Finding an Adoptive Family in Kansas: 5 Questions You Have
Your Guide to Finding the Perfect Family for Your Baby
When you choose adoption, you get to make all of the important decisions because you are in charge of your adoption. That means you get to:
Decide what you want your adoption to look like
Work with your adoption professional and create an adoption plan
Choose the adoptive family for your child
As a national adoption agency, American Adoptions works with women who are pregnant and looking for adoptive parents in Kansas, as well as couples looking to adopt in Kansas and throughout the U.S. That means that we can help you find the perfect adoptive parents for your baby from a national pool of people, rather than just adoptive parents in Kansas — giving you a better chance of finding the family that really feels right for you.
We know that when you choose adoption, you are not "giving up" on your baby. You have hopes and dreams for them, and finding the adoptive parents who are most likely to turn those dreams to reality is very important.
But how do you actually go about finding that perfect fit, and how can American Adoptions help? Here, find answers to these and other common questions expectant mothers have about finding adoptive parents in Kansas.
If you’re ready to speak to an adoption professional to begin searching for the perfect adoptive family for your baby, our agency is here to help. You can call us anytime and speak with an adoption professional at 1-800-ADOPTION, get free information online or view current waiting families for adoption.
Hopeful adoptive families wanting information on how to adopt a child can contact us by filling out this form.
1. Can you pick who adopts your baby? [You Get to Make the Important Decision in Your Adoption]
Absolutely. You have full control over the adoption process, including choosing an adoptive family waiting to adopt in Kansas or anywhere else in the U.S.
When you ultimately find the perfect family, the impact you’re making on their lives by giving them the chance to adopt a child is not only rewarding for you, but also life-changing for the adoptive family. After AJ and Jenna were chosen to be adoptive parents, the opportunity to bring a child into their home through adoption was truly a gift.
“It’s one of the greatest gifts anybody has given me — to choose me to be a father,” AJ said. “I don’t think we could ever repay her enough… It’s the coolest, most unselfish gift anybody can give you.”
2. How can you find adoptive parents in Kansas? [Hundreds of Hopeful Adoptive Couples are Available]
When you work with American Adoptions, we’ll guide you through every step of the process to find adoptive parents for your baby, including:
Step 1: Make an adoption plan. First, your adoption specialist will work with you to create an adoption plan, which will help her better understand what you’re looking for in the ideal adoptive family. You will think about the things that are most important to you — for example, do you want your baby to be raised with certain religious values? Do you want them to have siblings? — and she’ll be able to use this information to select profiles of families who may be a good fit for your adoption plan.
Step 2: View adoptive family profiles. Your adoption specialist will show you profiles of people who want to adopt a baby in KS (and other states) who are a good match for your adoption goals and preferences. You’ll get to learn more about them through written text, pictures, and even video profiles.
Step 3: Get to know adoptive parents. When a family’s profile stands out to you, your adoption specialist can put you in touch with them through a mediated phone call. This will give you the opportunity to get to know them better and ask any questions you need to determine whether they’re a good fit for you and your baby. If it feels like a good fit after that call, you can continue to build a relationship with them through the rest of your adoption process in whatever ways you’re most comfortable, whether that’s phone calls, email, text messages or even an in-person visit.
3. What should I look for in adoptive families? [You Can Choose Everything About an Adoptive Family]
With so many adoptive parents to choose from, how do you know which family is right for you?
When you envision the kind of life you want your baby to have, what do you see? This vision of your child’s future will be used to help you choose the right adoptive parents for your baby. Each adoption is unique, and it’s up to you which factors to value as you are looking for adoptive parents in Kansas and around the country. Here are some things to consider:
Where do you picture them growing up: in an urban, suburban, or rural environment? Near the ocean or mountains? Somewhere with exciting museums and fantastic schools nearby? In a small town? Do you want to choose adoptive parents in Kansas, surrounding states, or somewhere across the country?
Do you want them to grow up with siblings, or do you picture them as an only child? Do you picture them having older sisters or maybe younger brothers?
Do you envision them growing up around pets? In a home of dog-lovers, or will they grow up cuddling a pet cat?
What are their parents like? What do they enjoy doing together? What are their quirks and hobbies? What values will they pass on to your child?
How much contact do you want to maintain after the adoption? Yearly or monthly letters or emails? Phone calls or texts? Do you want to arrange visits for them to come to Kansas?
Having an image of the future you want for your baby will help you to choose the right parents for them. In order to choose the right parents, you have to have the best options. That’s why it is so important to work with a large, national agency like American Adoptions. Because we work with so many families at once, you can find parents who truly fulfill your dreams for your baby. Once you find them, many birth mothers go on to have an incredibly close relationship with their children’s adoptive families.
To begin viewing family profiles or get more information on how to find an adoptive family, contact one of our adoption professionals for free at 1-800-ADOPTION, or fill out our online contact form here.
4. How will I know when I’ve found the right family for my baby?
This is a concern on the mind of many women who are in the beginning stages of creating an adoption plan. The answer is surprisingly simple: you’ll likely just know.
Your adoption specialist will listen to what you want for your adoption, and then show you some adoption profiles of families that fit what you’re looking for. These people who want to adopt want the same level of post-adoption contact as you do, they’re able to help support you financially during your pregnancy, and their dream adoption looks very much like yours.
When you see an adoption profile of prospective adoptive parents that makes you excited for your baby’s future, then it’s time to take the next step to see if this family is the right fit for you. Here’s how this works:
Your adoption specialist will arrange a conference call, where you and the adoptive family will get to know each other. You can ask questions, chat, and tell them about yourself. Even if this family looking to adopt doesn’t live in Kansas, you can continue to communicate through emails, phone calls, and more. If they live nearby, you may be able to arrange an in-person meeting with your adoption specialist.
Birth mother Randi remembers when she matched with her adoptive family and the feeling of knowing she found the perfect adoptive parents for her child.
“When we got matched with them, it was like an instant connection,” she said. “If I wanted to talk one week, they would talk to me. If I didn’t, if my emotions were just too strong, they were like, ‘Ok, let’s talk next week,’” she says.
At the Hospital
For many birth and adoptive families who live in separate states, the first time you meet face-to-face is when your baby is born. They’ll travel to your hospital in Kansas as soon as you go into labor, so they can be as involved as you’d like them to be in the delivery and you can spend time together before and after the baby is born.
After your baby is born and you place them with the adoptive parents, you can continue to communicate with them however you both feel comfortable through an open adoption. Because most adoptions are open, you may request a prospective adoptive family who is willing to travel for future visits, so they may come to Kansas to visit even if they live out of state.
Caitlin, a birth mother having placed a child for adoption through our agency, can’t imagine not having an open adoption and connection with the adoptive family.
“Knowing that I can be around and be there — I don’t even know how to put it into words… I’m like a cheerleader on the sideline, and that’s more than I could have asked for,” she said of her open adoption relationship. “He gets this family who can take care of him and do everything I couldn’t, but he can also know that I didn’t just give him away. I had a purpose for him, and it was meant to be.”
You can view open adoption family profiles here.
5. What if I already know people who want to adopt in Kansas? [An Adoption Agency Can Help]
We can help you with that, too.
Whether these hopeful parents live in Kansas or across state lines, we can help you complete your adoption safely and provide you with professional counseling, medical, legal, and financial resources so that you, the adoptive parents, and your baby are taken care of throughout the adoption process and beyond. Even if you already know your baby’s future adoptive parents, it’s recommended that you complete your adoption through a professional agency so that you have access to pre- and post-placement services.
To learn more about finding adoptive parents in Kansas or to begin the process of looking for adoptive parents, contact an adoption specialist now at 1-800-ADOPTION. Calling to ask questions and get information is free, confidential, and doesn’t obligate you to move forward with an adoption plan.
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