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Finding a Family with Children to Adopt My Baby

If you’re a woman experiencing an unexpected pregnancy, it’s understandable that you may be under a certain amount of pressure. It can be hard to know what the right choice is, especially if well-meaning family members or friends are voicing their opinions as well. The first thing you should know is that what you do about your unplanned pregnancy is up to you and you alone.

The second thing you should know is that, if you do choose adoption, American Adoptions can make sure your baby gets exactly the kind of life you imagine for him or her. How? At American Adoptions, you get to choose your child’s adoptive family.

The definition of a perfect adoptive family is different for every woman. Some women considering adoption for their babies might prefer to place their children with single parents, while others see their children with LGBT parents or opposite-sex couples. Many women, however, are more concerned with whether or not the adoptive family already has children. If you’re considering placing your baby with a family that already has children, this article lists the advantages that may come along with that decision.

Why choose an adoptive family that already has children?

Maybe you already have a specific reason in your head, or maybe you can’t quite put your finger on why your child having older siblings is important to you. Many women hope to place their babies with adoptive families with kids for one or more of the following reasons:

  • The couple already has parenting experience. If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, it’s possible that you don’t feel ready to be a mother yet. Parenting, after all, is hard work. The advantage to choosing an adoptive family that already has kids is that you know they know exactly what it takes to raise a child — physically, financially and emotionally. They won’t find themselves in over their heads, because they know exactly what they’re getting into by adopting your child.

  • The couple has experience raising other adopted children. Raising an adopted child comes with a set of unique experiences — instilling pride in a child’s adoption story, maintaining a relationship with birth parents, etc. Some women choose to place their babies with families who have already adopted because they know those families are committed to doing those things for the kids they already have. If a couple is particularly good about maintaining contact with their first child’s birth parents and talking about adoption, then you know they’ll be good with your baby, too!

  • The couple has adopted transracially before. For many women, siblings are an important factor when considering placing their baby in a transracial adoption. Couples who adopt children of a different race have a responsibility to honor their child’s heritage and traditions, as well as to address serious issues such as racism. If a couple has completed a transracial adoption before, this can serve as an example of what they’ll do to make sure your child is connected with their birth culture. It can serve as an example of more practical issues as well. For example, if you’re African American and considering placing a child with a white family who has already adopted an African American child, you’ll know they are prepared when it comes to things like taking care of your child’s hair. Transracial adoption comes with a big responsibility to the child a couple adopts; a couple who has previously adopted a child of a different heritage is both aware of that and excited to follow through with your baby, too.

  • Your child is guaranteed to have siblings. Many women have memories of happy childhoods and close relationships with siblings — or felt a significant lack of that in their own lives. Whatever the reason, it’s normal to feel strongly about whether or not your child has siblings. If a couple is adopting for the first time, there is, of course, no guarantee that they will have another child after this adoption. If the couple already has other kiddos, though, you know your child will grow up in a home with playmates and (eventually) built-in best friends!

If you’re interested in placing your child with a large, loving family with other brothers and sisters, you can use this tool to begin searching through the adoptive families that work with American Adoptions. To talk with an adoption specialist about what else you envision for your baby — where they should live, what values are important to you, etc. — please call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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