Giving Baby Up for Adoption in Hawaii
How it Works - And What it Really Means
An unplanned pregnancy can bring on a lot of emotions. If you aren’t sure you’re ready to parent, those feelings can be overwhelming. You have some big decisions to make, and they’ll affect not only you but your baby as well. If you’re thinking about adoption in Hawaii, we hope you know that American Adoptions is here to help — whether you ultimately decide to give baby up for adoption or not.
At this stage in your life, it’s important to remember two things. The first is that you are not alone in this process. At any given time, there are many women who are pregnant looking into adoption in Hawaii and across the U.S. and feeling many of the same emotions that you are. We hope you’ll push aside any feelings of shame or guilt while reading this article; there is nothing shameful or selfish about putting your child’s needs above your own.
The second thing we hope you’ll remember is that the only person who can make this decision for yourself and your baby is you. Your family, your friends, and even the baby’s father most likely mean well, but you’re the only one who truly knows the right choice for you. That does not, however, mean you’re alone if you’re thinking about choosing adoption for your baby. At American Adoptions, we’re passionate about making sure women have free access to accurate information about giving a baby up for adoption in Hawaii, whether that’s the choice you end up making or not. If you’re wondering what happens if you give a baby up for adoption in Hawaii, the following is a general outline of what you should expect. As always, please contact American Adoptions at 1-800-ADOPTION with any questions.
How do I put my unborn baby up for adoption in Hawaii?
If you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you may be wondering what it’s like to give baby up for adoption in Hawaii. At this point, we’d like to address a commonly misused phrase in “giving baby up for adoption.” While this is popular vernacular, it can be offensive, as placing a child for adoption is the furthest thing from “giving up” on your baby. Rather, it’s placing his or her needs above your own, despite how painful it may be for you.
Terminology aside, understanding what happens when putting a baby up for adoption in Hawaii can help you to make your adoption plan. Every adoption situation is different, but it will typically go something like this:
Step 1: Decide that placing your baby for adoption is the right choice for you.
It may seem obvious, but the first step to putting a baby up for adoption in Hawaii is to decide that it is indeed the right choice for you and your baby. Friends and family may weigh in, but ultimately this is a decision you need to feel confident in. If it might help to talk things through with an unbiased, licensed social worker, please know that there will be someone available to you 24/7 at American Adoptions.
Step 2: Choose an adoption professional to get started making your own individual adoption plan.
With American Adoptions, you’ll work with your own individual adoption specialist to come up with a plan that ensures you place a baby for adoption exactly how you want to.
Step 3: Choose your child’s adoptive family.
Yes, you absolutely get to choose your child’s adoptive parents. Because you’re placing a baby for adoption in HI to ensure that he or she gets the life he or she deserves, it’s absolutely your right to make sure you find a family that can guarantee that. Every family that works with American Adoptions creates an adoptive family video profile to let you have a glimpse into their home life before electing to meet them. If they seem like they could be the right fit, your adoption specialist will arrange for you to meet them.
Step 4: Develop a relationship with the adoptive family you choose for your child.
Once you have met and selected your child’s adoptive family, it will be time to start getting to know them. At American Adoptions, we always recommend at least some degree of openness in an adoptive relationship for the benefit of everyone — birth mom, adoptive parents and adopted child alike. Whether you ultimately wish to communicate with your child’s adoptive family via phone calls, emails, in person visits or more, now is the time to start working on the foundations for that relationship.
Step 5: Work with your adoption specialist to make a hospital plan.
Like any other pregnant woman, you’ll want to come up with a plan for your hospital stay that outlines details such as delivery methods and whether or not you want pain medication. However, as a woman considering adoption in Hawaii, your adoption specialist will help you go into much more detail. Who should be in the delivery room with you? Do you want time alone with your baby? Do you want to nurse? Your adoption specialist will go over every minute detail with you to make sure the day goes exactly according to your preferences. She will also help you prepare for the legal documents you will need to sign after your baby is born to officially place him or her for adoption.
Step 6: Continue to strengthen your relationship with your child’s adoptive family — and, eventually, your child.
The adoption process doesn’t end once your child goes home with his or her adoptive family. The relationship that you began to develop before your child was born will continue throughout the rest of your life; in many ways, the adoptive family is an extension of your family! If you need space in the beginning to grieve, this is completely understandable. Like all relationships, yours with your child’s adoptive family can evolve over time as your comfort levels change.
Reading this article may not have immediately illuminated what to do when you are thinking about adoption, but we do hope it helps you to understand what would happen should you choose to give a baby up for adoption in Hawaii. To learn more about adoption for babies in Hawaii, please contact American Adoptions at 1-800-ADOPTION.
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