Should I Consider Unmarried Couples Who Want to Adopt My Baby?
Finding the perfect adoptive family for your baby is an important task, and it can also be a stressful one. You’re choosing adoption for your child to make sure they get the life they deserve, but how can you make sure that’s what happens?
That’s where we come in. At American Adoptions, each woman who works with us will be assigned to her own individual adoption specialist. This adoption specialist is a social worker who will be dedicated to making sure one person remains in control of the adoption process: you. If you already know exactly what you’re looking for in an adoptive family for your child, great! She’ll help to make sure that happens. If you aren’t quite sure what your ideal adoptive family looks like, she’ll work with you to answer the following questions:
Do you want your child to have siblings? Some women have fond memories of growing up in households with brothers or sisters to play with. Others ultimately decide to help a couple’s dreams come true by making them parents for the first time. Others still don’t necessarily have a preference about siblings, as long as the couple hoping to adopt is the right fit. It’s completely up to you.
Where do you see your child growing up? Do you picture your child being raised on a farm in the Midwest? Do you see them growing up in an urban area on one of the coasts? American Adoptions is a national adoption agency, so wherever you picture your child living, that can be a reality. This also means that you can look specifically at adoptive families who live close to you!
What values are important to you in an adoptive family? Do you want your child’s adoptive parents to practice the same religion as you do, or to put a special emphasis on things you’re passionate about, such as higher education or sports?
Is it important to you that your baby look like their adoptive family? Some women choose to place their children with adoptive parents of the same cultural background, while others don’t have a preference in this regard. Whatever your decision, remember that there’s only so much you can control in terms of your child looking like they’re adoptive family; after all, there will be no shared DNA.
No matter what characteristics are important to you in an adoptive family, your adoption specialist will help you to find the perfect match.
What about couples looking to adopt without being married?
An important thing to know about adoption in the United States is that the laws change across state lines. Many states have marriage requirements to adopt a child. Because of this, American Adoptions requires that all hopeful adoptive parents who work with us must have been married for at least two years, although exceptions may be made in some circumstances. In other words, we don’t work with many couples not married who want to adopt. However, if you do happen to find yourself drawn to the adoption profile of a couple looking to adopt without being married, this shouldn’t necessarily be a cause for concern. As long as your state allows it, you can absolutely place your child with an unmarried couple. They go through the same legally required home study that a married couple does. A home study is essentially an assessment of a couple’s readiness to adopt and includes three phases:
The documentation phase. This includes extensive background checks, physical and mental health checks and records, financial records, and more.
A home inspection. A home study provider will enter a couple’s home to ensure that it is safe and prepared for a young child.
Interviews with each family member. After the home inspection, the home study provider will stay to individually interview each member of the household. He or she will make sure that everyone is both on board and excited about pursuing adoption.
Couples Not Married Who Want to Adopt
If for whatever reason you are interested specifically in placing your child with couples not married who want to adopt, you can begin looking through the adoption profiles of American Adoptions families who are currently waiting to adopt. To learn more about adoption or to speak with an adoption specialist about finding the perfect adoptive family for you, please call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time.
Having trouble finding the perfect adoptive family online? Don’t be discouraged. American Adoptions is currently working with many adoptive families at all stages of the process — and not all of them are currently listed on our website. In addition, we work with a nationwide network of other adoption professionals that can help us conduct a wider search for exactly the family you’re looking for.
To discuss your preferences for an adoptive family and get help finding them, reach out to an adoption specialist by calling 1-800-ADOPTION at any time.
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