The adoption is complete. Your baby is with their family. And now you're wondering: what happens next?

Life after giving baby up for adoption is a new chapter. You might feel relief, some sadness, pride, or all of these at once. Every birth mother's experience is different, but you don't have to navigate this alone.

What Happens After I Give My Baby Up for Adoption?

• The legal process continues. In Tennessee, you couldn't sign consent until 72 hours after birth, and you had 10 days to revoke if needed. Once that period passed, the court began processing the final adoption decree, which typically takes several months.
• Your emotional journey begins. These first weeks bring a range of emotions. You might feel proud one moment and miss your baby the next. All of this is part of moving forward.
• Your connection continues. If you chose an open adoption, you'll stay connected through pictures, updates, calls, or visits. Either way, you can know your child is safe and loved.
• We're still here for you. American Adoptions offers free counseling for as long as you need it. Call or text us 24/7 to talk with your adoption specialist.

Post-Adoption Counseling Options for Birth Mothers in Tennessee

American Adoptions offers:

• Free, ongoing counseling with licensed professionals
• 24/7 crisis support when you're struggling
• Help navigating your relationship with the adoptive family
• Connection to local in-person support groups if you want them

Call us anytime at 1-800-ADOPTION. Day or night, someone is here to listen.

We're here even after the adoption is complete. If you'd like to find a local support group or counselor in Tennessee who specializes in adoption, we can help you find the right fit.

The Emotions You May Feel After Placement, And Why They're All Normal

Life after adoption includes a mix of emotions, and that's completely normal.

Grief and sadness. You might miss your daily life with your child, even while knowing they're safe and loved. This is natural and doesn't mean you made the wrong choice.

Relief and peace. Many birth mothers feel relief knowing their baby is with the family they chose. This sense of peace can grow stronger over time.

Pride. You made an incredibly loving decision. Many birth mothers feel proud of their choice and the life they've given their child.

Complex feelings. You might feel multiple emotions at once. This complexity is normal and healthy. Most birth mothers find that with time and support, the difficult moments become less frequent, and the sense of peace grows stronger.

If your emotions feel overwhelming at times, learn the difference between grief and depression so you know when to seek additional help.

Will I Regret Giving My Baby Up for Adoption?

Most birth mothers find peace with their decision over time. You might have moments where you wonder "what if," especially early on. This is natural.

What helps: Seeing updates of your child thriving, remembering your reasons for choosing adoption, and talking with your counselor.

You chose adoption because you wanted the best for your baby. That love and wisdom remain true.

How Long Does It Take to Feel 'Normal' Again?

Everyone's journey is different, but most birth mothers find their rhythm. The first few months are an adjustment. Many birth mothers say they start feeling more like themselves within the first year.

What helps: Regular counseling support, connection with other birth mothers, maintaining your open adoption relationship, and focusing on your goals. Many birth mothers find that life after adoption opens doors they didn't expect.

How to Stay Connected With Your Baby's Adoptive Family After Placement

If you chose an open adoption, this relationship matters. In the first few months, most families send frequent updates. As time goes on, communication might settle into a rhythm like monthly pictures or quarterly visits.

If communication feels off, talk to your adoption specialist. We can help resolve most issues through honest conversation.

How to Talk About the Adoption With People in Your Life

Not everyone will understand, and that's okay.

With friends and family: Be honest about what you need. Let people know it's okay to ask about your baby.

With coworkers: You can say, "I placed the baby for adoption with a wonderful family," and change the subject.

With new relationships: Share your story on your own timeline. The right person will respect your choice.

Parenting After Adoption Placement: How to Support Your Other Children

If you have other children, they're processing this too. Be honest in age-appropriate ways, reassure them that your love is constant, and explain that every situation is different.

If you're considering having another baby after adoption, there's support for those complex emotions.

Returning to Work or School After Adoption

Getting back to your routine is an important step forward. Give yourself time to heal physically. As you return to work or school, you're taking steps toward the goals that adoption made possible.

Real Stories from Birth Mothers Like You

"I am now 29 years old. I have a Master of Art's in Organizational Management. I'm working on publishing my first book. I got married two years ago. I see my son and speak to him as I am involved in an open adoption. I have an incredible life. My son is healthy, happy, and loved."
Lindsay, birth mother

"I knew my life did not stop after adoption. It gave me a second chance to pursue my goals and dreams so that I can be a better version of myself."
Julia, birth mother

Read more stories from birth mothers who have found healing after placement.

Post-Adoption Life for Birth Mothers: Q&A

How do I bring up adoption when starting new relationships?

Share your story on your own terms. When you're ready, be honest. Their reaction will tell you what you need to know.

How do I handle Boundaries with the Adoptive Family?

Boundaries in open adoption naturally shift over time. If something feels off, speak up kindly.

How do I respond to people who judge or don't "get" my decision?

You can say "I'm comfortable with my decision" and change the subject.

Will certain dates, like my baby's birthday or the day of placement, always feel difficult?

These dates can stir up strong emotions. Light a candle, write a letter, or do something meaningful to acknowledge the day.

Will My Child Understand My Decision One Day?

Children in open adoption often grow up understanding their birth mother's love. When they know you chose their family because you wanted the best for them, understanding follows.

We're Still Here for You. Reach Out Anytime

Your journey continues, and we're here to support you. We've seen birth mothers pursue their dreams, build meaningful lives, and find peace with their decisions.

Whether you need someone to talk to, help navigate your relationship with the adoptive family, or connect to counseling resources, we're here.

Call us anytime: 1-800-ADOPTION (available 24/7)
Reach out for support, and we'll connect you with resources

You made a brave, loving choice. Now, let us support you as you build the meaningful life ahead.

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