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How to Find Married Couples Looking to Adopt a Child

When it comes to finding an adoptive family for your child, you have the right to have high standards. You are choosing adoption because you want to make sure your baby has the best life imaginable, and it’s your right to make sure he or she is placed in a family that’s able to provide that. But how can you be sure that that happens?

At American Adoptions, you’re in the driver’s seat of the adoption process. You get to choose your baby’s adoptive family, and you’ll be assigned your own individual adoption specialist to help you consider every aspect.

What can I choose in an adoptive family?

The short answer? Everything. For many women, it’s important that their babies be placed with married couples looking for children to adopt. Many women find this sort of stability important to raise a family. At American Adoptions, every married couple looking to adopt a child has been married for at least two years.

So, if marriage is important to you, that’s one requirement out of the way. But how do you choose from the hundreds of married couples looking for children to adopt through American Adoptions? Your adoption specialist will help you to consider the following questions:

  • Do you want your baby to have siblings? Would you prefer to place your child with a couple who already has other children? Does it matter if these children are adopted or not? Or would you prefer to make a couple’s dreams of parenthood come true for the first time? There is no right or wrong answer to any of these questions; whatever you prefer for your baby can be accommodated.

  • Is it important to you that your child grow up in a certain area? As a national adoption agency, American Adoptions works with families across the country. If you envision your child growing up in a sunny, warm climate, that’s a possibility. If you prefer that he or she remain close to you, that’s a possibility as well.

  • Do you want your baby to look like his or her adoptive family? Of course, there will be no shared DNA, so there’s a limit to how much your child may resemble his or her parents. However, some women feel strongly about placing their baby with a family that shares their own cultural background, heritage and traditions.

  • What values are important to you, and is it necessary that your child’s adoptive family share them? Is it important that your child’s adoptive family share your own religions or political views? Do you want them to emphasize certain things in your child’s life, such as art or sports?

Remember, American Adoptions works with hundreds of adoptive families. Anything you picture for your child can become a reality.

How are adoptive families screened through American Adoptions?

Every married couple looking to adopt a child that works with American Adoptions undergoes thorough screening to ensure that they are safe, stable and ready to provide a loving home for a child. In addition to discussions with our social workers to assess this readiness, each adoptive family must first pass a home study.

A home study is an evaluation of a family’s ability to parent an adopted child and takes place in three phases:

  1. The Documentation Phase. This includes extensive background checks on each member of the family, as well as physical and mental health records, income statements, tax records and more.

  2. A home inspection. This involves a home study provider entering a hopeful adoptive family’s home to ensure that it is safe and secure for a small child.

  3. Interviews with each family member living in the home. After the home inspection, a family’s home study provider will sit down individually with each person living in the house to ensure that everyone is both excited and ready to pursue adoption.

At American Adoptions, you’ll never be shown a family that isn’t 100 percent committed to adoption and to giving your child all the love and opportunity he or she deserves.

Married Couples Looking for Children to Adopt

At American Adoptions, we’re available 24/7 to provide free, noncommittal information about pursuing adoption for your baby; just call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time. If, in the meantime, you’d like to start looking through the married adoptive families that have undergone our screening process and are waiting to adopt a child, click here


Having trouble finding the perfect adoptive family online? Don’t be discouraged. American Adoptions is currently working with many adoptive families at all stages of the process — and not all of them are currently listed on our website. In addition, we work with a nationwide network of other adoption professionals that can help us conduct a wider search for exactly the family you’re looking for.

To discuss your preferences for an adoptive family and get help finding them, reach out to an adoption specialist by calling 1-800-ADOPTION at any time.

Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. America Adoptions, Inc. provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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