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Can I Put my 3-Year-Old Up for Adoption? [How Adoption Can be Life-Changing]

The Process of Placing a 3-Year-Old for Adoption

Adoption may be an option for you. Placing a 3-year-old for adoption can be challenging, and there are some circumstances where it may not be the best route. To find out more about adoption in your circumstances, call 1-800-ADOPTION today.

Different circumstances in life can be complicated, and as a parent of a 3-year-old, feeling like you simply can’t give your child the life he or she deserves might have you asking, “Can I give my 3-year-old up for adoption?”

Thankfully, adoption may be an option for you. 

  • As you consider putting a 3-year-old up for adoption, you are no doubt in a very difficult situation. 
  • You love your child, but you also know that things are really hard.
  • Parenting is most likely not shaping up to be what you had imagined, and there could be a variety of factors that have brought you to consider putting a 3-year-old up for adoption. 

This is a significant decision, and we want to help you make the best choice for you and your child. That choice will be unique to each person because your life is unlike anyone else’s. There is no one right answer. To help you reach your right answer, we’re going to take a look at some of the most important things worth considering. 

Before we cover the adoption process for your 3-year-old, it’s important to understand that a mother who chooses adoption is not “giving up." Adoption is a decision that is made out of pure love and the desire to give your child the best possible life. 

Can I Put My 3-Year-Old Up for Adoption? 

It’s never too late to choose adoption.

This may come as a surprise to many, but, even though it is less common, it is still possible to place a child for adoption at 3 years old. While American Adoptions primarily places newborns and young infants, our agency has worked with some mothers and children in this age range. 

Adoption for a 3-year-old could be the best possible path for you and your child, and the process comes with some slight differences that one of our experienced adoption professionals can help guide you through. 

How to Give a 3-Year-Old Up for Adoption with American Adoptions 

Putting a 3-year-old up for adoption with American Adoption may be possible.

While this process will undoubtedly be different from a domestic infant adoption, there are still many similarities you will share as a prospective birth mother in the adoption process, including support services to help you with each step of your adoption journey. 

Here are just a few of the benefits provided to you by our agency: 

Before making any final decisions about putting a 3-year-old up for adoption, we recommend getting free information and speaking with an adoption specialist. They will be able to give you more specific information about how adoption would look in your situation, as well as help you understand all of the options you could choose.  

Putting a 3-year-old up for adoption could be the best option for you and your child, but there are some slight differences in the adoption process.

One thing to keep in mind is that the older your child is, the more information your adoption specialist will need before the process can get started. Some of the background information they will need includes: 

  • A copy of your child’s birth certificate 

  • Who is listed as the father on your child’s birth certificate 

  • Medical records for your child 

  • Documentation of where the child has lived from birth to present 

  • Who has had custody or care of the child from birth to present 

  • Who has provided financial and emotional support for this child from birth to present 

  • Documentation of child support provided by any father 

It’s never too late to choose adoption, and we are ready to speak with you about your situation. Adoption can help you give your child a better life, provide you with the chance to focus on your goals and give a hopeful adoptive family the opportunity to live out their dreams of growing a family. 

Get More Information on Placing a 3-Year-Old for Adoption  

If you have any additional questions, contact Michelle, a birth parent specialist and a birth parent herself, who is ready to answer any questions you have about putting a 3-year-old up for adoption.         

“I am available to answer any questions that arise, particularly from birth moms, as I have been in your shoes and know how you are feeling,” Michelle said. “It was most helpful to me when I had someone to talk to who would just listen to me without making any judgments or conclusions about who I was as a person.”         

You can ask Michelle questions about the adoption process online. You can also call us at 1-800-ADOPTION, or get free information with our online contact form for prospective birth mothers considering adoption here. Adoptive families wanting more information on adopting a child can click here to get more information. 

Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. American Adoptions provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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