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Finding a Single Parent to Adopt Your Baby

As a woman considering adoption for her baby, there’s most likely a lot on your mind right now. It can be a stressful time, and you may feel additional pressure to find the perfect adoptive family for your baby. First of all, it’s important to know that every woman’s ideal adoptive family for her baby looks different. Some women may be interested in same-sex couples looking to adopt, while others may be interested in traditional, opposite-sex couples. Some women, however, may feel strongly about the idea of their baby being raised in a single parent household.

Whether you had a positive experience growing up in a single parent household yourself, or whether you feel a connection when you look at single mother or father’s adoption profile, you can absolutely place your baby for adoption with a single parent. And while some might see a single parent household as less desirable, there are actually several benefits associated with a child being raised by a single parent.

  1. Children raised by single parents may be more responsible. Single parents are tasked with handling all of the responsibility in a household. While this can, of course, be difficult at times, a child who is raised in this environment will understand from an early age that he or she must be responsible for their own actions. He or she will learn to value planning, following through, and — as he or she grows older — will understand the importance of teamwork and helping out around the home.

  2. Children raised by single parents will receive undivided attention. In a two-parent household, each partner has to be committed to spending quality time with the other — or at least, this should happen in a healthy relationship. In a household where both parents work, this can mean less time with a child. A single parent, however, only has to prioritize quality time with one member of their household — their child!

  3. A child who is raised by a single parent may have a stronger bond with that parent. There is nothing like the bond between a parent and a child, and in a single parent household, this bond may be even stronger than in other homes. In this scenario, a child will depend on that parent for everything — stability, safety, security and, most importantly, love. In return, a child in a single parent’s household will be that parent’s top priority and greatest love at all times.

  4. Single parents may be able to devote more quality time to their children. Not having a partner may mean less time spent outside the homes at things like work events, family events, and even extracurricular activities. A single parent can prioritize only what matters to them rather than taking a spouse’s life events into account, which means they can choose to spend as much quality time at home with their children as their own schedule will allow.

  5. Children who are raised in a single-parent adoptive household are being raised by parents who are secure, stable and most likely had happy childhoods of their own. Anyone who wishes to adopt — including a single parent — must undergo a home study. This assesses the candidate’s background, financial and medical records, home environment and more. Passing a home study and being deemed eligible to adopt is an accomplishment in itself. Moreover, a parent who chooses to adopt singly has most likely had the advantage of a happy, healthy childhood, and has chosen to give a child that same experience that he or she was lucky enough to have.

If you wish to place your baby in a single parent household, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that decision. A single parent who wants to adopt will have the same commitment and devotion to your child as a married couple, and a case could be made that they have even more love to give. Single adoptive parents, just like married ones, are financially secure and ready to provide your child with a stable and loving home.

For more information about adoption, please call 1-800-ADOPTION, or use this tool to begin looking through hopeful adoptive families at American Adoptions. 

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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