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4 Reasons to Consider Giving a Baby Up for Adoption in Your 40s

Why Adoption Might Be Right for You

When people think about women who place their babies for adoption, it’s not uncommon for women in their teens or early 20s to come to mind. The assumption is that unplanned pregnancies happen only to young women, but that’s not necessarily the case. Women in their 30s and 40s experience unplanned pregnancies, as well, even if you don’t frequently hear about an accidental pregnancy after 40.

If you are a woman in your 40s who isn’t sure what to do about an unexpected pregnancy, you aren’t alone. Other women in their 40s have made the choice to give a baby up for adoption, and it’s a choice you can make, as well. It’s completely okay to feel that you don’t want to be pregnant at 40 — you always have options.

Becoming pregnant later in life doesn’t automatically mean that parenting is your only choice. Like any other woman who unexpectedly becomes pregnant, you have three options: parenting, abortion or adoption. And, it’s just as much your right to consider obtaining an abortion or giving a child up for adoption at age 44 — or any other age — as it is a younger woman’s.

If you aren’t sure what to do, the first question to ask yourself is whether or not you’re ready to parent this baby. Women at 40 that don’t want to be pregnant may choose not to parent their children for any of the following reasons, in addition to many others:

1. You have other children and feel that your family is already complete.

Contrary to popular misconception, many women who choose adoption actually already have other children. It’s not always a question of feeling ready to become a mother but feeling prepared to become a mother again. 

Many women ultimately choose adoption when experiencing an unplanned pregnancy over 40 because they know they do not have enough attention or resources to stretch for another child in the family. If this is the case for you, you already know how expensive raising a baby can be. To raise a child until the age of 18 can cost an average of $233,000!

Adoption is a wonderful way to make sure all of your children — both your new baby and the ones you’re already raising — get the best lives possible. A surprise pregnancy at 40 — or a surprise pregnancy over 40 — doesn’t mean any of your children (or you) have to sacrifice your current lifestyle.

2. You have more responsibility at work.

Gone are the days when you could skate in and out of work without anyone taking much notice. Internships are over, as is school, and it’s likely that you have some responsibility at your job at this point. Of course, it’s absolutely possible to have a baby and continue to succeed at the office, but it’s also true that having a baby means more time off as well as a less flexible schedule. For this reason, you may decide that raising another child is not the best choice for you. With adoption, you can give birth to your child (with financial assistance) and focus on your own quick recovery, knowing that your child is in the care of people who are prepared to be parents.

3. You don’t wish to have a child at this time.

Maybe you have the resources to have another child when you learn about an accidental pregnancy after 40, but you simply don’t want to. It’s okay to feel that your family planning phase is over and you don’t wish to enter back into the era of diapers and erratic sleep. Many women don’t wish to have babies in their 40s simply because they know they’ll be entering their senior years earlier in their child’s lifetime than other parents would be.

Maybe you’d rather just relax instead of taking care of a newborn. It’s completely okay to acknowledge those feelings and to base your decision off them when you realize you’ve become pregnant in your 40s unplanned.

4. You’ve never felt that motherhood was for you.

Not all women wish to be mothers. If you don’t have any children yet and wish to keep it that way, that is completely okay. Never let anyone guilt you for not finding parenthood appealing, whatever your reasons are.

Like any other woman experiencing an unplanned pregnancy who doesn’t wish to parent her child, you have two other options: abortion or adoption. Many women already have a firm stance on whether or not they’d have an abortion, and that is completely up to you. If, however, adoption is something you are considering, it’s important to know some of its biggest benefits:

  • Adopted children are more likely to participate in extracurricular activities or pursue secondary education. Since they are raised in homes that are both emotionally and financially prepared for them, adopted kids have access to endless opportunities.
  • Choosing open adoption allows you to watch your child grow into a happy, healthy and successful young man or woman. Your relationship with your child doesn’t have to end as soon as he or she is born.
  • A child who is adopted gets not one but two sets of parents who love them more than anything and put their interests first.

No matter which option you choose for you and your baby, it’s important that you make healthy choices as you go through your pregnancy. If you fall into the category of a woman experiencing an unexpected pregnancy at 40, it’s crucial that you maintain frequent contact with your doctor to make sure everything progresses smoothly.

If you find that you might be interested in adoption for your baby or wish to learn more about making a plan to place your infant for adoption, please feel free to request information online or call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time. 

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