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How Will the Adoptive Family Talk to My Child About Adoption?

Why Adoptees are Told About Adoption When They are Young

If you are considering adoption, are you wondering how your child will be told his or her adoption story and about you? You may even wonder if your child will be told about the adoption at all, or if the child will grow up not even knowing that he or she was adopted.

American Adoptions recommends that adoptive families tell their child that they are adopted from a very early age, so they grow up understanding that they are adopted. Most families begin with books and story time to help familiarize the child with the vocabulary of adoption. As the child gets older, they’ll share more details of the adoption story, making sure that they are age-appropriate to the child’s stage of development. Most importantly, they try to make sure the child feels safe and loved and has positive self-identity.

Most families tell their child everything you want him or her to know about you and the rest of your family. In addition to sharing this information, most families say that they tell the child about the time they got to spend with you, how special you are to their family and how much you love him or her. 

If there is anything special that you would like the adoptive family to share with your child or keepsakes you’d like for them to have in the future, talk with your Adoption Specialist and the adoptive family to ensure your wishes are met. 

Keep in mind, however, that if you and the adoptive family agree on sharing an open adoption, you will be able to share the adoption story with your child yourself one day.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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