Housing Options During Adoption
Helping You Find the Right Housing Situation
Housing options during adoption vary according to your level of need and the local and state laws where you live. American Adoptions can help you find the adoption housing options that suit your needs during your pregnancy and adoption plan.
Some women want to continue living in their current home; others want or need to live somewhere else during their pregnancy. Regardless of your needs or preference, we can help you find the right housing options during adoption. Below are pros and cons of the different types of housing options.
Staying in Your Current Situation is a great option for many women. In this scenario, the adoptive family would pay or partially pay for your rent or mortgage at your home, apartment, duplex, trailer, etc. If you wish to stay in your current home, American Adoptions can help you make ends meet.
Pros: Staying in your current situation means you will not have to leave your community, job, school or support system. You’ll be able to keep up with your familiar schedule and routine like caring for your kids or other family members or continuing school. Plus you can continue to go to the doctor with whom you’re familiar and can deliver in a hospital you know.
Cons: Your current home might not be a safe, stable or supportive environment for you during your pregnancy or could be far from where your support system lives.
Women who stay in their current situation often have other children to care for, a great support system in family and friends they live with or near. These women also do not want to leave their doctor, community, job or school and value controlling their own schedule and routine.
Apartment Living is available when an adoption professional helps you to move into an apartment. An adoptive family will pay for part or all of your rent during your pregnancy. Depending on the situation, you might be living with other women in the same situation as you. If an adoption attorney, agency or law center promotes one location, they probably have a contract with the organization, and there may be other pregnant women living there too. Or your adoption professional might try to set you up by yourself or with your family in your own apartment.
American Adoptions can help you find apartment living across town, across the state or even across the country. Our goal is to place you somewhere that you could continue to live in and afford to live in after your pregnancy.
Pros: Apartment living could be safer and more stable than where you live now and can be found anywhere, so you would not have to leave your community, job, school or support system. If you are living with other women in the same situation as you, apartment living could feel like college- or sorority-living, depending on your roommates. Apartment living also allows you to maintain your privacy during your pregnancy and the adoption.
Cons: If you are living alongside women in the same situation, you might assume the emotions of the group. If one woman is struggling with her decision, the whole group may question adoption for themselves. You also might second-guess your adoption decision if other roommates (like your family or the birth father) are unsure or unsupportive of your adoption plan. Additionally, specific apartments promoted by an adoption professional might not be as nice in person or a realistic living situation for you after the adoption.
Women who might pick apartment living could feel unsafe or unsupported in their current living situation yet do not want to leave their community, job, school, children or support system.
Maternity Centers or Homes are living facilities that you move into during your pregnancy and the adoption. They are often on-site at an adoption agency. Your room and board is covered by the adoption agency in this situation. Maternity centers can be religious or have certain types of requirements for your schedule, diet, education, etc.
American Adoptions does not own or operate a maternity center or home but can help you find one if this is your preference.
Pros: Maternity centers sometimes have great amenities, and you’ll live with women who are in the same situation as you. Staff members may help get you to prenatal appointments, have a doctor on site or find temporary work for you during your pregnancy. Maternity centers can feel like living in a college dorm or sorority and can be a good option for teenagers or women in college. You can maintain your privacy during your pregnancy and the adoption.
Cons: However, the facility might not be as nice as the pictures and promotional materials lead you to believe, and unlike some other potential housing options, a maternity home will not become your permanent residence. Some women feel that the regulations for their diet, schedule, etc. are restrictive or do not find the local doctor appealing. Some women living in maternity centers feel pressure to place their baby because of all the assistance they receive or to convert or practice the religion that a maternity home might be affiliated with.
A maternity home may have restrictions on who you can bring with you and might not be located near your home. So you might have to leave your other children or support system behind. You may become homesick, lonely or depressed if you are far from your family and friends or have to discontinue school during your pregnancy. Because you are living alongside women in the same situation, you may assume the emotions of the group. If one woman is struggling with her decision, the whole group may question adoption for themselves as well.
Women who might pick a maternity center are interested in living with women who they can identify with and are very sure of their decision and won’t be easily swayed. These women may feel unsafe in their current living situation and don’t mind moving to live in a maternity home, because they likely don’t have other children.
Short-Term Living includes hotels, extended-stay hotels and motels. Your hotel fees would be partially or fully covered by the adoptive family you have chosen. American Adoptions can help you find short-term living in your hometown or in a town closer to your support system if that is your need but will also likely try to find you a more suitable living situation where you can live during your pregnancy and can continue to afford after the adoption.
Pros: Short-term living can be found anywhere, so you would not have to leave your community, job, school or support system. Short-term living could be safer and more stable than where you live now and could allow you to remove yourself from unsupportive people in your life. You can maintain your privacy during your pregnancy and the adoption and can make your adoption decision without worrying that other women might be second-guessing their own decision.
Cons: Short-term living can sometimes feel isolated and not cozy or homey.
Women who pick short-term living may feel unsafe or unsupported in their current living situation but do not want to leave their community, job or support system. Sometimes these women want to move closer to a support system or select short-term living because they chose adoption toward the end of their pregnancy. Often short-term living is best for women who need a temporary living situation while they try to find a more permanent living situation like an apartment, condo, home, duplex, trailer, etc.
No matter your situation, American Adoptions wants to help you find the housing option that will best suit your needs during your pregnancy and adoption plan. To further discuss the pros and cons of adoption housing options, specific to your living situation, call an Adoption Specialist at 1-800-ADOPTION or request free adoption information.
Disclaimer: State, federal and local laws determine American Adoptions’ and an adoptive family’s ability to provide you with financial assistance and also determine how much financial assistance can be made available to you.
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