “I want to put my baby up for adoption, but do I get to decide what I want in an adoptive family?” This will be great news to hear. This will include their race, where they live, the kind of contact you want to have with them and more.

Once you create a list of ideal characteristics, your specialist will gather a list of prospective adoptive families to look at. She will present you with profiles of the family, including photos, videos and a letter to you. You can look through as many profiles as you like until you find the family that is right for you, and your adoption specialist will answer any questions you have about that family.

We also want you to know that it’s okay if you’re not sure what you’re looking for in an adoptive family yet. Your adoption specialist can send you a variety of profiles, and you will likely "just know" when you’re looking at the right family's profile, just like it was for Carmen.

“I spent the next several weeks combing through what must have been dozens of wonderful families. Then, I found them — the couple that I immediately felt connected to,” Carmen said.

How to Ask a Couple to Adopt My Baby

There are some women who are worried about asking a family, “Do you want to adopt my baby?” With American Adoptions, you won’t have to worry. Your adoption specialist will reach out to the adoptive family for you and let them know that they‘ve been chosen!

Sara couldn’t contain her excitement when she knew she found the perfect family for her baby. "I was excited and notified Erin at the agency to let her know. My first question: 'When will they be notified, and when can I talk to them?' Erin wanted to confirm their availability, and I was ecstatic when she called to tell me they were still waiting for a child. I had so many questions for Erin: 'When will you notify them?' 'Can I talk to them?' 'When can I meet them?' I think I overwhelmed her!"

If you are interested in a family, you will have the opportunity to speak with them over the phone and ask any additional questions you have before committing to this choice. Your specialist will mediate this call and help ensure you get the answers you need. When you are ready to move forward with an adoptive family, your specialist will guide you through your pre-placement contact. Just remember that any family you choose will be thrilled to go through this process with you.

You can view the families currently waiting to adopt here.

Whether you’re just asking, “Can anyone adopt my child?” or you’re ready to proceed and thinking, “I need to find a family to adopt my baby,” know that American Adoptions can help. Our specialists are here to answer all of your questions, offer you any support you need and guide you through the entirety of your adoption process. To learn more today, please call 1-800-ADOPTION to get more information from one of our specialists.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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