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Two Months Pregnant and Don’t Want the Baby

Understanding Your Options

You probably just learned something that feels life changing: you’re pregnant. Nearly 2 million women experience unplanned pregnancies every year in America, so you’re not alone. But that doesn’t take away any of the shock from this unexpected development, and it doesn’t make it any easier if you know that you don’t want the baby.

If you are five, six or seven weeks pregnant and don’t want to be pregnant, there are options for you. This unplanned pregnancy doesn’t have to be detrimental, even though it was entirely unexpected. You may be in the middle of pursuing career goals, or money could be too tight to raise a child. Many expectant mothers aren’t sure who the father is, which makes the thought of parenting seem impossible. It’s okay to be six, seven or even eights week pregnant and not want the baby. In fact, it’s completely understandable.

You’re still very early on in your pregnancy — the baby is smaller than a raspberry — so you have time to figure out what’s best for you. This guide will help you understand the options you can choose from during your second month of pregnancy, and give you some practical considerations for making the best choice for your life.

First Things First: Take Care of Yourself

Pregnancy has a significant effect on your body, obviously. Before worrying about your options if you are six or seven weeks pregnant and don’t want to be pregnant, you need to take care of your health. If you haven’t already done so, it’s a good idea to verify your pregnancy with a doctor. After that, schedule your first prenatal checkup. If going to the doctor sounds scary due to finances, check in with local Medicaid providers. It’s important to work with a healthcare professional during a pregnancy if at all possible.

There a couple things to keep in mind during your second month of pregnancy:

  • 5 Weeks Pregnant: This is the most common time to find out you are pregnant, since pregnancy technically starts on the first day of your last period. You’re likely feeling some pregnancy symptoms, like nausea or fatigue.

  • 6 Weeks Pregnant: This is also a common time to find out about pregnancy. It’s important to find a medical professional to work with as your pregnancy progresses.

  • 7 Weeks Pregnant: It seems crazy, but by this time in most pregnancies you can detect a heartbeat. The embryo is really starting to grow!

  • 8 Weeks Pregnant: It’s close to time for your first prenatal checkup. Staying on top of your health during a pregnancy is vitally important.

Five or Six Weeks Pregnant and Don’t Want to Be: Unplanned Pregnancy Options

After you’ve taken care of your health needs, you can start focusing on what to do with your pregnancy. Like we said, you’re still early on when you’ve just found out you’re five or six weeks pregnant and don’t want to be. You have some time to consider all of your options. Regardless of what you choose, this will be one of the more significant decisions in your life so far. You’ll be thankful afterward that you took the time to be completely sure before deciding.

If you are around five weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby, you have three basic options: parenting, abortion and adoption.

  • Parenting: Most women who experience unplanned pregnancies decide to raise the child. If you feel like it’s possible to be a parent, this is usually the first choice. A child is a beautiful opportunity to experience the joys of parenthood. However, we understand that parenting may not be a realistic option for you.

  • Abortion: You have the right to choose abortion anywhere in America. Some states have laws that are more restrictive than others, so researching your state’s laws is important. Depending on where you live, your window of opportunity to choose abortion may be smaller. Many women find that abortion is the best option if they are two months pregnant and don’t want the baby, but there can also be disadvantages.

  • Adoption: For women who know they can’t parent but still want to give their baby a chance to grow up in a loving family, adoption can be the best choice possible. Adoption isn’t always easy, but there are real benefits to choosing it. We’ve heard from many birth mothers about how glad they are that this is the decision they made.

Choosing Adoption for Your Baby

Choosing adoption is a way to take charge of your unplanned pregnancy while doing something that will benefit you, your child and hopeful adoptive parents. The domestic infant adoption process is geared toward the needs of expectant mothers. You will be in charge of the decisions, and an adoption specialist will be available to you — at no cost — to guide you through each step.

Adoption isn’t right for everyone who is six or seven weeks pregnant and doesn’t want the baby, but it could be the best choice for you. Adoption may be right for you if:

  • You aren’t ready to be a mother

  • You still want to give your child a chance to thrive in a family

  • There’s no way for you to financially support a child

  • The timing of your unplanned pregnancy couldn’t be worse

  • You’re too young to be a mother

  • Your family is already complete

These reasons, and many others, lead expectant mothers to choose adoption. There are also benefits to adoption that are worth taking into consideration when you are six, seven or eight weeks pregnant and don’t want the baby. Of course, this decision ultimately comes down to what is best for you, and what is best for the baby. However, it’s important to note some of these benefits, as they could create the optimal situation for your unplanned pregnancy.

You’ll have an opportunity to experience these things and more when you work with American Adoptions. As a full-service national adoption agency who has worked with thousands of expectant mothers for more than 25 years, we are ready to help you complete a successful adoption.

What Happens Next?

You shouldn’t feel pressured into any of the three choices above. This is your life, and only you can decide the best route for your future. You still have time when you are two months pregnant and don’t want the baby.

A helpful next step can be to speak with a professional. You can call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time to speak with a specialist who will help you understand all of your options, not just adoption. You can also request more free information to help inform you choice.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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