Choosing Abortion or Adoption for Your Unplanned Pregnancy
Comparing Abortion and Adoption [How Adoption Creates a Better Future]
If you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and considering abortion or adoption, it’s important to know the facts behind both and to gain a clearer understanding of how the choice of adoption can change the lives of everyone involved.
As a woman contemplating what to do with your unplanned pregnancy, you may have already determined that your circumstances make parenting your child impossible. At this point, your options are adoption or abortion.
“What are the pros and cons of adoption vs abortion?”
This is a question many women in your situation ask themselves. The differences between abortion and adoption are immense, but determining which is better for you is a decision entirely up to you. Before you make a decision, however, we want you to know the facts and to provide you with a better understanding of how adoption can positively affect the lives of everyone involved.
This article is not intended to convince you that adoption is “better” than abortion, nor is it meant to persuade you to choose adoption instead of abortion. You are the only person who knows what is best in your situation, and choosing abortion or adoption is a decision that only you can make.
Many of us at American Adoptions are adoptees, adoptive parents and birth parents. Because of that first-hand personal experience, we know how life-changing adoption can be.
Take it from Scott Mars, founder of American Adoptions, and an adoptee himself.
“My mom and dad were a couple who weren’t able to become a mom and dad without adoption. Of all people in this world, my mom and dad deserve to be parents. And without adoption, they would not have been able to share their love, share their life, and give someone the life that I had.
“Because of adoption, my life was filled with love and opportunity.” You can watch Scott’s video to see his entire adoption story.
We hope that you’ll consider some of the following information about adoption vs. abortion before you make any decisions.
If you’re ready to start the adoption process with our agency or want to get more information on adoption vs abortion, call us at 1-800-ADOPTION, or visit our online contact form for prospective birth mothers. Prospective adoptive parents, contact us today to get more information about adopting a child through our agency.
Abortion or Adoption?
Planned Parenthood reported that in 2019-2020, the organization performed 354,871 abortions and only 2,667 adoption referrals. More women choose an abortion versus adoption, but why?
It is common for women to believe abortion is a “quick fix” to a big problem. They often believe abortion is cheaper, more confidential, and better for their long-term wellbeing, when in reality that is not necessarily the case — they just don’t understand the facts about adoption. Adoption is free, confidential, and can be an amazing long-term solution to an unplanned pregnancy.
If you are considering abortion vs. adoption, here is a brief comparison of the two:
Is There a Difference in Cost between Abortion and Adoption?
Yes. Abortion costs range from hundreds to thousands of dollars, depending on your provider and your stage of pregnancy. Health insurance may cover abortion costs to some degree, but there are several legal restrictions on insurance coverage, and the availability of this option may vary on a case-by-case basis.
We are often asked, “Why is adoption more expensive than abortion?”
There’s a common misconception that placing a baby for adoption is expensive while getting an abortion is much cheaper. Not only is adoption free, but you may also receive living expenses from the adoptive family to help you cover pregnancy-related expenses such as rent, food, utilities, transportation, maternity clothing, a cell phone and more.
To get more information on available pregnancy-related financial assistance for your adoption, call 1-800-ADOPTION to speak with an adoption specialist.
Adoption Protects Your Privacy
Some women choose abortion over adoption because it can be done confidentially. What they may not realize is an adoption can also be completed confidentially, where a woman’s family, friends and community won’t know about it. Any information you share with American Adoptions is strictly confidential, and your adoption specialist can help you maintain as much privacy as you’d like during your pregnancy and adoption plan. There is always a solution of keeping your pregnancy and adoption private, should you feel the need to do so.
Staying Connected by Choosing Adoption
Through adoption, a woman can be reassured of her decision for years to come through a continued relationship with her child. Through open adoption, she can see the smile on her child’s face through pictures, video chat, social media or even in person. She will get to know about and be a part of all the amazing things her child goes on to do, and she will always be reminded of the incredible gift she gave to another family by choosing adoption for her baby.
“I became pregnant at the worst possible time of my life,” she said. “My husband and I were separated. He wanted me to have an abortion, and I couldn’t bring myself to do that. I talked with him about adoption and he agreed.
“Once I saw Jeff and Amanda’s profile, I felt like God was telling me they were the ones! Jeff and Amanda are wonderful, and I am so thankful I could give them such a gift. We still email and I get pictures. Our little boy is so handsome. They are amazing parents, and I know my son has a huge family who loves and cares so much for him. I am forever thankful for that. Jeff and Amanda saved my baby’s life!”
Women who choose abortion don’t have the same opportunities to see their child grow and reach important milestones, which can make it more difficult to come to terms with their decision. Again, neither abortion nor adoption is an easy choice to make, but abortion isn’t always the emotional “quick fix” women sometimes believe they are signing up for.
You are in control of the Adoption Process
- Create an adoption plan – With the guidance of one of our adoption specialists, you will create an adoption plan specifically tailored to your every need.
- Choose the adoptive family – Not only can you choose the adoptive family, but you can narrow your search based on a multitude of factors, including personality traits, lifestyle choices, religious beliefs and more, that you feel are important to you and your child.
- Create an adoption hospital plan – When it comes time for labor and delivery, you get to decide and detail precisely how you want your stay in the hospital to go, including which members of your support team are allowed at the hospital and who you want in the delivery room with you. You’ll also have control over how much time you spend with your baby, as well as how much contact and time you want with the adoptive family.
- Choose open, semi-open or closed adoption - You will get to choose what type of post-adoption contact you want to have and maintain a relationship with the family and your child. Through open or semi-open adoption, you can continue to share a life-long bond with your child and the adoptive family. The amount and type of communication are completely up to you.
And, as mentioned before, your adoption services are completely free, and you may also be eligible to receive living expenses to help you with your pregnancy. You can get more information on the support and services available to you through our agency by calling 1-800-ADOPTION or by visiting us online.
How Adoption Creates a Better Future
If you are considering abortion or “giving your kid up” for adoption, know that you are not “giving up” on your child by choosing adoption. Instead, you’re giving your baby the gift of a wonderful childhood, adoptive parents who may otherwise have no opportunity a chance at becoming parents, and yourself a better chance of moving forward from what may be a difficult time in your life.
Adoption is certainly not for everyone, but neither is abortion. Choosing adoption rather than abortion can have many benefits for you in addition to providing your child with the opportunity for a happy and healthy life. Whichever choice you end up making, American Adoptions will always respect your decision.
Get more Information on Placing Your Child for Adoption
“I am available to answer any questions that arise, particularly from birth moms, as I have been in your shoes and know how you are feeling,” Michelle said. “It was most helpful to me when I had someone to talk to who would just listen to me without making any judgments or conclusions about who I was as a person.”
You can ask Michelle questions about the adoption process online. If you're thinking, "I don't want to be pregnant, but I don't want an abortion," please call us confidentially at 1-800-ADOPTION to get more adoption facts and for free adoption information. Adoptive families wanting more information on adopting a child can click here.
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