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Abortion or Adoption - Know the Facts Before Making a Decision

Choosing the Path that's Right for You

“Abortion is fast and painless. A clean break. An easy way out. No one will ever have to know of my pregnancy.”

Some women facing an unplanned pregnancy believe the statement above to be true, but the reality is much more complicated.

Abortion is obviously a sensitive subject, and you might expect an adoption agency to gloss over the fact that it’s an unplanned pregnancy option in the first place, but this isn’t the case at American Adoptions. Abortion certainly is an option for you, and there’s no shame in considering it. This article is not intended to convince you that adoption is “better” than abortion, nor is it meant to persuade you to choose adoption instead of abortion. You are the only person who knows what is best in your situation, and choosing abortion or adoption is a decision that only you can make.

We do hope, however, that you’ll consider some of the following information about adoption vs. abortion before you make any decisions. Please know that you can always call American Adoptions at 1-800-ADOPTION to discuss your options as well. An adoption specialist can help you explore all of your options — including abortion, adoption and parenting — so you can make a fully informed decision about what’s best for you.

Abortion or Adoption?

Planned Parenthood’s most recent report states that from Oct. 1, 2015, to Sept. 30, 2016, the organization performed 321,384 abortions and only 3,889 adoption referrals. That equals just 1 adoption for every 149 abortions. Clearly, more women choose abortion versus adoption, but why?

It is common for women to believe abortion is a “quick fix” to a big problem. They often believe abortion is cheaper, more confidential, and better for their long-term wellbeing, when in reality that is not necessarily the case — they don’t understand the facts about adoption. Adoption is free, confidential, and can be an amazing long-term solution to an unplanned pregnancy.

If you are considering abortion vs. adoption, here is a brief comparison of the two:

Cost

Abortion costs range from hundreds to thousands of dollars, depending on your provider and your stage of pregnancy. Health insurance may cover abortion costs to some degree, but there are a number of legal restrictions on insurance coverage, and the availability of this option may vary on a case-by-case basis.

Conversely, not only is adoption free, but you may also receive living expenses from the adoptive family to help you cover pregnancy-related expenses such as rent, food, utilities, transportation, maternity clothing, a cell phone and more.

Confidentiality

Some women choose abortion over adoption because it can be done confidentially. What they may not realize is an adoption can also be completed confidentially, where a woman’s family, friends and community won’t know about it. Any information you share with American Adoptions is strictly confidential, and your adoption specialist can help you maintain as much privacy as you’d like during your pregnancy and adoption plan. There is always a solution of keeping one’s pregnancy and adoption private, should you feel the need to do so.

Long-Term Wellbeing 

Both abortion and adoption are emotionally difficult choices for a woman to make. With adoption, however, a woman can be reassured of her decision for years to come through a continued relationship with her child. Through an open adoption, she can see the smile on her child’s face through pictures or even in person. She will get to know about and be a part of all the amazing things her child goes on to do, and she will always be reminded of the incredible gift she gave to another family by choosing adoption for her baby.

Women who choose abortion don’t have the same opportunities, which can make it more difficult to come to terms with their decision. It’s possible that a woman may question or doubt her abortion decision long after the procedure, and it’s important to be aware of the potential psychological effects of abortion. It's also important to note that 95 percent of women who choose adoption do not regret their decision in the long-term, although they may still cope with difficult emotions right after the procedure.

Again, neither abortion nor adoption are easy choices to make, but abortion isn’t always the emotional “quick fix” women sometimes believe they are signing up for.

The Facts About Adoption

While adoption and abortion are both difficult choices, some women think abortion will be the easiest and quickest solution to their unplanned pregnancy. One reason they don’t ever consider adoption is simply because they don’t understand the facts about this unplanned pregnancy option.

Today’s adoptions are much different from those in the past and those sometimes portrayed in the media. If you choose adoption, you are in control of the adoption process and get to choose the adoptive family who will raise your child. You will get to choose what type of post-adoption contact you want to have and maintain a relationship with the family and your child.

And as mentioned before, your adoption services are completely free, and you may also be eligible to receive living expenses to help you with your pregnancy.

By choosing adoption after considering abortion or giving your kid up for adoption, you are not “giving up” on your child. Instead, you’re giving your baby the gift of a wonderful childhood, adoptive parents who may otherwise have no opportunity a chance at becoming parents, and yourself a better chance of moving on from this difficult time in your life.

We here at American Adoptions like to believe that if more women knew the facts about adoption, the ratio of abortions vs. adoptions would be much lower than 149:1. Adoption is certainly not for everyone, but neither is abortion. Choosing adoption rather than abortion can have many benefits for you in addition to providing your child with the opportunity for a happy and healthy life. Whichever choice you end up making, American Adoptions will alway respect your decision.

If you're thinking, "I don't want to be pregnant, but I don't want an abortion," please call us confidentially at 1-800-ADOPTION with no obligation for more adoption facts and for free adoption information.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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