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Will an Adoptive Family Love My Child as Much as Their Own?

Understanding an Adoptive Couple's Journey

Women considering adoption sometimes believe that an adoptive couple can’t possibly love an adopted child as much as one of their own biological children. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Understanding the difficult journey adoptive parents take to become a mom and dad proves how much the opportunity to love a child means to them and why they love their child more than they ever could’ve imagined.

An Adoptive Couple's Journey to Parenthood

A couple falls in love, gets married and decide the time is finally right for them to start a family.

Several years pass, and they are unable to become pregnant. They visit a doctor, who prescribes medication to help them get pregnant. But after a year, they still have no luck, so their doctor refers them to a specialist who administers a series of shots, medications and treatments.

The medications and treatments give the woman hot flashes, mood swings and depression. She feels like an animal in a testing lab, and their marriage sometimes feels strained. They know the end result is worth it, so they hold on to hope.

Years pass, and they still cannot get pregnant.

Often by this time, the couple’s friends and other family members have begun to have children, and they are reminded of their infertility everywhere: on TV, in stores, online, and even in casual conversations. While these feelings of helplessness and frustration may be difficult for most of us to understand, they are very real for thousands of couples every year.

You can imagine the relief and excitement these hopeful parents (and others who cannot have their own children for reasons other than infertility) begin to feel when they begin exploring adoption – a very real solution to becoming parents. They often feel a sense of hope that they maybe have not experienced for years.

And when the moment finally arrives, when the new mom and dad first get to hold their new baby because of a birth mother’s amazingly selfless decision, the joy they feel is indescribable. This was a moment they thought was lost to them forever because of infertility, but they are now able to know what it is like to have a child to call their own.

Why an Adopted Child is Loved as Much as a Biological Child

Now that you understand an adoptive family’s journey, how much are they are going to love their child? They have been reserving a special place in their hearts and homes for years. They are prepared in every way to become a mom and dad. And when they are finally given that opportunity, they don’t take it for granted. 

And for families who do have other children and adopt a child, the same is true for them as well. They love all of their children equally, and after a while they don’t even consider that one of their children are even adopted. All that matters is that he or she is an equally important member of their family.

Love is universal, especially to children. The memories and experiences adoptive parents share with their adopted children is what their love is based upon – not on whether or not they share the same bloodline. 

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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