4 Common Thoughts about Adoption and Your Unplanned Pregnancy
If you’re an expectant mother with questions about adoption and your unplanned pregnancy, American Adoptions has answers. You can get the free information and support you need today by calling 1-800-ADOPTION.
Pregnancy and adoption questions and concerns generally fall into four common categories:
Thinking about “giving a baby up for adoption” and your other unplanned pregnancy options
Thoughts about what your friends and family members will think
Thoughts about your child’s understanding of your decision
Thoughts about your future
Whatever is on your mind, we hope this article will help you organize your thoughts and determine what your next step might be. If you still have questions that you want answered ASAP, reach out to us today or call 1-800- ADOPTION to get the support you need.
1. “I’m Thinking about Adoption, Abortion and Parenting”
When you are faced with an unplanned pregnancy, one of your first thoughts may be whether you are prepared to raise a child at this point in your life, or whether adoption or abortion are possibilities. If you are pregnant thinking about adoption, it is a good idea to learn about the many benefits of adoption for yourself and your baby.
Here are some thoughts you may be having about adoption, abortion and parenting:
Parenting – Am I ready to raise a child at this point in my life? Do I have the finances to raise a child (or another child)? Will my baby have a father figure in his or her life?
Abortion – Is abortion the best solution for my unplanned pregnancy? What will an abortion cost? Is abortion really the “quick fix” it seems to be? What will my friends and family think about this decision?
Adoption – What are my pregnancy adoption options? What choices will I get to make in this process? Do I want to choose adoptive parents for my baby? Will adoption financial assistance make my pregnancy easier to handle? Does the idea of staying connected through open adoption appeal to me?
If you are pregnant and looking into adoption or abortion instead of parenting, be sure to do lots of research before choosing one or the other. Consult adoption professionals, doctors and our unbiased options counselors to help you decide what the best solution is for you and your baby.
2. “I’m Thinking about Giving My Baby Up for Adoption — What Will My Friends and Family Say?”
When experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, one of the first things you may worry about is how you are going to tell the people in your life
It’s common to worry, “I’m thinking about giving my baby up for adoption, but I’m afraid of what other people will think.” Some of this concern might come from the language our society uses when we talk about adoption. It is common to use phrases like “giving a baby up for adoption,” but choosing adoption isn’t “giving up” or “giving away” your child at all. When you are unexpectedly pregnant, adoption is actually an incredibly brave, loving, selfless and proactive choice that you make for your baby. When you are thinking of “giving a baby up” for adoption, you are really putting your child’s needs above your own — and above what anyone else might think.
It’s important to understand that while these thoughts and concerns about friends and family are normal, it is much more essential to make a decision that is best for you and your child when thinking about adopting your baby to another family. Seeking the advice of others whom you trust is always a good idea, but remember that this is ultimately your decision.
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3. “I’m Thinking About Adopting My Baby Out – What Will He or She Think of Me?”
If you are thinking about putting a baby up for adoption, then what happens to your child? Will he or she have negative feelings toward you, resent you for your decision, or even “hate” you? Will you ever see your child again?
These thoughts are very common but unnecessary. Today, the adoption options for pregnant mothers look very different than they did even a decade ago. If you are thinking of putting your baby up for adoption, you won’t ever have to wonder or worry about your baby’s wellbeing, because you’ll be able to see and talk to your child yourself.
In the past, adoption professionals favored closed relationships with no contact between adopted children and their birth parents, and they oftentimes did not provide the child information about his or her race, family background and many other items that are very important to a child’s sense of self. This would commonly lead to doubt, frustration and a void left in the child’s and birth parents’ lives.
Today, adoption professionals encourage adoptive families to be open and honest about their child’s adoption from a very young age, eliminating any surprise or shock later in life.
Also, regardless of whether you are interested in an open or closed adoption, the child will usually know his or her race, family origins, medical background and other important information. This helps fill that void that some adoptees from past generations still feel in their lives today.
When thinking about adoption and your child, understand that while this decision is very difficult for you, your child will experience a happy childhood that perhaps you are unable to provide at this time in your life, and he or she will be forever grateful for your decision.
4. “I Am Pregnant And Thinking About Adoption – And My Future”
Now that you’ve thought about your adoption options for unplanned pregnancy, your family, and your child, it’s time to think about yourself and what this decision will do for your future.
For every negative adoption story that is reported in the media, there are dozens, if not hundreds, of positive adoption stories. Many of these women point to their unplanned pregnancy and adoption decision as a turning point, when they were able to reclaim stability in their lives and look toward the future.
“Ten years later, and I am now going to school to begin my career as a Medical Practice Manager, and I honestly don’t think I would be in this place if it wasn’t for the support I received from American Adoptions,” said Brittnee about her decision to choose adoption.
Whether you have goals of finishing school, beginning a career or getting married before starting a family, but an unplanned pregnancy has put those goals on hold, you have to decide which decision is not only going to be best for your baby but also for yourself. Are you ready to raise a child? Or is adoption a possibility to allow you to achieve your other goals?
If you are thinking about putting your baby up for adoption and still have questions about what to do when you are thinking about adoption, our adoption specialists are always available at 1-800-ADOPTION. To get help when thinking about putting your baby up for adoption, you may also request free adoption information online.
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