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Are Babies that are Given up for Adoption Always Adopted? [Private vs. Foster Adoption]

Why There is Always a Loving Family for Every Baby

At American Adoptions, we believe there is a family for every baby. When you work with us to place your baby for adoption, he or she will always be adopted by a loving family — one that will provide him or her an amazing life full of love and opportunity. Your baby will never have to wait for a family. To choose that family (or to just get information), call us now at 1-800-ADOPTION.

Many pregnant women who are considering placing their baby for adoption worry, “Are babies that are given up for adoption always adopted?” That fear may come from a misunderstanding of the adoption process or a concern that something like a health issue with their baby could affect his or her chances of being adopted by a loving family.

All prospective birth parents want the best for their baby. You want your baby to be raised by kind and loving parents, and you want him or her to have the best life possible. After all, that’s why you’re making the difficult and loving choice to place them for adoption! But, you wonder, what if they aren’t adopted? What if nobody adopts your child and they don’t have that life you want for them?

Having fears about putting a child up for adoption but thinking nobody would adopt them is completely understandable. But there’s one big thing we want you to know: When you choose private adoption for your baby, you will always be able to find a loving, safe home for them to thrive in. With hundreds of families to choose from, you will absolutely be able to place your baby directly into the arms of a loving couple who can give your child the life you dreamed of and much more.

Below, we’ve gone into more detail about the difference between private adoption and foster care. But if you’re ready to find the perfect fit, we can help. Give us a call at 1-800-ADOPTION or fill out our online form to get free information today.

Do Children Given Up for Adoption Get Placed into a Family?

Yes! We know that this a big concern for many women who consider adoption, but when you place your baby through an adoption agency like American Adoptions, your baby is always adopted, no matter what. They are always loved. He or she will be placed directly with a family who has been waiting for and dreaming of this child.

Diana, one of our adoptees, talks about the incredible opportunities she had growing up because of her birth parent’s selfless decision:

“...I was reading through that letter [from my parents to prospective birth parents] and it promised the kind of life that [we] would have and all the things that we would do. They would take their kids to national parks, we would go to sporting events we would travel the world, we would participate in the arts, we’d take piano lessons and all sorts of stuff and read books every day and we did every single thing that they promised in that letter.”

The Difference Between Private Adoption and Foster Care

The main reason why so many prospective birth parents wonder how many kids “given up” for adoption actually get adopted is because they confuse private, voluntary adoption with foster care.

In private adoption, you’re voluntarily placing your baby for adoption. You choose:

  • Your adoption professional
  • Your baby’s adoptive parents
  • How much contact you want to have with the adoptive family before, during and after the adoption
  • How you want your time in the hospital for the delivery to go
  • And more

Some prospective birth parents worry, “How many kids who are 'given up' for adoption get placed into foster care?” The answer is: none. When you contact an adoption agency to make a voluntary adoption plan, they’ll work with you to choose waiting adoptive parents who you feel are right for your baby. This means that your baby never goes into state custody, and that he or she is never waiting in a foster home to be adopted. When your baby is born, you can place him or her directly into their parents’ arms.

In foster care adoptions, a child has been removed from their home involuntarily. This means:

  • Children in foster care are usually placed into temporary care while waiting to be reunited with biological family members
  • If children are unable to be reunited with biological family, they’ll become eligible for adoption through foster care
  • Many children, especially kids who are older, part of a bonded sibling group or who have special needs, may struggle to be placed with a permanent adoptive family from their temporary foster care placement

You’ve probably heard about children in foster care who wait years to be adopted by a permanent family. This is probably where most questions like, “How many children go without getting adopted?” come from. Likewise, you’ve probably heard about how many children go without getting adopted from foster care before they turn 18. Placing a child for adoption with an agency is not like that, fortunately. When you work with American Adoptions, your child will have permanent adoptive parents waiting for them.

Your child will never be placed into foster care, and they’ll always have a “forever family.”

You Always Choose the Adoptive Family with American Adoptions

“Are babies that are given up for adoption always adopted by the family the birth mother chooses?”

Yes! Prospective birth parents are the ones who call all the shots in the adoption plan, including choosing adoptive parents. What are you looking for in potential parents for your baby? We can help you find the family that’s right for your child. Here’s how:

  • You’ll talk with your adoption specialist about the kind of family you envision for your child, ensuring that you’ll be shown families who match your preferences.
  •  Your specialist will show you profiles of waiting parents who match what you’re looking for.
  • You can get to know the family of your choosing better through a conference call.
  • You’ll be able to continue communicating with the adoptive family up until the delivery as much as you both feel comfortable with.
  • You can have the adoptive parents as involved as you’d like them to be at the birth of your baby, and they’ll be there to support you and welcome the baby.
  • You can choose to have an open adoption with the adoptive family, so you can always stay in touch.

Not only are babies ‘given up’ for adoption always adopted, they’re immediately placed with a family who has been wishing and waiting for them! And you’re the one who chooses that family. American Adoptions works with a wide selection of families from across the country. And because of our personal adoption experience, we know what makes each adoptive family a great one.

By Choosing Adoption, You’re Choosing a Lifetime of Love for Your Baby

Placing a baby for adoption through an agency is different than a foster care adoption. Your baby will immediately be placed with their forever family.”

Like many birth mothers, Angelica was worried that she wouldn’t find the right family for her baby who could provide the life she always wanted for them.

“She [Rachel, my adoption specialist] told me that whenever I find the right couple, I’ll just know they’re the right ones,” Angelica said.

If you’ve ever had a fear about putting a child up for adoption but nobody would adopt them, you can rest easy. There are hundreds of waiting parents who have been dreaming of meeting you and welcoming your child into their family. View some of their profiles here, or contact us to get more profiles of potential families for your baby now.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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